Reports on weeping

Sayyiduna Mu'adh bin Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) sent him to Yemen, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) went out with him. Sayyiduna Mu'adh (may Allah be pleased with him) was mounted at the time, and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was walking beside his mount. He said: "O Mu'adh! It may be that after this year of mine you will not meet me, and you will pass by my grave and my mosque." Sayyiduna Mu'adh (may Allah be pleased with him) began to weep out of grief at parting from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O Mu'adh! Do not weep, for weeping is from Shaytan."
Al-Bazzar recorded it, and its narrators are thiqat (trustworthy).
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir.

Sayyidah Aishah Siddiqah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates: When Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Abi Bakr passed away, people began weeping over him. Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) came out and said: "I offer you an excuse on behalf of these people, for they are close to the time of Ignorance (Jahiliyyah). I heard the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) say: 'Hot water is sprinkled on the deceased because of the weeping of the living.'"
Al-Bazzar and Abu Ya'la recorded it. Its chain contains a narrator, Muhammad bin al-Hasan bin Zubalah, and he is da'if (weak).

Sayyiduna Samurah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The deceased is punished because of the weeping of the living."
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir. Its chain contains a narrator, Umar bin Ibrahim al-Ansari; he has been criticised, and he is thiqah (trustworthy).

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reports this saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): "The deceased is punished because of the weeping of the living."
Abu Ya'la recorded it. Its chain contains a narrator whom I have not found anyone mentioning.

Hajib bin Umar narrates: I went with al-Hakam bin al-A'raj to Bakr bin Abdullah al-Muzani. They began discussing the matter of the deceased being punished because of the weeping of the living. Bakr bin Abdullah al-Muzani narrated a hadith to us; he told us: One of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) narrated this hadith to us, and Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said the contrary. He told us: Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) says: "If a man sets out to fight in the way of Allah, and is then killed as a martyr in some remote part of the earth, and then his wife, out of foolishness and ignorance, weeps over him, will this martyr be punished because of this foolish woman's weeping over him?" A man then said: "The Messenger of Allah spoke the truth, and Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said what was wrong."
Abu Ya'la recorded it, and its chain contains a narrator who is not known.

Abu al-Rabi' narrates: I attended a funeral with Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both). I heard the sound of a person crying out loudly. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) sent word to him and had him silenced. I asked: "O Abu Abd al-Rahman, why did you have him silenced?" He said: "The reason is that the deceased is hurt by this (weeping) until the deceased enters the grave."
Ahmad recorded it. Its chain contains a narrator, Abu Shu'bah al-Tahhan, and he is matruk (abandoned).

Sayyiduna Rabi' al-Ansari (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came to visit the nephew of Jabr al-Ansari while he was ill. His family began weeping over him, so Jabr said to them: "Do not hurt the Messenger of Allah with your voices." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Let these women weep as long as he is alive; when it becomes due (that is, when he dies), then these women should be silent." (Allamah al-Haythami says:) I say:
This narration will come in full in the chapter on Jihad, if Allah wills.
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, and its narrators are thiqat (trustworthy).

Sayyidah Asma bint Umays (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates: When Sayyiduna Ja'far (may Allah be pleased with him) was martyred, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came to us and said: "Keep wearing mourning clothes for three days, then do as you wish."

In one narration the words are: She narrates: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came to me on the third day after the martyrdom of Sayyiduna Ja'far (may Allah be pleased with him) and said: "Do not mourn after this day of yours."
Ahmad recorded all of these narrations, and al-Tabarani recorded some of them in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir. The narrators of Ahmad are the narrators of the Sahih.

Sayyidah Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates: Sayyidah Asma (may Allah be pleased with her) wept over Sayyiduna Hamzah (may Allah be pleased with him) and Sayyiduna Ja'far (may Allah be pleased with him) for three days. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered her to wipe away her tears and apply kohl.
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir. Its chain contains a narrator, al-Hajjaj bin Artah, and he has been criticised. The rest of its narrators are the narrators of the Sahih.

Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) narrates: When Sayyiduna Uthman bin Maz'un (may Allah be pleased with him) passed away, his wife said: "O Uthman bin Maz'un, congratulations to you on Paradise!" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) looked at that woman in anger and said: "How do you know?" The woman said: "O Messenger of Allah! He was your horseman and he was your companion." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I am the Messenger of Allah, yet I do not know on my own what will be done with me." So the people became worried about Sayyiduna Uthman (may Allah be pleased with him). When Sayyidah Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her), the daughter of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), passed away, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said (that is, addressing her body): "Join our best predecessor, Uthman bin Maz'un." The women began to weep. Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) wanted to strike them with a stick, but the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took hold of his hand and said: "Leave it, O Umar." Then he said: "Weep, but beware of making noises like Satan." Then he said: "Whatever comes from the heart and the eye is from Allah Almighty and comes from mercy, and whatever comes from the hand and the tongue is from Satan."
Ahmad recorded it. Its chain contains a narrator, Ali bin Zayd; he has been criticised, and he has also been declared trustworthy. In one narration these words are added: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) sat down at the edge of the grave, and Sayyidah Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) was weeping at his side. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) began wiping (the tears of) Sayyidah Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) with his garment, out of mercy for her ((he (peace and blessings be upon him)) did so).

Sayyiduna Abd al-Rahman bin Awf (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took my hand, and I went with him to his son, Sayyiduna Ibrahim (may Allah be pleased with him), who was breathing his last. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took him and placed him in his lap until his soul departed. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) put him down and began to weep. I said: "O Messenger of Allah! Are you weeping, while you forbid weeping?" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I have not been forbidden from weeping; rather, I have been forbidden from two foolish and wicked sounds: the sound made at a time of blessing, in the form of amusement, play and the flutes of Satan; and the sound made at a time of calamity, in the form of slapping faces and tearing the fronts of garments. This (that is, mere weeping) is mercy, and whoever does not show mercy is not shown mercy. O Ibrahim, were it not a true promise and a true word, and that the last of us will soon join the first, we would have grieved for you with a grief more intense than this. O Ibrahim, we are grieved for you. The eye weeps and the heart grieves, but we will not say anything that angers the Lord."
Abu Ya'la and al-Bazzar recorded it. Its chain contains a narrator, Muhammad bin Abd al-Rahman bin Abi Layla, and he has been criticised.

Sayyiduna Abu Umamah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: When the son of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) passed away, a man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) while tears were flowing from the eyes of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). He said: "O Prophet of Allah! Are you weeping over this child? By the One who sent you with the truth, in the time of Ignorance I buried twelve of my children, all of them older than him, and I buried all of them alive in the ground." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "What can be done if mercy has departed from you? The heart grieves and the eye weeps, and we do not say anything that angers the Lord. We are grieved for Ibrahim."
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir. Its chain contains a narrator, Ali bin Yazid al-Alhani, and he is da'if (weak).

Sayyiduna al-Sa'ib bin Yazid (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: When the son of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), Sayyiduna Tahir (may Allah be pleased with him), passed away, tears flowed from the eyes of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). It was said: "O Messenger of Allah! Are you weeping?" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The eye sheds tears, the tears are beyond control, and the heart grieves, but we are not disobeying Allah Almighty."
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir. Its chain contains a narrator, Yahya bin Yazid bin Abd al-Malik al-Nawfali, and he is da'if (weak).

