المطالب العالية بزوائد المسانيد الثمانية
Al-Matalib al-'Aliyah
كتاب الوليمة
Book of the Wedding Feast
بَابُ حَقٌّ الزوج عَلَى الْمَرْأَةِ
The husband's right over the wife
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قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُدَ : حَدَّثَنَا جَرِيرٌ ، عَنْ لَيْثٍ ، عَنْ عَطَاءٍ ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنَّهُ أَتَتْهُ امْرَأَةٌ فَقَالَتْ : مَا حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى امْرَأَتِهِ ؟ فَقَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " لَا تَمْنَعُهُ نَفْسَهَا وَإِنْ كَانَتْ عَلَى ظَهْرِ قَتَبٍ ، وَلَا تُعْطِي مِنْ بَيْتِهِ شَيْئًا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ ، فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ ذَلِكَ كَانَ لَهُ الْأَجْرُ وَعَلَيْهَا الْوِزْرُ . وَلَا تَصُومُ يَوْمًا تَطَوُّعًا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ ، فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ ذَلِكَ أَثِمَتْ وَلَمْ تُؤْجَرْ . وَلَا تَخْرُجُ مِنْ بَيْتِهِ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ ، فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلَائِكَةُ : مَلَائِكَةُ الْغَضَبِ ، وَمَلَائِكَةُ الرَّحْمَةِ ، حَتَّى تَتُوبَ أَوْ تَرْجِعَ " . قِيلَ : وَإِنْ كَانَ ظَالِمًا ؟ قَالَ : " وَإِنْ كَانَ ظَالِمًا " .
1664 \ 2 - وَقَالَ مُسَدَّدٌ : حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَاحِدِ بْنُ زِيَادٍ ، نَبَا لَيْثٌ ، فَذَكَرَهُ ، وَقَالَ بَعْدَ قَوْلِهِ : " إِنْ كَانَ ظَالِمًا " : فَقَالَتْ : وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ نَبِيًّا ، لَا يَمْلِكُ عَلَيَّ أَمْرِي رَجُلٌ أَبَدًا .
1664 \ 3 - وَقَالَ أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ : حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحِيمِ هُوَ ابْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ ، عَنْ لَيْثٍ ، فَذَكَرَ مِثْلَ حَدِيثِ عَبْدِ الْوَاحِدِ .
1664 \ 4 - وَقَالَ عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ : حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ، ثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ ، عَنْ قُطْبَةَ ، عَنْ لَيْثٍ ، فَذَكَرَ نَحْوَ الْأَوَّلِ ، وَلَمْ يَقُلْ : قِيلَ : وَإِنْ كَانَ ظَالِمًا ... إِلَى آخِرِهِ .
1664 \ 5 - قَالَ أَبُو يَعْلَى : حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرٌ ، ثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الطُّفَاوِيُّ ، ثَنَا لَيْثٌ ، عَنْ عَطَاءٍ ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا ، قَالَ : سَأَلَتِ امْرَأَةٌ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ... فَذَكَرَ نَحْوَهُ بِسِيَاقِ جَرِيرٍ دُونَ الزِّيَادَةِ فِي آخِرِهِ .
وَهَذَا الِاخْتِلَافُ مِنْ لَيْثِ بْنِ أَبِي سُلَيْمٍ ، وَهُوَ ضَعِيفٌ .
1664 \ 2 - وَقَالَ مُسَدَّدٌ : حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَاحِدِ بْنُ زِيَادٍ ، نَبَا لَيْثٌ ، فَذَكَرَهُ ، وَقَالَ بَعْدَ قَوْلِهِ : " إِنْ كَانَ ظَالِمًا " : فَقَالَتْ : وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ نَبِيًّا ، لَا يَمْلِكُ عَلَيَّ أَمْرِي رَجُلٌ أَبَدًا .
1664 \ 3 - وَقَالَ أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ : حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحِيمِ هُوَ ابْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ ، عَنْ لَيْثٍ ، فَذَكَرَ مِثْلَ حَدِيثِ عَبْدِ الْوَاحِدِ .
1664 \ 4 - وَقَالَ عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ : حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ، ثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ ، عَنْ قُطْبَةَ ، عَنْ لَيْثٍ ، فَذَكَرَ نَحْوَ الْأَوَّلِ ، وَلَمْ يَقُلْ : قِيلَ : وَإِنْ كَانَ ظَالِمًا ... إِلَى آخِرِهِ .
1664 \ 5 - قَالَ أَبُو يَعْلَى : حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرٌ ، ثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الطُّفَاوِيُّ ، ثَنَا لَيْثٌ ، عَنْ عَطَاءٍ ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا ، قَالَ : سَأَلَتِ امْرَأَةٌ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ... فَذَكَرَ نَحْوَهُ بِسِيَاقِ جَرِيرٍ دُونَ الزِّيَادَةِ فِي آخِرِهِ .
وَهَذَا الِاخْتِلَافُ مِنْ لَيْثِ بْنِ أَبِي سُلَيْمٍ ، وَهُوَ ضَعِيفٌ .
