المعجم الكبير للطبراني
Al-Mu'jam al-Kabir (Tabarani)
مسند النساء
The Female Companions (may Allah be pleased with them)
طرق حديث أم زرع وحسن عشرة النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم عائشة
The chains of the hadith of Umm Zar', and the kind companionship of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) with Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her)
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حَدَّثَنَا الْعَبَّاسُ بْنُ الْفَضْلِ الْأَسْفَاطِيُّ، ثنا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، ثنا سَعِيدُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ بْنِ أَبِي الْحُسَامِ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ» ، ثُمَّ أَنْشَأَ يُحَدِّثُ بِحَدِيثِ أُمِّ زَرْعٍ وَصَوَاحِبِهَا، قَالَ: " اجْتَمَعَ إِحْدَى عَشْرَةَ امْرَأَةً فَتَعَاهَدْنَ وَتَعَاقَدْنَ أَنْ يَنْعِتْنَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ وَيَصْدُقْنَ . فَقَالَتْ إِحْدَاهُنَّ: زَوْجِي عَيَايَاءُ طَبَاقَاءُ، كُلُّ دَاءٍ لَهُ دَاءٌ، شَجَّكِ، أَوْ فَلَّكِ، أَوْ جَمَعَ كُلًّا لَكِ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي لَحْمُ جَمَلٍ غَثٍّ بِجَبَلٍ، وَعْرٍ لَا سَمِينٍ فَيُرْتَقَى إِلَيْهِ وَلَا سَهْلٍ فَيُنْتَقَلُ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي الْعَشَنَّقُ إِنْ أَسْكُتْ أُطَلَّقْ، وَإِنْ أَنْطِقْ أُعَلَّقْ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي إِذَا شَرِبَ اشْتَفَّ، وَإِذَا رَقَدَ الْتَفَّ، وَلَا يُولِجُ الْكَفَّ فَيَعْلَمُ الْبَثَّ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي لَا أُتِمُّ خَبَرَهُ، أَخْشَى أَنْ لَا أَذَرَهُ ". قَالَ لَهُ عُرْوَةُ: هَؤُلَاءِ خَمْسَةٌ يَشْكُونَ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي حُرٌّ كَلَيْلِ تِهَامَةَ لَا حَرٌّ، وَلَا بَارِدٌ، وَلَا مَخَافَةَ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي إِذَا دَخَلَ فَهِدَ وَإِذَا خَرَجَ أَسِدَ، وَلَا يَسْأَلُ عَمَّا عَهِدَ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي الرِّيحُ رِيحُ زَرْنَبٍ، وَالْمَسُّ مَسُّ أَرْنَبٍ، أَغْلِبُهُ وَالنَّاسَ يَغْلِبُ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي رُفَيْعُ الْعِمَادِ، طَوِيلُ النِّجَادِ، عَظِيمُ الرَّمَادِ، قَرِيبُ الْبَيْتِ مِنَ النَّادِ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي أَبُو مَالِكٍ وَمَا أَبُو مَالِكٍ؟ ذُو إِبِلٍ كَثِيرَةِ الْمَسَالِكِ، قَلِيلَةِ الْمَبَارِكِ، إِذَا سَمِعْنَ صَوْتَ الْمَزَاهِرِ أَيْقَنَّ أَنَّهُنَّ هَوَالِكُ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: زَوْجِي أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَمَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ؟ أَنَاسَ مِنْ حُلِيٍّ أُذُنَيَّ، وَمَلَأَ مِنْ شَحْمٍ عَضُدَيَّ، وَبَجَحَ نَفْسِي فَبَجِحْتُ إِلَيْهِ. ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ مَضْجَعُهُ كَمَسَلِّ الشَّطْبَةِ، وَيُشْبِعُهُ ذِرَاعُ الْجَفْرَةِ، بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ مِلْءُ كِسَائِهَا، وَصِغَرُ رِدَائِهَا، وَخَيْرُ نِسَائِهَا، وَغَيْظُ جَارَاتِهَا، وَطَوْعُ أَبِيهَا، وَطَوْعُ أُمِّهَا. خَادِمُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا خَادِمُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ لَا تَبُثُّ حَدِيثَنَا تَبْثِيثًا، وَلَا تُفْسِدُ مِيرَتَنَا تَنْقِيثًا، وَلَا تَعَشَّى بَيْتَنَا تَعْشِيشًا. أَتَانِي أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَأَنَا فِي شِقٍّ فَبَلَحَنِي، فَذَهَبَ بِي إِلَى أَهْلِ صَهِيلٍ وَأَطِيطٍ وَدَائِسٍ وَمُنَقٍّ، فَأَنَا عِنْدَهُ أَشْرَبُ وَأَتَقَنَّحُ وَأَرْقُدُ فَأَتَصَبَّحُ، وَأَقُولُ فَلَا أُقَبَّحُ. خَرَجَ مِنْ عِنْدِي أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَالْأَوْطَابُ تُمْخَضُ، فَأَبْصَرَ امْرَأَةً لَهَا ابْنَانِ كَالْفَهْدَيْنِ يَلْعَبَانِ مِنْ تَحْتِهَا بِرُمَّانَتَيْنِ، فَنَكَحَهَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَطَلَّقَنِي، فَنَكَحْتُ بَعْدَهُ شَابًّا سَرِيًّا، رَكِبَ فَرَسًا شَرِيًّا، وَأَخَذَ رُمْحًا خَطِّيًّا، وَأَرَاحَ عَلَى بِنْتِي نَعَمًا ثَرِيًّا، وَأَتَانِي فِي كُلِّ سَائِمَةٍ زَوْجًا، فَقَالَ: كُلِي وَمِيرِي أَهْلَكِ فَلَوْ جَمَعْتُ كُلَّ شَيْءٍ أَصَبْتُهُ مِنْهُ فَجَعَلْتُهُ فِي أَصْغَرِ وِعَاءٍ مِنْ أَوْعِيَةِ أَبِي زَرْعٍ مَا مَلَأَهُ. قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «فَكُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ» .