Sayyiduna Abd al-Rahman bin Awf (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: A daughter of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) sent him a message that her daughter was about to die. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to the messenger: "Tell her: whatever Allah Almighty takes back belongs to Him, and whatever He gives also belongs to Him." That daughter sent him a message a second time, and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said the same thing again. She sent him a message a third time, so the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) went to her along with some of his Companions. She held the little girl out towards him, and the girl's breath was rattling in her chest. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was moved with tenderness for her and tears flowed from his eyes. When tears flowed from his eyes, some of his Companions who were looking at him were surprised. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: "What are you looking at? This is the mercy of Allah Almighty, which He places wherever He wills, and Allah Almighty shows mercy to those of His servants who are merciful."
Al-Bazzar recorded it, and al-Tabarani recorded something similar in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, except that he related these words: "Sayyidah Umamah bint Abi al-As (may Allah be pleased with her) was near her final moments, so Sayyidah Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her), the daughter of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), sent him a message." Its chain contains a narrator, al-Walid bin Ibrahim bin Abd al-Rahman bin Awf; I have not found anyone mentioning him.

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: When the condition of a son of Sayyidah Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) became grave, she sent a message to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) calling him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said (to the messenger): "Go back; whatever He takes back belongs to Him, and whatever He lets remain also belongs to Him, and everyone has a fixed term." When the boy's time drew near, Sayyidah Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) sent a message to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to us: "Get up!" When he sat down, he began reciting this verse: "Why then, when it (the soul) reaches the throat, and you are at that moment looking on". Until the boy passed away, and tears flowed from the eyes of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). Sayyiduna Sa'd (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "O Messenger of Allah! Are you weeping while you forbid weeping?" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "This is mercy, and Allah Almighty shows mercy to those of His servants who are merciful."
Al-Bazzar recorded it. Its chain contains a narrator, Isma'il bin Musa al-Makki; he has been criticised, and he has also been declared trustworthy.

Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) narrates: A daughter of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was near her final moments. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) hugged her to himself and held her against his chest, and tears were flowing from his eyes. Sayyidah Umm Ayman (may Allah be pleased with her) also began to weep. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "You are weeping, while the Messenger of Allah is present with you?" Sayyidah Umm Ayman (may Allah be pleased with her) said: "Why should I not weep, when the Messenger of Allah is weeping too?" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I am not weeping; rather, this is mercy. I looked at her in this state, while her soul was departing."
Al-Bazzar recorded it, and its chain contains a narrator, Ata' bin al-Sa'ib, who suffered from confusion in his memory (ikhtilat) (that is, he was declared da'if (weak) because of his confusion).

Salim Abu al-Nadr narrates: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came to Sayyiduna Uthman bin Maz'un (may Allah be pleased with him) while he was dying. On the order of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), he was covered with a cloth. Sayyiduna Uthman (may Allah be pleased with him) was staying with a woman of the Ansar who was called Umm Mu'adh. That woman narrates: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) remained bent over him for a long time, and his Companions were with him. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) moved back and began to weep. When he wept, the people of the household also began to weep. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O Abu al-Sa'ib! May Allah Almighty have mercy on you." The narrator says: Al-Sa'ib had taken part in the Battle of Badr with him. The narrator says: Umm Mu'adh said: "O Abu al-Sa'ib, congratulations to you on Paradise!" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O Umm Mu'adh, how do you know? As for him, certainty (death) has come to him, and we know nothing but good." Sayyidah Umm Mu'adh (may Allah be pleased with her) said: "No, by Allah, after him I will never say this about anyone."
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir.
This narration is mursal, and its narrators are thiqat (trustworthy).

Sayyiduna Jabir bin Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with them both) narrates: On the day of Uhud, the polytheists killed his father, then they mutilated him and cut off his nose and ears. Sayyiduna Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: I looked at him and at what the polytheists had done to him, and I cried out. The Ansar came and covered his body with a cloth. Then I uncovered the cloth, and when I saw what had been done to him I cried out, and the Ansar came and covered him with the cloth. Sayyiduna Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: All of this was happening before the eyes of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). Then the Ansar went and came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah! Do you not see what Jabir is doing?" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Leave him."
(Allamah al-Haythami says:) I say: After this he mentioned the complete hadith, and part of it is reported in the Sahih.
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, and its narrators are thiqat (trustworthy).