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that a woman came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and asked: What is the husband's right over his wife? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "She should not refuse herself to him even if she is on a camel's saddle; she should not give anything (in charity) from his house without his permission, and if she does so, the reward will go to the husband and the sin will be upon her; she should not observe any voluntary fast without his permission, and if she does so, she will be sinful and will receive no reward; and she should not go out of his house without his permission, and if she does so, the angels, that is, the angels of wrath and the angels of mercy, will keep cursing her until she repents or returns." It was said: Even if the husband is unjust? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Yes, even if he is unjust."
Musaddad, in the report from Layth through Abd al-Wahid bin Ziyad, mentioned this addition: on hearing this, the woman said: By the One who sent you as a Prophet with the truth! No man will ever have authority over me (that is, I will not marry at all). A similar report has also been narrated by Abu Bakr bin Abi Shaybah from Layth through Abd al-Rahim bin Sulayman; while Abd bin Humayd narrated from Abu Bakr bin Abi Shaybah, he through Abu Mu'awiyah from Qutbah, and he from Layth, with wording like the first report, but without mention of the sentence "even if he is unjust". Imam Abu Ya'la narrated through Zuhayr and Muhammad bin Abd al-Rahman al-Tufawi from Layth, and he through Ata' from Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both), that a woman asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him); then he narrated the whole hadith like that of Jarir, but did not mention the additional words at its end.
According to the hadith scholars, all this variation in the chain is due to Layth bin Abi Sulaym, and he is a da'if (weak) narrator.
Musaddad, in the report from Layth through Abd al-Wahid bin Ziyad, mentioned this addition: on hearing this, the woman said: By the One who sent you as a Prophet with the truth! No man will ever have authority over me (that is, I will not marry at all). A similar report has also been narrated by Abu Bakr bin Abi Shaybah from Layth through Abd al-Rahim bin Sulayman; while Abd bin Humayd narrated from Abu Bakr bin Abi Shaybah, he through Abu Mu'awiyah from Qutbah, and he from Layth, with wording like the first report, but without mention of the sentence "even if he is unjust". Imam Abu Ya'la narrated through Zuhayr and Muhammad bin Abd al-Rahman al-Tufawi from Layth, and he through Ata' from Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both), that a woman asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him); then he narrated the whole hadith like that of Jarir, but did not mention the additional words at its end.
According to the hadith scholars, all this variation in the chain is due to Layth bin Abi Sulaym, and he is a da'if (weak) narrator.
وَقَالَ مُسَدَّدٌ : حَدَّثَنَا خَالِدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ ، نَبَا حُسَيْنُ بْنُ قَيْسٍ ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ : إِنَّ امْرَأَةً مِنْ خَثْعَمَ أَتَتِ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَتْ : يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ، إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ أَيِّمٌ ، فَأَخْبِرْنِي مَا حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ ؟ فَقَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " إِنَّ حَقَّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ إِنْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى ظَهْرِ بَعِيرٍ أَنْ لَا تَمْنَعَهُ ، وَمِنْ حَقِّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ أَنْ لَا تَصُومَ يَوْمًا تَطَوُّعًا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ ، فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ جَاعَتْ وَعَطِشَتْ ، وَلَمْ يُقْبَلْ مِنْهَا .
وَمِنْ حَقِّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ أَنْ لَا تُعْطِيَ شَيْئًا مِنْ بَيْتِهِ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ ، فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ كَانَ الْأَجْرُ لِغَيْرِهَا وَالشَّقَاءُ عَلَيْهَا . وَمِنْ حَقِّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى الزَّوْجَةِ أَنْ لَا تَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ ، فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ لَعَنَتْهَا مَلَائِكَةُ السَّمَاءِ ، وَمَلَائِكَةُ الرَّحْمَةِ ، وَمَلَائِكَةُ الْعَذَابِ ، حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ أَوْ تَتُوبَ " .
1665 \ 2 - وَقَالَ أَبُو يَعْلَى : حَدَّثَنَا وَهْبُ بْنُ بَقِيَّةَ .
1665 \ 3 - وَقَالَ الْبَزَّارُ : حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ الْقُرَشِيُّ ، قَالَ : نَبَا خَالِدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ ، بِطُولِهِ . زَادَ الْبَزَّارُ فِي آخِرِهِ : قَالَتْ : لَا أَتَزَوَّجُ أَبَدًا .
وَمِنْ حَقِّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ أَنْ لَا تُعْطِيَ شَيْئًا مِنْ بَيْتِهِ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ ، فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ كَانَ الْأَجْرُ لِغَيْرِهَا وَالشَّقَاءُ عَلَيْهَا . وَمِنْ حَقِّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى الزَّوْجَةِ أَنْ لَا تَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ ، فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ لَعَنَتْهَا مَلَائِكَةُ السَّمَاءِ ، وَمَلَائِكَةُ الرَّحْمَةِ ، وَمَلَائِكَةُ الْعَذَابِ ، حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ أَوْ تَتُوبَ " .
1665 \ 2 - وَقَالَ أَبُو يَعْلَى : حَدَّثَنَا وَهْبُ بْنُ بَقِيَّةَ .