It is narrated from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'." Then he (peace and blessings be upon him) began to narrate the story of Umm Zar' and her companions. He said: "Eleven women gathered and pledged and agreed among themselves that each would describe the true state of her husband and would not lie in anything.
The first said: My husband is feeble and useless; every defect is found in him. He may wound you, or break one of your limbs, or do both to you.
The second said: My husband is like the meat of a lean camel (placed) on a rugged mountain; it is neither fat enough to be climbed for, nor easy enough to be carried down.
The third said: My husband is the tall (useless) one; if I keep silent he divorces me, and if I speak he keeps me hanging (without a decision).
The fourth said: My husband, when he drinks, drinks everything up, and when he sleeps, he wraps himself up (in his blanket), and he does not put his hand in to learn of my sorrow.
The fifth said: My husband: I cannot relate his whole story; I fear I would not be able to describe it completely. Urwah said: These five were complaining (about their husbands).
The sixth said: My husband is like the night of Tihamah: neither hot, nor cold, nor any fear.
The seventh said: My husband, when he enters the house, is like a gentle cheetah, and when he goes out he becomes a lion, and he does not ask about what he left (in the house).
The eighth said: My husband's scent is the scent of zarnab, and his touch is (soft) like that of a rabbit; I keep him in hand while he overcomes (other) people.
The ninth said: My husband is of the lofty pillar, of the long sword-belt (that is, tall and of high rank), of abundant ashes (that is, very hospitable), and his house is near the place of assembly.
The tenth said: My husband is Abu Malik, and what is Abu Malik! He owns camels that often go out to graze and seldom stay kneeling at home; when they hear the sound of the lute, they are certain that they are to be slaughtered (for the guests).
The eleventh said: My husband is Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'! He weighed down my ears with ornaments, filled my upper arms with fat, and pleased me so much that I swelled with joy. The son of Abu Zar', and what is the son of Abu Zar'! His sleeping place is like a (slender) stripped palm stalk, and the foreleg of a young kid satisfies his hunger. The daughter of Abu Zar', and what is the daughter of Abu Zar'! She fills her garment, is slender in her wrap, the best of the women (of her family), a cause of envy to her co-wives, obedient to her father and obedient to her mother. The maidservant of Abu Zar', and what is the maidservant of Abu Zar'! She does not spread our talk (here and there), does not waste our provisions, and does not fill our house with rubbish.
Abu Zar' came to me when I was in hardship, and he took me in, and he brought me to people who had the neighing of horses, the groaning of camels, and the bustle of threshing and cleaning grain. With him I sleep and rise late at my ease, and I drink and am fully content, and whatever I say I am not rebuked for it.
Once Abu Zar' went out from my home (at a time) when the milk skins were being churned, and his eye fell on a woman who had two sons like cheetahs (in agility), playing beneath her with two pomegranates. Abu Zar' married her and divorced me. After him I married a young, noble man, who rode a swift horse and carried a Khatti spear. He brought many cattle back from the pasture for my daughter, and gave me a pair of every kind of grazing animal, and said: Eat, and feed your family too. Yet if I gathered everything I received from him (my new husband) and put it in the smallest of Abu Zar's vessels, it would not fill it."
Sayyidah Aishah said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'."
The first said: My husband is feeble and useless; every defect is found in him. He may wound you, or break one of your limbs, or do both to you.
The second said: My husband is like the meat of a lean camel (placed) on a rugged mountain; it is neither fat enough to be climbed for, nor easy enough to be carried down.
The third said: My husband is the tall (useless) one; if I keep silent he divorces me, and if I speak he keeps me hanging (without a decision).
The fourth said: My husband, when he drinks, drinks everything up, and when he sleeps, he wraps himself up (in his blanket), and he does not put his hand in to learn of my sorrow.
The fifth said: My husband: I cannot relate his whole story; I fear I would not be able to describe it completely. Urwah said: These five were complaining (about their husbands).
The sixth said: My husband is like the night of Tihamah: neither hot, nor cold, nor any fear.
The seventh said: My husband, when he enters the house, is like a gentle cheetah, and when he goes out he becomes a lion, and he does not ask about what he left (in the house).
