السنن الكبرى للبيهقي
Sunan al-Kubra al-Bayhaqi
كتاب القسم والنشوز
Book of Dividing Time Between Wives and Marital Discord
باب: ما يستحب لها رعاية لحق زوجها وإن لم يلزمها شرعا
What is recommended for her in observing her husband's right even if it is not legally binding upon her
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أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو الْحَسَنِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْحُسَيْنِ بْنِ دَاوُدَ الْعَلَوِيُّ أنا عُبَيْدُ اللهِ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ بْنِ بَالَوَيْهِ الْمُزَكِّي، نا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ السُّلَمِيُّ، نا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ، أنا مَعْمَرٌ، عَنْ هَمَّامِ بْنِ مُنَبِّهٍ قَالَ: هَذَا مَا حَدَّثَنَا بِهِ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صلَّى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: " خَيْرُ نِسَاءٍ رَكِبْنَ الْإِبِلَ نِسَاءُ قُرَيْشٍ، أَحْنَاهُ عَلَى وَلَدٍ فِي صِغَرِهِ وَأَرْعَاهُ عَلَى زَوْجٍ فِي ذَاتِ يَدِهِ " رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ فِي الصَّحِيحِ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ رَافِعٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّزَّاقِ، وَأَخْرَجَهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ، مِنْ حَدِيثِ الْأَعْرَجِ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ.
Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) says that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The best of the women who ride camels are the women of Quraysh, for they are most tender towards their children in childhood and most protective of their husbands' wealth."
أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ، أنا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ، نا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ حَنْبَلٍ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي قَالَ: ح وَأَخْبَرَنِي أَبُو عَمْرِو بْنُ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ، نا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ، نا ⦗٤٧٩⦘ أَبُو كُرَيْبٍ قَالَا: نا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ، عَنْ هِشَامٍ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ: تَزَوَّجَنِي الزُّبَيْرُ وَمَا لَهُ فِي الْأَرْضِ مِنْ مَالٍ وَلَا مَمْلُوكٍ وَلَا شَيْءٍ غَيْرَ فَرَسِهِ، قَالَتْ: فَكُنْتُ أَعْلِفُ فَرَسَهُ وَأَكْفِيهِ مُؤْنَتَهُ وَأَسُوسُهُ وَأَدُقُّ النَّوَى لَنَا ضُحَةً وَاسْتَقَى الْمَاءَ وَأَخْرِزُ غَرْبَهُ وَأَعْجِنُ وَلَمْ أَكُنْ أُحْسِنُ أَخْبِزُ فَكَانَ تَخْبِزُ لِي جَارَاتٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ وَكُنَّ نِسْوَةَ صِدْقٍ، قُلْتُ: وَكُنْتُ أَنْفِلُ النَّوَى مِنْ أَرْضِ الزُّبَيْرِ الَّتِي أَقْطَعَهُ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَى رَأْسِي وَهِيَ عَلَى ثُلُثَيْ فَرْسَخٍ قَالَتْ: فَجِئْتُ وَالنَّوَى عَلَى رَأْسِي، فَلَقِيتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَمَعَهُ نَفَرٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ فَدَعَانِي ثُمَّ قَالَ: " أَخْ أَخْ "؛ لِيَحْمِلَنِي خَلْفَهُ، قَالَتْ: فَاسْتَحْيَتْ وَعَرَفْتُ غَيْرَتَهُ قَالَتْ: قَالَ: " فَوَاللهِ لَحَمْلُكِ عَلَى رَأْسِكِ أَشَدُّ مِنْ رُكُوبِكِ مَعَهُ " قَالَتْ: حَتَّى أَرْسَلَ إِلِيَّ أَبُو بَكْرٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ بِخَادِمٍ تكْفِينِي سِيَاسَةَ الْفَرَسِ فَكَأَنَّمَا أَعْتَقَنِي رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ فِي الصَّحِيحِ، عَنْ أَبِي كُرَيْبٍ، وَرَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ، عَنْ مَحْمُودٍ عَنْ أَبِي أُسَامَةَ.