1665 \ 3 - وَقَالَ الْبَزَّارُ : حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ الْقُرَشِيُّ ، قَالَ : نَبَا خَالِدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ ، بِطُولِهِ . زَادَ الْبَزَّارُ فِي آخِرِهِ : قَالَتْ : لَا أَتَزَوَّجُ أَبَدًا .
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) that a woman of the tribe of Khath'am came into the noble presence of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah, I am a woman who has no husband; so tell me, what is the husband's right over his wife? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "It is the husband's right over his wife that if he asks for her (for intimacy) while she is (riding) on the back of a camel, she should not refuse him; and it is the husband's right over his wife that she should not observe a voluntary fast without his permission, and if she does so, she will merely remain hungry and thirsty and (in terms of reward) her fast will not be accepted.
And it is the husband's right over his wife that she should not give anything from his house (to anyone) without his permission, and if she does so, its reward will go to others (the husband and so on) and its burden will be upon her. And it is the husband's right over his wife that she should not go out of his house without his permission, and if she does so, the angels of the heavens, the angels of mercy and the angels of punishment will keep cursing her until she returns (home) or repents."
Besides Imam Musaddad, Imam Abu Ya'la and Imam al-Bazzar have also narrated this report, and Imam al-Bazzar added at the end of his report that (on hearing the importance of these rights) the woman said: I will never marry.
And it is the husband's right over his wife that she should not give anything from his house (to anyone) without his permission, and if she does so, its reward will go to others (the husband and so on) and its burden will be upon her. And it is the husband's right over his wife that she should not go out of his house without his permission, and if she does so, the angels of the heavens, the angels of mercy and the angels of punishment will keep cursing her until she returns (home) or repents."
Besides Imam Musaddad, Imam Abu Ya'la and Imam al-Bazzar have also narrated this report, and Imam al-Bazzar added at the end of his report that (on hearing the importance of these rights) the woman said: I will never marry.
وَقَالَ الْحَارِثُ : حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ ، نَبَا الْأَعْمَشُ ، عَنْ أَبِي ظِبْيَانَ ، عَنْ رَجُلٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمْ قَالَ : لَمَّا قَدِمَ مُعَاذٌ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ مِنَ الْيَمَنِ قَالَ : يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، إِنِّي رَأَيْتُ قَوْمًا يَسْجُدُ بَعْضُهُمْ لِبَعْضٍ ، أَفَلَا نَسْجُدُ لَكَ ؟ قَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " لَوْ أَمَرْتُ شَيْئًا يَسْجُدُ لِشَيْءٍ لَأَمَرْتُ النِّسَاءَ يَسْجُدْنَ لِأَزْوَاجِهِنَّ " .
قَالَ الْأَعْمَشُ : فَذَكَرْتُهُ لِإِبْرَاهِيمَ ، فَقَالَ : لَوْ أَنَّ امْرَأَةً لَحَسَتْ أَنْفَ زَوْجِهَا مِنَ الْجُذَامِ مَا أَدَّتْ حَقَّهُ .
قَالَ الْأَعْمَشُ : فَذَكَرْتُهُ لِإِبْرَاهِيمَ ، فَقَالَ : لَوْ أَنَّ امْرَأَةً لَحَسَتْ أَنْفَ زَوْجِهَا مِنَ الْجُذَامِ مَا أَدَّتْ حَقَّهُ .
It is narrated from a Companion of the Ansar (may Allah be pleased with him) that when Sayyiduna Mu'adh (may Allah be pleased with him) returned from Yemen (after conveying the religion), he said: O Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), I saw people there prostrating to one another (out of reverence); so should we not prostrate to you (peace and blessings be upon him)? At this the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If I were to order any (created being) to prostrate to another, I would certainly order women to prostrate to their husbands."
Imam al-A'mash (may Allah have mercy on him) relates: I mentioned this hadith to Imam Ibrahim al-Nakha'i (may Allah have mercy on him), and he said (explaining the importance of the husband's right): If a woman were to lick clean with her tongue the discharge of leprosy (judham) from her husband's nose, she still would not fully fulfil his marital right.
Imam al-A'mash (may Allah have mercy on him) relates: I mentioned this hadith to Imam Ibrahim al-Nakha'i (may Allah have mercy on him), and he said (explaining the importance of the husband's right): If a woman were to lick clean with her tongue the discharge of leprosy (judham) from her husband's nose, she still would not fully fulfil his marital right.
قَالَ الْحَارِثُ أَيْضًا : حَدَّثَنَا الْخَلِيلُ بْنُ زَكَرِيَّا ، بَنَا مُجَالِدُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ ، عَنْ عَامِرٍ الشَّعْبِيِّ ، عَنْ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ : إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَرَّ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ ، فَقَالَ : " السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُنَّ يَا كَوَافِرَ الْمُنْعِمِينَ ! " قَالَ : فَقُلْنَ : نَعُوذُ بِاللهِ أَنْ نَكْفُرَ نِعْمَةَ اللهِ ! قَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " تَقُولُ إِحْدَاكُنَّ إِذَا غَضِبَتْ عَلَى زَوْجِهَا : مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْكَ خَيْرًا قَطُّ . ! "
Imam al-Harith (may Allah have mercy on him) narrated with his chain from Sayyidah Fatimah bint Qays (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by a group of women and, addressing them, said: "Peace be upon you, O you who are ungrateful to your benefactors (husbands)!" Sayyidah Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) relates that the women (on hearing this warning) said: 'Na'udhu billahi an nakfura ni'mat Allah' (We seek refuge in Allah from being ungrateful for the blessing of Allah!) At this he (peace and blessings be upon him), explaining the ingratitude, said: "(The form your ingratitude takes is that) when one of you is angry with her husband, she says (in the heat of emotion): I have never seen any good from you in my whole life!"