The eighth said: My husband's scent is the scent of zarnab, and his touch is (soft) like that of a rabbit; I keep him in hand while he overcomes (other) people.
The ninth said: My husband is of the lofty pillar, of the long sword-belt (that is, tall and of high rank), of abundant ashes (that is, very hospitable), and his house is near the place of assembly.
The tenth said: My husband is Abu Malik, and what is Abu Malik! He owns camels that often go out to graze and seldom stay kneeling at home; when they hear the sound of the lute, they are certain that they are to be slaughtered (for the guests).
The eleventh said: My husband is Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'! He weighed down my ears with ornaments, filled my upper arms with fat, and pleased me so much that I swelled with joy. The son of Abu Zar', and what is the son of Abu Zar'! His sleeping place is like a (slender) stripped palm stalk, and the foreleg of a young kid satisfies his hunger. The daughter of Abu Zar', and what is the daughter of Abu Zar'! She fills her garment, is slender in her wrap, the best of the women (of her family), a cause of envy to her co-wives, obedient to her father and obedient to her mother. The maidservant of Abu Zar', and what is the maidservant of Abu Zar'! She does not spread our talk (here and there), does not waste our provisions, and does not fill our house with rubbish.
Abu Zar' came to me when I was in hardship, and he took me in, and he brought me to people who had the neighing of horses, the groaning of camels, and the bustle of threshing and cleaning grain. With him I sleep and rise late at my ease, and I drink and am fully content, and whatever I say I am not rebuked for it.
Once Abu Zar' went out from my home (at a time) when the milk skins were being churned, and his eye fell on a woman who had two sons like cheetahs (in agility), playing beneath her with two pomegranates. Abu Zar' married her and divorced me. After him I married a young, noble man, who rode a swift horse and carried a Khatti spear. He brought many cattle back from the pasture for my daughter, and gave me a pair of every kind of grazing animal, and said: Eat, and feed your family too. Yet if I gathered everything I received from him (my new husband) and put it in the smallest of Abu Zar's vessels, it would not fill it."
Sayyidah Aishah said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'."
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ الْمُعَلَّى، ثنا هِشَامُ بْنُ عَمَّارٍ، ح وَحَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ عِقَالٍ الْحَرَّانِيُّ، ثنا أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ النُّفَيْلِيُّ، ح وَحَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْوَهَّابِ بْنِ نَجْدَةَ الْحَوْطِيُّ، ثنا أَبِي، ح وَحَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَمْرِو بْنِ خَالِدٍ الْحَرَّانِيُّ، ثنا أَبِي، قَالُوا: ثنا عِيسَى بْنُ يُونُسَ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَخِيهِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ» ، فَذَكَرَ نَحْوَهُ .
A similar hadith is also narrated from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'."
حَدَّثَنَا الْحُسَيْنُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ التُّسْتَرِيُّ، وَجَعْفَرُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الْفِرْيَابِيُّ، قَالَا: حَدَّثَنَا حَامِدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى الْبَلْخِيُّ، قَالَ: ثنا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ، عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ شَابُورٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ» فَذَكَرَ نَحْوَهُ
It is narrated from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), with a similar hadith, that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'."
