A man who marries off his daughter: those who said he seeks her consent

Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Women's permission is to be sought before they are given in marriage." I said: "O Messenger of Allah! They will feel shy about it!" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The widow has more right over herself, the virgin's permission is to be sought, and her silence is her consent."

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The widow has more right over herself than her guardian, the virgin's permission is to be sought, and her silence is her consent."

Ata said that when a proposal of marriage came for one of the daughters of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), he would sit beside her curtained room and say: "So-and-so has proposed marriage to so-and-so." If she remained silent, he would marry her off, and if she poked with her hand, he would not marry her off. While saying this, the narrator Hafs poked his index finger into his thigh.

Sayyiduna Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said: A man cannot marry off his daughter until he has sought her permission.

Ibrahim said: When a woman is under her father's care, he need not seek her permission; and if she is under someone else's care, he must seek her permission before marrying her off.

Al-Sha'bi said: A man must seek the permission of his daughter, whether virgin or previously married (thayyib), before marrying her off.

Al-Hasan used to say: It is permissible for a father to marry off his daughter in every case, whether she is a virgin or previously married, and whether she likes it or not.

Tawus said: A man must not force his previously married (thayyib) daughter into a marriage that she dislikes.

Al-Qasim and Salim used to say: When the father of a virgin has married her off, the marriage is binding, even if she dislikes it.

Ata said: If the father of a virgin girl wants to marry her to someone and she wishes to marry someone else, the father should respect his daughter's wish if there is no harm in that man, even if the match of the father's choice offers a larger dowry; I fear that (otherwise) it will weigh on her heart. And if the girl's father compels her, he may do so.

Amir (al-Sha'bi) said: No one except the father can compel a woman into marriage.

Whenever Sayyiduna Uthman bin Affan (may Allah be pleased with him) wanted to marry off one of his daughters, he would sit by her curtain and say: "So-and-so has been mentioning you."

Tawus said: A virgin's permission is to be sought, even if she is living with her parents.

Ibn Buraydah said that a young woman came to Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and said: "My father has married me to his nephew so that he might remove his poverty through me, and I dislike this marriage." Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: "Wait; when the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) comes, he will decide." When the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) came and the whole matter was mentioned to him, he sent for her father. He gave the choice of decision to the woman. At this, the woman said: "If the decision is mine, then I approve the marriage my father arranged. I only wanted to know whether women have any right or not."