In this blessed hadith, kufran al-ashir, that is, forgetting the husband's kindness, has been declared strongly disliked, as it is contrary to human morals and to the religious concept of gratitude.
In this blessed hadith, kufran al-ashir, that is, forgetting the husband's kindness, has been declared strongly disliked, as it is contrary to human morals and to the religious concept of gratitude.
وَقَالَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ : حَدَّثَنَا جَعْفَرُ بْنُ عَوْنٍ ، ثَنَا رَبِيعَةُ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ يَحْيَى بْنِ حَبَّانَ ، عَنْ نَهَارٍ ، عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ : إِنَّ رَجُلًا أَتَى بِابْنَةٍ لَهُ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ : يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ، هَذِهِ ابْنَتِي ، وَأَبَتْ أَنْ تَتَزَوَّجَ ، فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " أَطِيعِي أَبَاكِ " . كُلُّ ذَلِكَ تَرَدُّ عَلَيْهِ مَقَالَتَهُ ، فَقَالَتْ : وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ ، لَا أَتَزَوَّجُ حَتَّى تُخْبِرَنِي : مَا حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى امْرَأَتِهِ ؟ فَقَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " لَوْ كَانَ بِهِ قَرْحٌ ، أَوِ ابْتَدَرَ مَنْخِرَاهُ دَمًا وَصَدِيدًا ، ثُمَّ لَحَسْتِيهِ بِلِسَانِكِ - مَا أَدَّيْتِ حَقَّهُ " . فَقَالَتْ : وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ لَا أَتَزَوَّجُ أَبَدًا ، فَقَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " لَا تُنْكِحُونَهُنَّ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِنَّ " .
1668 \ 2 - أَخْرَجَهُ الْبَزَّارُ مِنْ حَدِيثِ جَعْفَرٍ ، وَقَالَ : لَا نَعْلَمُهُ يُرْوَى إِلَّا بِهَذَا الْإِسْنَادِ ، وَلَا رَوَاهُ عَنْ رَبِيعَةَ إِلَّا جَعْفَرٌ ، انْتَهَى . وَصَحَّحَهُ ابْنُ حِبَّانَ ، وَالْحَاكِمُ .
1668 \ 2 - أَخْرَجَهُ الْبَزَّارُ مِنْ حَدِيثِ جَعْفَرٍ ، وَقَالَ : لَا نَعْلَمُهُ يُرْوَى إِلَّا بِهَذَا الْإِسْنَادِ ، وَلَا رَوَاهُ عَنْ رَبِيعَةَ إِلَّا جَعْفَرٌ ، انْتَهَى . وَصَحَّحَهُ ابْنُ حِبَّانَ ، وَالْحَاكِمُ .
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man brought his daughter to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, this is my daughter, and she refuses to marry." At this the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to the girl: "Obey your father." The girl kept insisting on her words again and again, and said: "By the One who sent you with the truth! I will not marry until you tell me what the husband's right over his wife is." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If the husband had a wound on his body, or blood and pus were flowing from his nostrils, and you licked it clean with your tongue, even then you would not have fulfilled his right." On hearing this she said: "By the One who sent you with the truth! I will never marry." Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Do not marry these women off without their permission."
Imam al-Bazzar narrated this hadith through Ja'far and said: To our knowledge it is narrated only through this chain, and only Ja'far narrated it from Rabi'ah. Further, Imam Ibn Hibban and Imam al-Hakim declared this report sahih (authentic).
Imam al-Bazzar narrated this hadith through Ja'far and said: To our knowledge it is narrated only through this chain, and only Ja'far narrated it from Rabi'ah. Further, Imam Ibn Hibban and Imam al-Hakim declared this report sahih (authentic).
قَالَ عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ : حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ عَبْدِ الْحَمِيدِ ، نَبَا يُوسُفُ بْنُ عَطِيَّةَ ، نَبَا ثَابِتٌ ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ : إِنَّ امْرَأَةً كَانَتْ تَحْتَ رَجُلٍ ، فَمَرِضَ أَبُوهَا ، فَأَتَتِ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَتْ : يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ، إِنَّ أَبِي مَرِيضٌ ، وَزَوْجِي يَأْبَى أَنْ يَأْذَنَ لِي أَنْ أُمَرِّضَهُ ! فَقَالَ لَهَا النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " أَطِيعِي زَوْجَكِ " .
فَمَاتَ أَبُوهَا ، فَاسْتَأْذَنَتْ زَوْجَهَا أَنْ تُصَلِّيَ عَلَيْهِ ، فَأَبَى زَوْجُهَا أَنْ يَأْذَنَ لَهَا فِي الصَّلَاةِ ، فَسَأَلَتِ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ لَهَا : " أَطِيعِي زَوْجَكِ " .