حَدَّثَنَا مُعَاذُ بْنُ الْمُثَنَّى، وَعَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ حَنْبَلٍ، قَالَا: ثنا يَحْيَى بْنُ مَعِينٍ، ثنا عُقْبَةُ بْنُ خَالِدٍ السَّكُونِيُّ، ثنا هِشَامُ بْنُ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَ عُقْبَةُ بْنُ خَالِدٍ: قَالَ هِشَامُ بْنُ عُرْوَةَ: فَحَدَّثَنِي يَزِيدُ بْنُ رُومَانَ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «اجْتَمَعَ إِحْدَى عَشْرَةَ امْرَأَةً فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ فَتَعَاقَدْنَ أَنْ يَتَصَادَقْنَ بَيْنَهُنَّ وَلَا يَكْتُمْنَ مِنْ أَخْبَارِ أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ شَيْئًا» ، فَقَالَتِ الْأُولَى: زَوْجِي لَحْمُ جَمَلٍ غَثٍّ عَلَى رَأْسِ جَبَلٍ لَا سَهْلٍ فَيُرْتَقَى وَلَا سَمِينٍ فَيُنْتَقَلُ. قَالَتِ الثَّانِيَة: زَوْجِي لَا أَبُثُّ خَبَرَهُ، إِنِّي أَخَافُ أَنْ لَا أَذَرَهُ إِنْ أَذْكُرْهُ أَذْكُرْ عُجَرَهُ وَبُجَرَهُ. قَالَتِ الثَّالِثَةُ: زَوْجِي الْعَشَنَّقُ إِنْ أَنْطِقْ أُطَلَّقْ وَإِنْ أَسْكُتْ أُعَلَّقْ. قَالَتِ الرَّابِعَةُ: زَوْجِي إِنْ أَكَلَ لَفَّ وَإِنْ شَرِبَ اشْتَفَّ وَإِنِ اضْطَجَعَ الْتَفَّ وَلَا يُولِجُ الْكَفَّ لِيَعْلَمَ الْبَثَّ. قَالَتِ الْخَامِسَةُ: زَوْجِي عَيَايَاءُ طَبَاقَاءُ، كُلُّ دَاءٍ لَهُ دَاءٌ، شَجَّكِ أَوْ فَلَّكِ أَوْ جَمَعَ كُلًّا لَكِ. قَالَتِ السَّادِسَةُ: زَوْجِي كَلَيْلِ تِهَامَةَ لَا حَرٌّ، وَلَا قَرٌّ، وَلَا مَخَافَةَ. قَالَتِ السَّابِعَةُ: زَوْجِي إِنْ دَخَلَ فَهِدَ، وَإِنْ خَرَجَ أَسِدَ، وَلَا يَسْأَلُ عَمَّا عَهِدَ. قَالَتِ الثَّامِنَةُ: زَوْجِي الْمَسُّ مَسُّ أَرْنَبٍ، وَالرِّيحُ رِيحُ زَرْنَبٍ، وَأَنَا أَغْلِبُهُ وَالنَّاسَ يَغْلِبُ. قَالَتِ التَّاسِعَةُ: زَوْجِي رُفَيْعُ الْعِمَادِ، طَوِيلُ النِّجَادِ، عَظِيمُ الرَّمَادِ قَرِيبُ الْبَيْتِ مِنَ النَّادِ. قَالَتِ الْعَاشِرَةُ: زَوْجِي مَالِكٌ هُوَ مَالِكٌ، وَمَا مَالِكٌ؟ مَالِكٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ ذَلِكَ، لَهُ إِبِلٌ قَلِيلَاتُ الْمَسَارِحِ، كَثِيرَاتُ الْمَبَارِكِ، إِذَا سَمِعْنَ صَوْتَ الْمَزَاهِرِ أَيْقَنَّ أَنَّهُنَّ هَوَالِكُ. قَالَتِ الْحَادِيَةَ عَشْرَةَ: زَوْجِي أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَمَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ؟ أَنَاسَ مِنْ حُلِيٍّ أُذُنَيَّ، وَمَلَأَ مِنْ شَحْمِ عَضُدِيَّ، وَبَجَّحَنِي فَبَجِحَتْ إِلَيَّ نَفْسِي، وَجَدَنِي فِي أَهْلِ غُنَيْمَةٍ بِشِقٍّ فَجَعَلَنِي فِي أَهْلِ صَهِيلٍ وَأَطِيطٍ وَدَائِسٍ وَمُنَقٍّ، فَعِنْدَهُ أَقُولُ فَلَا أُقَبَّحُ، وَأَرْقُدُ فَأَتَصَبَّحُ وَأَشْرَبُ فَأَتَقَنَّحُ، أُمُّ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا أُمُّ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ عُكُومُهَا رَدَاحٌ، وَبَيْتُهَا فَسَاحٌ. ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ مَضْجَعُهُ كَمَسَلِّ شَطْبَةٍ يُشْبِعُهُ ذِرَاعُ الْجَفْرَةِ. بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ طَوْعُ أَبِيهَا وَطَوْعُ أُمِّهَا وَمِلْءُ كِسَائِهَا وَغَيْظُ جَارَتِهَا. جَارِيَةُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا جَارِيَةُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ لَا تَبُثُّ حَدِيثَنَا وَلَا تَمْلَأُ مِيرَتَنَا تَنْقِيثًا، لَا تَمْلَأُ بَيْتَنَا تَعْشِيشًا. خَرَجَ أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَالْأَوْطَابُ تُمْخَضُ، فَمَرَّ بِامْرَأَةٍ لَهَا ابْنَانِ لَهَا كَالْفَهْدَيْنِ يَلْعَبَانِ مِنْ تَحْتِ خَصْرِهَا بِرُمَّانَتَيْنِ، فَطَلَّقَنِي وَنَكَحَهَا، فَنَكَحْتُ بَعْدَهُ رَجُلًا سَرِيًّا، رَكِبَ شَرِيًّا، وَأَخَذَ خَطِّيًّا، وَأَرَاحَ عَلَيَّ نَعَمًا ثَرِيًّا، وَأَعْطَانِي مِنْ كُلِّ رَائِحَةٍ زَوْجًا، فَقَالَ: كُلِي أُمَّ زَرْعٍ وَمِيرِي أَهْلَكِ. فَلَوْ جَمَعْتُ كُلَّ شَيْءٍ أَعْطَانِيهِ مَا مَلَأَ أَصْغَرَ إِنَاءٍ مِنْ آنِيَةِ أَبِي زَرْعٍ "، فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ»
Hisham bin Urwah narrates from his father, from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her). Uqbah bin Khalid said: Hisham bin Urwah said: Yazid bin Ruman narrated to me from Urwah, from Sayyidah Aishah, from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), that he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "In the Days of Ignorance, eleven women gathered together, and they made a pact among themselves that they would speak truthfully to one another and would not conceal anything about their husbands.
The first said: My husband is like the meat of a lean camel (placed) on the top of a mountain; (the mountain) is neither easy to climb, nor is (the meat) fat enough to be carried away.
