Severity regarding weeping over the deceased

Abu Burdah narrates from his father: When Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) was wounded, Sayyiduna Suhayb (may Allah be pleased with him) (began to weep, saying): "Alas, our brother!" Sayyiduna Umar said: "O Suhayb! Do you not know that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: 'The dead person is indeed punished because of the weeping of the living'?"

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that when Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) was wounded, Sayyidah Hafsah (may Allah be pleased with her) began to weep. Sayyiduna Umar said: "O my daughter! Stop weeping. Do you not know that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: 'The dead person is indeed punished because of his family's weeping over him'?"

Muhammad bin Sirin said: Wailing was mentioned in the presence of Sayyiduna Imran bin al-Husayn (may Allah be pleased with him), and he said: "The dead person is punished because of the weeping of the living." The people asked: "How is he punished because of the weeping of the living?" He said: "The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said it."

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The dead person is indeed punished because of the weeping of the living."

Sayyidah Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: When Sayyiduna Abu Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him) passed away, I said: "I am a stranger, in a foreign land; I will weep for him with a weeping that will be talked about." When I had resolved to weep (wail), a woman came to me from the upland, wanting to help me in weeping. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) turned towards her and said: "Do you want to bring Shaytan into a house from which Allah Almighty has expelled him?" He said this twice. She said: So I stopped weeping and did not weep afterwards.

Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: When the news of the death of Sayyiduna Ja'far (may Allah be pleased with him) came, I saw the signs of grief on the blessed face of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). A man came and said: "O Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)! The women are weeping." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Go to them and silence them; if they refuse to be quiet, throw dust in their faces." Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: I said to myself: "By Allah, you neither left yourself alone, nor are you obeying the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)."

It is narrated from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) that she was told that Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) narrates from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): "The dead person is punished because of the weeping of the living." She said: "Abu Abd al-Rahman (Ibn Umar) has made a mistake. He (peace and blessings be upon him) only said: 'The family of the dead person weep over him while he is being punished for his own crime.'"

It is narrated from al-Hajari that Sayyiduna Ibn Abi Awfa (may Allah be pleased with him) saw women weeping over the dead (lamenting loudly) and said: "Do not lament with elegies, for the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade us from lamenting with elegies."

Jabr bin Atik narrates from his paternal uncle: I went with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to visit a man of the Ansar, and his family were weeping over him. I said: "Do you weep while this is the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) (present among you)?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Leave them; let them weep as long as he is with them. When it becomes due (when he dies), then let them not weep."