فَأَطَاعَتْ زَوْجَهَا ، وَلَمْ تُصَلِّ عَلَى أَبِيهَا ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " قَدْ غَفَرَ اللهُ لِأَبِيكِ بِطَوَاعِيَتِكِ زَوْجَكِ " .
1669 \ 2 - وَقَالَ الْحَارِثُ : حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ ، ثَنَا يُوسُفُ بْنُ عَطِيَّةَ ، فَذَكَرَهُ ، لَكِنْ قَالَ : إِنَّ رَجُلًا غَزَا وَامْرَأَتُهُ فِي عُلْوٍ ، وَأَبُوهَا فِي سُفْلٍ ، وَأَمَرَهَا أَنْ لَا تَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا ، فَاشْتَكَى أَبُوهَا ... فَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ بِتَمَامِهِ .
فَمَاتَ أَبُوهَا ، فَاسْتَأْذَنَتْ زَوْجَهَا أَنْ تُصَلِّيَ عَلَيْهِ ، فَأَبَى زَوْجُهَا أَنْ يَأْذَنَ لَهَا فِي الصَّلَاةِ ، فَسَأَلَتِ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ لَهَا : " أَطِيعِي زَوْجَكِ " .
فَأَطَاعَتْ زَوْجَهَا ، وَلَمْ تُصَلِّ عَلَى أَبِيهَا ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " قَدْ غَفَرَ اللهُ لِأَبِيكِ بِطَوَاعِيَتِكِ زَوْجَكِ " .
1669 \ 2 - وَقَالَ الْحَارِثُ : حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ ، ثَنَا يُوسُفُ بْنُ عَطِيَّةَ ، فَذَكَرَهُ ، لَكِنْ قَالَ : إِنَّ رَجُلًا غَزَا وَامْرَأَتُهُ فِي عُلْوٍ ، وَأَبُوهَا فِي سُفْلٍ ، وَأَمَرَهَا أَنْ لَا تَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا ، فَاشْتَكَى أَبُوهَا ... فَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ بِتَمَامِهِ .
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Anas bin Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) that a woman was married to a man. Her father fell ill, so she came into the noble presence of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, my father is ill, while my husband refuses to give me permission to go and nurse him." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Obey your husband."
Then her father passed away, and she asked her husband's permission to attend his funeral prayer, but the husband again refused to give permission. She asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) about it once more, and he (peace and blessings be upon him) again gave the same instruction: "Obey your husband."
So the woman obeyed her husband and did not attend her father's funeral prayer. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Because of this obedience of yours to your husband, Allah Almighty has forgiven your father."
Imam al-Harith also narrated this same incident with his chain through Yusuf bin Atiyyah, in these words: a man set out on a military expedition; his wife lived on the upper floor of the house while her father lived on the lower floor, and the man had strictly ordered his wife not to go out of the house. Then her father fell ill, and the narrator went on to mention the complete hadith in the same way.
Then her father passed away, and she asked her husband's permission to attend his funeral prayer, but the husband again refused to give permission. She asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) about it once more, and he (peace and blessings be upon him) again gave the same instruction: "Obey your husband."
So the woman obeyed her husband and did not attend her father's funeral prayer. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Because of this obedience of yours to your husband, Allah Almighty has forgiven your father."
Imam al-Harith also narrated this same incident with his chain through Yusuf bin Atiyyah, in these words: a man set out on a military expedition; his wife lived on the upper floor of the house while her father lived on the lower floor, and the man had strictly ordered his wife not to go out of the house. Then her father fell ill, and the narrator went on to mention the complete hadith in the same way.
وَقَالَ ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ : حَدَّثَنَا الْمُقْرِي ، عَنِ الْإِفْرِيقِيِّ ، حَدَّثَنِي عُمَارَةُ بْنُ غُرَابٍ قَالَ : إِنَّ عَمَّةً لَهُ حَدَّثَتْهُ أَنَّهَا سَأَلَتْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا أُمَّ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ، قَالَتْ : إِنَّ زَوْجَ إِحْدَانَا يُرِيدُهَا فَتَمْنَعُهُ نَفْسَهَا ; إِمَّا أَنْ تَكُونَ غَضْبَى ، وَإِمَّا أَنْ تَكُونَ غَيْرَ نَشِيطَةٍ لَهُ . فَهَلْ عَلَيْهَا فِي ذَلِكَ مِنْ حَرَجٍ ؟ قَالَتْ : " نَعَمْ . إِنَّ حَقَّهُ عَلَيْكِ أَنْ لَوْ أَرَادَكِ وَأَنْتِ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعِيهِ " ... الْحَدِيثَ .
It is narrated from Umarah bin Ghurab that his paternal aunt asked the Mother of the Believers, Sayyidah Aishah al-Siddiqah (may Allah be pleased with her), about an issue, saying: If the husband of one of us desires (intimacy with) his wife but she refuses, whether because she is in a state of displeasure or because at that time she has no eagerness or readiness for it, is there any blame or sin upon that woman in such a case? The Mother of the Believers (may Allah be pleased with her) replied: "Yes! (It is a cause of sin.) Your husband's right over you is so binding and great that even if he asks for you while you are riding on a camel's saddle, you should not refuse him."