The second said: I will not spread the news of my husband; I fear that I would not be able to describe him completely. If I were to mention him, I would have to recount all his faults, small and large.
The third said: My husband is tall (and useless); if I speak, he divorces me, and if I keep silent, he leaves me hanging (without a decision).
The fourth said: My husband, if he eats, he gathers up everything; if he drinks, he drinks up (everything); if he lies down, he wraps himself up (in a blanket); and he does not put his hand (on my body) to learn my condition.
The fifth said: My husband is feeble and useless; every fault is in him. He may wound you, or break (one of your limbs), or do both together.
The sixth said: My husband is like the night of Tihamah: neither hot, nor cold, nor any fear.
The seventh said: My husband, when he enters the house, is like a gentle cheetah, and when he goes out, he becomes a lion, and he does not ask about what he left (in the house).
The eighth said: My husband's touch is (soft) like a rabbit's, and his scent is the scent of zarnab, and I keep him under my control while he prevails over (other) people.
The ninth said: My husband is one with a lofty pillar, a long sword-belt, abundant ashes, and his house is near the place of assembly.
The tenth said: My husband is Malik, yes, he is Malik, and what is Malik! Malik is even better than that. He has camels that seldom go out to graze and mostly stay kneeling at home; when they hear the sound of the lute, they are certain that they are about to be slaughtered.
The eleventh said: My husband is Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'! He weighed down my ears with ornaments, and filled my upper arms with fat, and he made me happy, so my heart became happy too. He had found me in a family with a few sheep (in a poor condition), then he brought me into an environment of neighing horses, groaning camels, and those who thresh the crops and clean the grain. With him, whatever I say, I am not rebuked for it; I sleep and wake late at leisure; and I drink and am fully satisfied. The mother of Abu Zar', and what is the mother of Abu Zar'! Her bags of provisions are full and heavy, and her house is spacious. The son of Abu Zar', and what is the son of Abu Zar'! His sleeping place is like a (thin) palm stalk drawn out, and the foreleg of a young kid satisfies him. The daughter of Abu Zar', and what is the daughter of Abu Zar'! Obedient to her father, obedient to her mother, filling her garment, and a cause of envy for her co-wife. The maidservant of Abu Zar', and what is the maidservant of Abu Zar'! She does not spread our talk (here and there), nor does she waste and scatter our provisions, nor does she fill our house with rubbish.
One day Abu Zar' went out while the milk skins were being churned, and he passed by a woman who had two sons like cheetahs (in agility), playing with two pomegranates beneath her waist. He divorced me and married her. After him, I married a dignified man who rode a swift horse, carried a Khatti spear, brought many cattle back from pasture for me, and gave me a pair of every kind of grazing animal, and said: O Umm Zar'! Eat, and feed your family as well. Yet if I were to gather everything he gave me, it would not fill even the smallest of Abu Zar's vessels."
Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'."
The first said: My husband is like the meat of a lean camel (placed) on the top of a mountain; (the mountain) is neither easy to climb, nor is (the meat) fat enough to be carried away.
The second said: I will not spread the news of my husband; I fear that I would not be able to describe him completely. If I were to mention him, I would have to recount all his faults, small and large.
The third said: My husband is tall (and useless); if I speak, he divorces me, and if I keep silent, he leaves me hanging (without a decision).
The fourth said: My husband, if he eats, he gathers up everything; if he drinks, he drinks up (everything); if he lies down, he wraps himself up (in a blanket); and he does not put his hand (on my body) to learn my condition.
The fifth said: My husband is feeble and useless; every fault is in him. He may wound you, or break (one of your limbs), or do both together.
The sixth said: My husband is like the night of Tihamah: neither hot, nor cold, nor any fear.
The seventh said: My husband, when he enters the house, is like a gentle cheetah, and when he goes out, he becomes a lion, and he does not ask about what he left (in the house).
The eighth said: My husband's touch is (soft) like a rabbit's, and his scent is the scent of zarnab, and I keep him under my control while he prevails over (other) people.
The ninth said: My husband is one with a lofty pillar, a long sword-belt, abundant ashes, and his house is near the place of assembly.
The tenth said: My husband is Malik, yes, he is Malik, and what is Malik! Malik is even better than that. He has camels that seldom go out to graze and mostly stay kneeling at home; when they hear the sound of the lute, they are certain that they are about to be slaughtered.
The eleventh said: My husband is Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'! He weighed down my ears with ornaments, and filled my upper arms with fat, and he made me happy, so my heart became happy too. He had found me in a family with a few sheep (in a poor condition), then he brought me into an environment of neighing horses, groaning camels, and those who thresh the crops and clean the grain. With him, whatever I say, I am not rebuked for it; I sleep and wake late at leisure; and I drink and am fully satisfied. The mother of Abu Zar', and what is the mother of Abu Zar'! Her bags of provisions are full and heavy, and her house is spacious. The son of Abu Zar', and what is the son of Abu Zar'! His sleeping place is like a (thin) palm stalk drawn out, and the foreleg of a young kid satisfies him. The daughter of Abu Zar', and what is the daughter of Abu Zar'! Obedient to her father, obedient to her mother, filling her garment, and a cause of envy for her co-wife. The maidservant of Abu Zar', and what is the maidservant of Abu Zar'! She does not spread our talk (here and there), nor does she waste and scatter our provisions, nor does she fill our house with rubbish.