Sayyiduna A'idh bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: I took part in a military expedition with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). When we were returning, the wife of a man began to weep; that man had taken part in the battle with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and had attained martyrdom. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: "Who is this weeping woman?" He was told: "Fatimah bint Ali." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) turned towards Sayyiduna A'idh bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with him), then married that woman to him, and enjoined him (to take good care) of her.
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, and it contains unknown (majhul) narrators.

Abdullah bin Yazid says: Permission has been given to weep without wailing.
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, and its chain is hasan (good).

Amir bin Sa'd narrates: I entered a shelter (arish), and Sayyiduna Qarazah bin Ka'b (may Allah be pleased with him) and Sayyiduna Abu Mas'ud al-Ansari (may Allah be pleased with him) were there. The narrator says: Then he mentioned a hadith from the two of them, in which they said: "We have been given permission to weep at a time of calamity without wailing."
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, and its narrators are the narrators of the Sahih.

Sayyidah Umm Ishaq (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates: I set out with my brother to emigrate to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in Madinah. On the way my brother said to me: "O Umm Ishaq! Stay seated here; I have forgotten my provisions in Makkah." I said: "I fear for you from my wicked husband." He said: "No, if Allah wills (nothing will happen)." Sayyidah Umm Ishaq (may Allah be pleased with her) says: I stayed there for some days. Then a man passed by me whom I knew, but I do not name him. He said: "O Umm Ishaq, why are you sitting here?" Sayyidah Umm Ishaq replied: "I am waiting for Ishaq; he has gone to Makkah to fetch his provisions." The man said: "Ishaq cannot come back to you; your wicked husband caught up with him and killed him." Sayyidah Umm Ishaq (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates: Then I came and presented myself before the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and he was performing ablution (wudu) at that time. I said: "O Messenger of Allah! Ishaq has been killed." I was weeping, and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was looking at me. When I looked at him, he lowered his head, took a palmful of water and sprinkled it on my face. The narrator Bashshar says: My grandmother says: Even when a great calamity struck us, tears could be seen in her eyes, but they would not reach her cheek.
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Awsat. Its chain contains a narrator, Bashshar bin Abd al-Malik, whom Yahya bin Ma'in declared da'if (weak).

Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Utbah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: When Sayyiduna Utbah bin Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) passed away, Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) began to weep. People said: "You are weeping?" He said: "Yes. He is my full brother, he was my companion with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and he is the dearest person to me, except that the case of Sayyiduna Umar bin al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) is different (that is, I love him more)."
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Awsat. In al-Mu'jam al-Kabir he recorded a similar narration and added these words: "Even so, I would not like to have died before him, because that he should die and I hope for reward through him is dearer to me than that I should die and he hope for reward through me." The narrators of this narration are thiqat (trustworthy).

Sayyidah Umm Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with her), the wife of Sayyiduna Abu Musa al-Ash'ari (may Allah be pleased with him), narrates: Sayyiduna Abu Musa al-Ash'ari (may Allah be pleased with him) fell ill. I began weeping beside him and was told to stop. He said: "Let her shed tears, even if it is one bucketful or two bucketfuls." After this the narrator mentioned the complete narration.
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir.

Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) narrates: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Weeping may be done over one of two kinds of people: a sinner whose wickedness is complete, or a righteous person whose righteousness is complete."
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Awsat. Its chain contains a narrator, Rishdin bin Sa'd, and he has been criticised.

Sayyidah Aishah Siddiqah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates: I came to Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) and saw that he was near death. I said: "Stir him, stir him, whose tears cannot be concealed; in the end, one is buried once." Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "Do not say this! Rather, recite: 'And the stupor of death has come with the truth; that is what you used to flee from.'"
Abu Ya'la recorded it, and the narrators of its chain are the narrators of the Sahih.