وَقَالَ إِسْحَاقُ فِي مُسْنَدِهِ : أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ ، أَنَا مَعْمَرٌ ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْكَرِيمِ الْجَزَرِيِّ ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ : أَنَّ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتَ أَبِي بَكْرٍ أَتَتْ أَبَاهَا تَشْكُو الزُّبَيْرَ ، فَقَالَ لَهَا : " ارْجِعِي يَا بُنَيَّةُ ، إِنْ صَبَرْتِ وَأَحْسَنْتِ صُحْبَتَهُ ، ثُمَّ مَاتَ ، فَلَمْ تَنْكِحِي بَعْدَهُ ، وَدَخَلْتُمَا الْجَنَّةَ - كُنْتِ زَوْجَتَهُ ".
It is narrated from Ikrimah (may Allah have mercy on him) that Sayyidah Asma' bint Abi Bakr (may Allah be pleased with her) came to her respected father, Sayyiduna Abu Bakr al-Siddiq (may Allah be pleased with him), with a complaint about her husband, Sayyiduna al-Zubayr bin al-Awwam (may Allah be pleased with him). He (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "O my dear daughter, go back to your home; for if you hold fast to patience and keep his company in the best way, and then he passes away and you do not marry anyone else after him, and you both enter Paradise by the grace of Allah, you will be his wife there as well."
وَقَالَ أَبُو يَعْلَى : حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ وَكِيعٍ ، ثَنَا أَبِي ، ثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ الْمُبَارَكِ ، عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ أَبِي كَثِيرٍ ، عَنْ زَيْدِ بْنِ سَلَّامٍ ، عَنْ جَدِّهِ أَبِي سَلَّامٍ ، عَنْ مَالِكٍ السَّكْسَكِيِّ هُوَ ابْنُ يُخَامِرَ قَالَ : إِنَّ مُعَاذَ بْنَ جَبَلٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ حَدَّثَهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ : " لَا يَحِلُّ لِامْرَأَةٍ تَأْخُذُ مِنْ بَيْتِ زَوْجِهَا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِ زَوْجِهَا ، وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَهَا أَنْ تَأْخُذَهُ وَهُوَ كَارِهٌ ، وَلَا تَخْرُجَ وَهُوَ كَارِهٌ بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِهِ ، وَلَا تُطْمِعَ فِيهِ أَحَدًا مَا اصْطَحَبَا ، وَلَا تُخَشِّنَ بِصَدْرِهِ ، وَلَا تَعْتَزِلَ فِرَاشَهُ .
وَلَا تُضَارَّ بِهِ وَإِنْ كَانَ هُوَ أَظْلَمَ مِنْهَا أَنْ تَأْتِيَهُ حَتَّى تُرْضِيَهُ ; فَإِنْ هُوَ قَبِلَ مِنْهَا فَبِهَا وَنِعْمَتْ ، قَبِلَ اللهُ عُذْرَهَا ، وَأَفْلَحَ حُجَّتَهَا ، وَلَا إِثْمَ عَلَيْهَا . وَإِنْ أَبَى الزَّوْجُ أَنْ يَرْضَى فَقَدْ أَبْلَغَتْ إِلَيْهِ عُذْرَهَا .
وَإِنْ لَمْ تَفْعَلْ مِنْ ذَلِكَ شَيْئًا ، فَرَضِيَتْ بِالصِّرَامِ حَتَّى تَمْضِيَ لَهَا ثَلَاثُ لَيَالٍ . وَإِنْ أَذِنَتْ بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِهِ ، أَوْ أَتَتْ بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِهِ فِي زِيَارَةِ وَالِدٍ أَوْ غَيْرِهِ مَا شَهِدَ عِنْدَهَا ، فَأَحْنَثَتْ لَهُ قَسَمًا ، وَأَطَاعَتْ فِيهِ وَالِدًا أَوْ وَلَدًا ، أَوِ اعْتَزَلَتْ لَهُ مَضْجَعًا ، أَوْ خَشَّنَتْ لَهُ صَدْرًا - فَإِنَّهُنَّ لَا يَزَالُ يُكْتَبُ عَلَيْهِنَّ ثَلَاثٌ مِنَ الْكَبَائِرِ مَا فَعَلْنَ ذَلِكَ : أَكْبَرُ الْكَبَائِرِ : الْإِشْرَاكُ بِاللهِ ، وَقَتْلُ الْمُؤْمِنِ مُتَعَمِّدًا ، وَالثَّالِثُ : أَكْلُ الرِّبَا .
وَكَفَى بِالْمَرْأَةِ إِثْمًا أَنْ تَأْتِيَ كُلَّمَا غَضِبَ عَلَيْهَا زَوْجُهَا ثَلَاثًا مِنَ الْكَبَائِرِ ، اسْتَحْوَذَ عَلَيْهَا الشَّيْطَانُ ، فَأَصْبَحَتْ مِنْ أَهْلِ النَّارِ ".