One day Abu Zar' went out while the milk skins were being churned, and he passed by a woman who had two sons like cheetahs (in agility), playing with two pomegranates beneath her waist. He divorced me and married her. After him, I married a dignified man who rode a swift horse, carried a Khatti spear, brought many cattle back from pasture for me, and gave me a pair of every kind of grazing animal, and said: O Umm Zar'! Eat, and feed your family as well. Yet if I were to gather everything he gave me, it would not fill even the smallest of Abu Zar's vessels."
Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'."
حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ الْمُبَارَكِ الصَّنْعَانِيُّ، ثنا زَيْدُ بْنُ الْمُبَارَكِ، ح وَحَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ هَارُونَ، وَعَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ حَنْبَلٍ، قَالَا: ثنا أَبُو خَيْثَمَةَ زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، ثنا رَيْحَانُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، ثنا عَبَّادُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ» ، فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ وَمَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ، وَأُمُّ زَرْعٍ؟، قَالَ: " اجْتَمَعْنَ عَشْرُ نِسْوَةٍ فَأَقْسَمْنَ لَيَصْدُقْنَ عَنْ أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ، فَقَالَتْ إِحْدَاهُنُّ: لَا أُخْبِرُ خَبَرَهُ أَخْشَى أَنْ لَا أَذَرَهُ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: هُوَ الْعَشَنَّقُ إِنْ أَسْكُتْ أُعَلَّقْ وَإِنْ أَنْطِقْ أُطَلَّقْ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: هُوَ لَحْمُ جَمَلٍ غَثٍّ عَلَى جَبَلٍ لَا سَمِينٍ فَيُرْتَقَى إِلَيْهِ وَلَا سَهْلٍ فَيُنْتَقَلُ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: هُوَ إِذَا أَكَلَ لَفَّ، وَإِذَا شَرِبَ اشْتَفَّ، وَلَا يَدْخُلُ الْكَفَّ فَيَخْرُجُ الْبَثَّ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: هُوَ لَيْلُ تِهَامَةَ لَا حَرٌّ، وَلَا قَرٌّ، وَلَا مَخَافَةَ . قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: هُوَ إِذَا دَخَلَ فَهِدَ، وَإِذَا خَرَجَ أَسِدَ، وَلَا يَسْأَلُ عَمَّا عَهِدَ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: الرِّيحُ رِيحُ زَرْنَبٍ، وَالْمَسُّ مَسُّ أَرْنَبٍ، وَإِنَّمَا أَغْلِبُهُ وَالنَّاسَ يَغْلِبُ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: هُوَ طَوِيلُ الزِّنَادِ، رُفَيْعُ الْعِمَادِ، عَظِيمُ الرَّمَادِ، قَرِيبُ الْبَيْتِ مِنَ النَّادِ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: هُوَ مَالِكٌ وَمَا مَالِكٌ؟ لَهُ إِبِلٌ كَثِيرَاتُ الْمَسَالِكِ، قَلِيلَاتُ الْمَبَارِكِ، إِذَا سَمِعْنَ صَوْتَ الْمِزْمَارِ أَيْقَنَّ أَنَّهُنَّ هَوَالِكُ. قَالَتِ الْأُخْرَى: هُوَ أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَمَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ؟ صَاحِبُ نَعَمٍ وَزَرْعٍ، آنَسَنِي فَآنَسَتْ مِنْ حُلِيٍّ أُذُنَيَّ، وَمِنْ شَحْمٍ عَضُدِيَّ، وَبَجَّحَنِي فَبَجِحَتْ إِلَيَّ نَفْسِي، فَعِنْدَهُ أَرْقُدُ فَأَتَصَبَّحُ وَأَشْرَبُ فَأَتَقَمَّحُ وَأَقُولُ فَلَا أُقَبَّحُ، أَخَذَنِي مِنْ أَهْلِ بَيْتٍ بِشِقٍّ فَجَعَلَنِي فِي أَهْلِ صَهِيلٍ وَأَطِيطٍ وَدَائِسٍ وَمُنَقٍّ. ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ مَرْقَدُهُ كَالشَّطْبَةِ، وَيَكْفِيهِ ذِرَاعُ الْقَصَبَةِ. بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ مِلْءُ كِسَائِهَا وَعَطْفُ رِدَائِهَا، وَقُرَّةُ عَيْنٍ لِأَبِيهَا وَأُمِّهَا، وَزَيْنٌ لِأَهْلِهَا، وَغَيْرُ مُجَازٍ بِهَا. خَادِمُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا خَادِمُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ لَا تَفْشِي حَدِيثَنَا تَبْثِيثًا، وَلَا تُفْسِدُ مِيرَتَنَا تَنْقِيثًا. فَخَرَجَ مِنْ عِنْدِي أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَالْأَوْطَابُ تُمْخَضُ فَرَأَى امْرَأَةً مَعَهَا ابْنَانِ لَهَا كَالْفَهْدَيْنِ يَلْعَبَانِ مِنْ تَحْتِهَا بِرُمَّانَتَيْنِ، فَنَكَحَهَا وَطَلَّقَنِي، فَنَكَحْتُ بَعْدَهُ شَابًّا سَرِيًّا، فَخَرَجَ شَحِيًّا وَأَخَذَ خَطِّيًّا فَسَاقَ نَعَمًا ثَرِيًّا، وَأَعْطَانِي مِنْ كُلِّ سَائِمَةٍ زَوْجًا، وَقَالَ مِيرِي أَهْلَكِ يَا أُمَّ زَرْعٍ، فَقُلْتُ: لَوْ كَانَ هَذَا أَجْمَعُ فِي وِعَاءٍ مِنْ أَوْعِيَةِ أَبِي زَرْعٍ لَمْ تَمْلِهِ. قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ: فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَنْتَ خَيْرٌ لِي مِنْ أَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ
Abu Khaythamah Zuhayr bin Harb narrates through Rayhan bin Sa'id, from Abbad bin Mansur, from Hisham bin Urwah, from his father, from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'." I said: O Messenger of Allah! Who were Abu Zar' and Umm Zar'? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Ten women gathered and swore that they would speak truthfully about their husbands.