Asma' bint Abi Bakr (may Allah be pleased with her) says: Zubayr (may Allah be pleased with him) married me when he had no land, wealth or slave, except a horse. She says: I used to bring fodder for the horse and do his work; I looked after the horse and crushed date-stones for it; I gave it water and sewed his leather bucket; and I kneaded dough, but I could not bake bread well. Ansari girls used to bake bread for me, and they were truthful women. She says: I used to carry date-stones on my head from the land of Zubayr (may Allah be pleased with him), from a distance of two-thirds of a farsakh. She says: I was coming with the date-stones when I met the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), and with him was a group of Companions (may Allah be pleased with them). He (peace and blessings be upon him) called me and said: "Ride behind me." She says: I felt shy, and I knew the jealousy of my husband Zubayr (may Allah be pleased with him). Zubayr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "By Allah, your carrying date-stones on your head is harder than your riding with him (peace and blessings be upon him)." She says: Then Abu Bakr al-Siddiq (may Allah be pleased with him) sent me a servant who relieved me of looking after the horse; it was as if he had set me free.
أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظِ، أنا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ الْفَقِيهُ، أنا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ الْقَاضِي، نا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، نا شُعْبَةُ، عَنِ الْحَكَمِ، عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي لَيْلَى قَالَ سُلَيْمَانُ: أَظُنُّهُ عَنْ عَلِيٍّ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: شَكَتْ فَاطِمَةُ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا مَا تَلْقَى مِنْ أَثَرِ الرَّحَى فِي يَدِهَا قَالَ: فَذَهَبَتْ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تَسْأَلُهُ خَادِمًا فَلَمْ تَرَهُ قَالَ: فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِعَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا، فَلَمَّا جَاءَ ذَكَرْتُ لَهُ قَالَ: فَجَاءَنَا وَقَدْ أَخَذْنَا مَضَاجِعَنَا فَذَهَبْتُ أَقُومُ فَقَالَ: مَكَانَكِ ثُمَّ جَلَسَ بَيْنَنَا حَتَّى وَجَدْتُ بَرْدَ قَدَمَيْهِ عَلَى صَدْرِي فَقَالَ: " أَلَا أَدُلُّكُمَا عَلَى مَا هُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمَا مِنْ خَادِمٍ إِذَا أَخَذْتُمَا مَضَاجِعَكُمَا فَسَبِّحَا ثَلَاثًا وَثَلَاثِينَ وَاحْمِدَا ثَلَاثًا وَثَلَاثِينَ وَكَبِّرَا أَرْبَعًا وَثَلَاثِينَ فَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ مِنْ خَادِمٍ " وَقَالَ خَالِدٌ عَنِ ابْنِ سِيرِينَ: التَّسْبِيحُ أَرْبَعًا وَثَلَاثِينَ رَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ فِي الصَّحِيحِ، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ حَرْبٍ وَلَمْ يَذْكُرِ الشَّكَّ، وَأَخْرَجَهُ مُسْلِمٌ، مِنْ أَوْجُهٍ عَنْ شُعْبَةَ.
Ibn Abi Layla narrates (Sulayman says: I think it was from Sayyiduna Ali (may Allah be pleased with him)) that Sayyidah Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) complained of the marks that had formed on her hand from grinding with the hand-mill. The narrator says: She went to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) to ask him for a servant, but did not find him. The narrator says: Sayyidah Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) mentioned this to Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), and when he (peace and blessings be upon him) came, Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) told him. The narrator says: He (peace and blessings be upon him) came to us while we were preparing to sleep, and I got up. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Stay in your place." Then he (peace and blessings be upon him) sat between us, until I felt the coolness of his (peace and blessings be upon him) feet on my chest. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Shall I not tell you both of something better for you than a servant? When you both go to bed, say 'Subhan Allah' (Glory be to Allah) 33 times, 'Al-hamdu lillah' (All praise is for Allah) 33 times and 'Allahu Akbar' (Allah is the Greatest) 34 times; this is better for you than a servant." Khalid narrates from Ibn Sirin: 'Subhan Allah' 34 times.