قَالَ : وَحَدَّثَنَا مُعَاذٌ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ : " لَا تَزَالُ الْمَلَائِكَةُ تَلْعَنُهَا ، وَيَلْعَنُهَا اللهُ تَعَالَى ، وَخُزَّانُ دَارِ الرَّحْمَةِ وَدَارِ الْعَذَابِ مِمَّا انْتَهَكَتْ مِنْ مَعْصِيَةِ اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ " .
هَذَا حَدِيثٌ رِجَالُهُ ثِقَاتٌ أَثْبَاتٌ إِلَّا شَيْخَ أَبِي يَعْلَى ، فَهُوَ مِنْ مُنْكَرَاتِهِ ، وَكَانَ صَدُوقًا فِي نَفْسِهِ ، إِلَّا أَنَّ وَرَّاقَهُ أَدْخَلَ عَلَيْهِ مَا لَيْسَ مِنْ حَدِيثِهِ ، وَكَانُوا يُحَذِّرُونَهُ مِنْ ذَلِكَ فَلَا يَرْضَى .
وَقَدْ أَخْرَجَهُ الْحَاكِمُ مِنْ وَجْهٍ آخَرَ ، عَنْ عَطَاءٍ الْخُرَاسَانِيِّ ، عَنْ مَالِكِ بْنِ يَخَامِرَ السَّكْسَكِيِّ ; فَيُنْظَرُ فِي تَفَاوُتِ مَا بَيْنَ السِّيَاقَيْنِ .
وَلَا تُضَارَّ بِهِ وَإِنْ كَانَ هُوَ أَظْلَمَ مِنْهَا أَنْ تَأْتِيَهُ حَتَّى تُرْضِيَهُ ; فَإِنْ هُوَ قَبِلَ مِنْهَا فَبِهَا وَنِعْمَتْ ، قَبِلَ اللهُ عُذْرَهَا ، وَأَفْلَحَ حُجَّتَهَا ، وَلَا إِثْمَ عَلَيْهَا . وَإِنْ أَبَى الزَّوْجُ أَنْ يَرْضَى فَقَدْ أَبْلَغَتْ إِلَيْهِ عُذْرَهَا .
وَإِنْ لَمْ تَفْعَلْ مِنْ ذَلِكَ شَيْئًا ، فَرَضِيَتْ بِالصِّرَامِ حَتَّى تَمْضِيَ لَهَا ثَلَاثُ لَيَالٍ . وَإِنْ أَذِنَتْ بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِهِ ، أَوْ أَتَتْ بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِهِ فِي زِيَارَةِ وَالِدٍ أَوْ غَيْرِهِ مَا شَهِدَ عِنْدَهَا ، فَأَحْنَثَتْ لَهُ قَسَمًا ، وَأَطَاعَتْ فِيهِ وَالِدًا أَوْ وَلَدًا ، أَوِ اعْتَزَلَتْ لَهُ مَضْجَعًا ، أَوْ خَشَّنَتْ لَهُ صَدْرًا - فَإِنَّهُنَّ لَا يَزَالُ يُكْتَبُ عَلَيْهِنَّ ثَلَاثٌ مِنَ الْكَبَائِرِ مَا فَعَلْنَ ذَلِكَ : أَكْبَرُ الْكَبَائِرِ : الْإِشْرَاكُ بِاللهِ ، وَقَتْلُ الْمُؤْمِنِ مُتَعَمِّدًا ، وَالثَّالِثُ : أَكْلُ الرِّبَا .
وَكَفَى بِالْمَرْأَةِ إِثْمًا أَنْ تَأْتِيَ كُلَّمَا غَضِبَ عَلَيْهَا زَوْجُهَا ثَلَاثًا مِنَ الْكَبَائِرِ ، اسْتَحْوَذَ عَلَيْهَا الشَّيْطَانُ ، فَأَصْبَحَتْ مِنْ أَهْلِ النَّارِ ".
قَالَ : وَحَدَّثَنَا مُعَاذٌ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ : " لَا تَزَالُ الْمَلَائِكَةُ تَلْعَنُهَا ، وَيَلْعَنُهَا اللهُ تَعَالَى ، وَخُزَّانُ دَارِ الرَّحْمَةِ وَدَارِ الْعَذَابِ مِمَّا انْتَهَكَتْ مِنْ مَعْصِيَةِ اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ " .
هَذَا حَدِيثٌ رِجَالُهُ ثِقَاتٌ أَثْبَاتٌ إِلَّا شَيْخَ أَبِي يَعْلَى ، فَهُوَ مِنْ مُنْكَرَاتِهِ ، وَكَانَ صَدُوقًا فِي نَفْسِهِ ، إِلَّا أَنَّ وَرَّاقَهُ أَدْخَلَ عَلَيْهِ مَا لَيْسَ مِنْ حَدِيثِهِ ، وَكَانُوا يُحَذِّرُونَهُ مِنْ ذَلِكَ فَلَا يَرْضَى .
وَقَدْ أَخْرَجَهُ الْحَاكِمُ مِنْ وَجْهٍ آخَرَ ، عَنْ عَطَاءٍ الْخُرَاسَانِيِّ ، عَنْ مَالِكِ بْنِ يَخَامِرَ السَّكْسَكِيِّ ; فَيُنْظَرُ فِي تَفَاوُتِ مَا بَيْنَ السِّيَاقَيْنِ .