One said: I will not tell the news of my husband; I fear that I would not be able to describe him completely.
Another said: He is tall (and useless); if I keep silent, he leaves me hanging, and if I speak, he divorces me.
The third said: He is like the meat of a lean camel (placed) on a mountain; it is neither fat enough that one would climb up to it, nor soft enough that it could be brought down and carried away.
The fourth said: He, if he eats, gathers up everything, and if he drinks, drinks up everything, and he does not put his hand inside to learn (my) grief.
The fifth said: He is like the night of Tihamah: neither hot, nor cold, nor any fear.
The sixth said: He, when he enters the house, is like a gentle cheetah, and when he goes out, he becomes a lion, and he does not ask about what he left behind.
The seventh said: His scent is the scent of zarnab, and his touch is (soft) like a rabbit's, and I keep him under my control while he prevails over (other) people.
The eighth said: He is one with a long fire-stick, a lofty pillar, abundant ashes, and his house is near the place of assembly.
The ninth said: He is Malik, and what is Malik! He has camels that mostly go out to graze and seldom stay kneeling at home; when they hear the sound of the flute, they are certain that they are about to be slaughtered.
The tenth said: He is Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'! He is the owner of livestock and crops. He made me feel at ease, so I became at ease; he filled my ears with ornaments and my upper arms with fat, and he made me happy, so my heart became happy too. With him, I sleep and wake late at leisure, I drink and am fully satisfied, and whatever I say, I am not rebuked for it. He took me from a household that was in hardship, and brought me into an environment of neighing horses, groaning camels, and those who thresh the crops and clean the grain. The son of Abu Zar', and what is the son of Abu Zar'! His sleeping manner is like a (thin) palm stalk, and (food) the size of a small stick suffices him. The daughter of Abu Zar', and what is the daughter of Abu Zar'! Filling her garment, wrapping her shawl around herself, the coolness of the eyes of her father and mother, an adornment for her family, and deserving of no blame. The maidservant of Abu Zar', and what is the maidservant of Abu Zar'! She does not waste our talk by spreading it, nor does she waste our provisions by scattering them.
Then one day Abu Zar' went out from my presence while the milk skins were being churned, and he saw a woman with her two sons like cheetahs, playing with two pomegranates beneath her. He married her and divorced me. After him, I married a dignified young man; he proved generous, carried a Khatti spear, drove in many cattle, and gave me a pair of every kind of grazing animal, and said: O Umm Zar'! Feed your family. I said: If all of this were gathered in even one of Abu Zar's vessels, it would not fill it."
Sayyidah Aishah said: I said: O Messenger of Allah! You are better to me than Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'.
One said: I will not tell the news of my husband; I fear that I would not be able to describe him completely.
Another said: He is tall (and useless); if I keep silent, he leaves me hanging, and if I speak, he divorces me.
The third said: He is like the meat of a lean camel (placed) on a mountain; it is neither fat enough that one would climb up to it, nor soft enough that it could be brought down and carried away.
The fourth said: He, if he eats, gathers up everything, and if he drinks, drinks up everything, and he does not put his hand inside to learn (my) grief.
The fifth said: He is like the night of Tihamah: neither hot, nor cold, nor any fear.
The sixth said: He, when he enters the house, is like a gentle cheetah, and when he goes out, he becomes a lion, and he does not ask about what he left behind.
The seventh said: His scent is the scent of zarnab, and his touch is (soft) like a rabbit's, and I keep him under my control while he prevails over (other) people.
The eighth said: He is one with a long fire-stick, a lofty pillar, abundant ashes, and his house is near the place of assembly.
The ninth said: He is Malik, and what is Malik! He has camels that mostly go out to graze and seldom stay kneeling at home; when they hear the sound of the flute, they are certain that they are about to be slaughtered.