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Mu'adh bin Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "It is not lawful for a woman to take anything from her husband's house without her husband's permission, nor is it permissible for her to take something despite his dislike, nor to go out of the house without his permission while he dislikes it; and as long as the two of them are joined in marriage, she should not make anyone (else) covet him (or the affairs of the house), nor hurt his feelings, nor separate herself from his bed.
And she should not harm him; and even if the husband is the more unjust of the two, she should still come to him until she has pleased him. If he (the husband) accepts it from her, that is very good: Allah will accept her excuse and make her plea succeed, and there will be no sin upon her. And if the husband refuses to be pleased, then she has fulfilled her responsibility by conveying her excuse to him.
But if she does none of this and remains content with cutting off relations until three nights have passed, or she gives someone permission (to enter the house) without her husband's permission, or goes out in his absence without his permission to visit her father or for some other matter, or breaks his oath, or obeys her father or her child in that matter, or separates herself from the bed, or hurts his feelings, then as long as they keep doing so, three major sins will continue to be written against them: the greatest of sins, associating partners with Allah; killing a believer deliberately; and the third, consuming usury (riba).
It is enough sin for a woman that whenever her husband is angry with her she bears the burden of these three major sins; Satan has overpowered her and she becomes one of the people of the Fire."
The narrator says: Sayyiduna Mu'adh (may Allah be pleased with him) also narrated this hadith to us, that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The angels continually curse such a woman, Allah Almighty curses her too, and the keepers of the abodes of mercy and punishment (Paradise and Hell) also curse her, because she has violated the limits by disobeying Allah, the Mighty and Majestic."
This is a hadith whose narrators are all thiqat (trustworthy) and firm, except for the teacher of Imam Abu Ya'la (Sufyan bin Waki'); it is among his munkar (rejected) reports. He was truthful in himself, but his scribe (warraq) inserted into his narrations things that were not part of his hadiths; the hadith scholars used to warn him about this, but he did not desist.
Imam al-Hakim narrated it through another route, through Ata' al-Khurasani from Malik bin Yukhamir al-Saksaki; therefore the difference between the wording of the two reports should be taken into consideration.
And she should not harm him; and even if the husband is the more unjust of the two, she should still come to him until she has pleased him. If he (the husband) accepts it from her, that is very good: Allah will accept her excuse and make her plea succeed, and there will be no sin upon her. And if the husband refuses to be pleased, then she has fulfilled her responsibility by conveying her excuse to him.
But if she does none of this and remains content with cutting off relations until three nights have passed, or she gives someone permission (to enter the house) without her husband's permission, or goes out in his absence without his permission to visit her father or for some other matter, or breaks his oath, or obeys her father or her child in that matter, or separates herself from the bed, or hurts his feelings, then as long as they keep doing so, three major sins will continue to be written against them: the greatest of sins, associating partners with Allah; killing a believer deliberately; and the third, consuming usury (riba).
It is enough sin for a woman that whenever her husband is angry with her she bears the burden of these three major sins; Satan has overpowered her and she becomes one of the people of the Fire."
The narrator says: Sayyiduna Mu'adh (may Allah be pleased with him) also narrated this hadith to us, that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The angels continually curse such a woman, Allah Almighty curses her too, and the keepers of the abodes of mercy and punishment (Paradise and Hell) also curse her, because she has violated the limits by disobeying Allah, the Mighty and Majestic."
This is a hadith whose narrators are all thiqat (trustworthy) and firm, except for the teacher of Imam Abu Ya'la (Sufyan bin Waki'); it is among his munkar (rejected) reports. He was truthful in himself, but his scribe (warraq) inserted into his narrations things that were not part of his hadiths; the hadith scholars used to warn him about this, but he did not desist.
Imam al-Hakim narrated it through another route, through Ata' al-Khurasani from Malik bin Yukhamir al-Saksaki; therefore the difference between the wording of the two reports should be taken into consideration.
وَقَالَ إِسْحَاقُ : أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ ، ثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ ، عَنْ رَجُلٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ ، عَنْ أُمِّ سَلْمَى بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ ، قَالَتْ : بَايَعَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي نِسْوَةٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ ، فَأَخَذَ عَلَيْنَا : " أَنْ لَا تَغْشُشْنَ أَزْوَاجَكُنَّ . قَالَتْ : فَلَمَّا انْصَرَفْنَا ، قُلْنَا : أَوَسَأَلْنَا رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : مَا غِشُّ أَزْوَاجِنَا ؟ فَرَجَعْنَا إِلَيْهِ فَسَأَلَتْهُ ، فَقَالَ : أَنْ تُخَانِينَ وَتُهَادِينَ مَالَهُ إِلَى غَيْرِهِ .
It is narrated from Sayyidah Umm Salma bint Qays (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) took the pledge of allegiance from us along with some women of the Ansar, and took a firm covenant from us: "You shall never deceive your husbands." She says: When we left, we said to one another: We should have asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) what is meant by deceiving one's husband. So we went back into his (peace and blessings be upon him) noble presence and asked about it, and he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "It means that you betray them in their rights and begin giving their wealth away as gifts to others (without their consent)."