The tenth said: He is Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'! He is the owner of livestock and crops. He made me feel at ease, so I became at ease; he filled my ears with ornaments and my upper arms with fat, and he made me happy, so my heart became happy too. With him, I sleep and wake late at leisure, I drink and am fully satisfied, and whatever I say, I am not rebuked for it. He took me from a household that was in hardship, and brought me into an environment of neighing horses, groaning camels, and those who thresh the crops and clean the grain. The son of Abu Zar', and what is the son of Abu Zar'! His sleeping manner is like a (thin) palm stalk, and (food) the size of a small stick suffices him. The daughter of Abu Zar', and what is the daughter of Abu Zar'! Filling her garment, wrapping her shawl around herself, the coolness of the eyes of her father and mother, an adornment for her family, and deserving of no blame. The maidservant of Abu Zar', and what is the maidservant of Abu Zar'! She does not waste our talk by spreading it, nor does she waste our provisions by scattering them.
Then one day Abu Zar' went out from my presence while the milk skins were being churned, and he saw a woman with her two sons like cheetahs, playing with two pomegranates beneath her. He married her and divorced me. After him, I married a dignified young man; he proved generous, carried a Khatti spear, drove in many cattle, and gave me a pair of every kind of grazing animal, and said: O Umm Zar'! Feed your family. I said: If all of this were gathered in even one of Abu Zar's vessels, it would not fill it."
Sayyidah Aishah said: I said: O Messenger of Allah! You are better to me than Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'.
حَدَّثَنَا زَكَرِيَّا بْنُ يَحْيَى السَّاجِيُّ، ثنا عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ زَبَالَةَ الْمَخْزُومِيُّ، قَالَ: ثنا عَبْدُ الْجَبَّارِ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ الْمساحقي، ثنا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ أَبِي الزِّنَادِ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «يَا عَائِشَةُ كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ، إِلَّا أَنَّ أَبَا زَرْعٍ طَلَّقَ، وَأَنَا لَا أُطَلِّقُ»
It is narrated from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O Aishah! I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar', except that Abu Zar' divorced, and I do not divorce."
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو حُصَيْنٍ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْحُسَيْنِ الْقَاضِي، وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ بْنِ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، قَالَا: ثنا عُبَيْدُ بْنُ يَعِيشَ، ثنا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَعْلَى، ثنا عَبْدُ الْكَرِيمِ أَبُو بَكْرٍ الشَّامِيُّ، عَنْ يُونُسَ بْنِ أَبِي إِسْحَاقَ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ»
It is narrated from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), with a similar hadith, that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'."
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ هَارُونَ، ثنا حَجَّاجُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ الشَّاعِرُ، ح وَحَدَّثَنَا زَكَرِيَّا بْنُ يَحْيَى السَّاجِيُّ، قَالَ: ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ الجَوَّازُ، ح وَحَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ الرَّازِيُّ، قَالَ: ثنا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ زُرَيْقٍ الرَّاسِبِيُّ، وَإِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ الْجُوزَجَانِيُّ، قَالُوا: ثنا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الْجُدِّيُّ، ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ أَبُو نَافِعٍ الطَّائِفِيُّ، حَدَّثَنِي الْقَاسِمُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْوَاحِدِ بْنِ أَيْمَنَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي عُمَرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا، قَالَتْ: فَخُرْتُ بِمَالِ أَبِي فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ، وَكَانَ قَدْرَ أَلْفِ أَلْفِ أُوقِيَّةٍ، فَقَالَ لِيَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «اسْكُتِي يَا عَائِشَةُ فَإِنِّي كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ» ، ثُمَّ أَنْشَأَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يُحَدِّثُ، «أَنَّ إِحْدَى عَشْرَةَ امْرَأَةً اجْتَمَعْنَ فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ فَتَعَاهَدْنَ لَتُخْبِرَنَّ كُلُّ امْرَأَةٍ بِمَا فِي زَوْجِهَا وَلَا تَكْذِبُ» ، قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: اللَّيْلُ لَيْلُ تِهَامَةَ لَا حَرٌّ وَلَا بَرْدٌ وَلَا مَخَافَةَ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: الرِّيحُ رِيحُ زَرْنَبٍ، وَالْمَسُّ مَسُّ أَرْنَبٍ، وَأَغْلِبُهُ وَالنَّاسَ يَغْلِبُ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: وَاللهِ مَا عَلِمْتُ إِنَّهُ لَرَفِيعُ الْعِمَادِ، طَوِيلُ النِّجَادِ، عَظِيمُ الرَّمَادِ، قَرِيبُ الْبَيْتِ مِنَ النَّادِ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: نَكَحْتُ مَالِكًا وَمَا مَالِكٌ؟ لَهُ إِبِلٌ كَثِيرَاتُ الْمَسَارِحِ، قَلِيلَاتُ الْمَبَارِكِ، إِذَا سَمِعْنَ صَوْتَ الْمَزَاهِرِ أَيْقَنَّ أَنَّهُنَّ هَوَالِكُ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: زَوْجِي أَذْكُرُهُ، إِنْ أَذْكُرْهُ أَذْكُرْ عُجَرَهُ وَبُجَرَهُ، أَخْشَى أَنْ لَا أَذَرَهُ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: وَاللهِ مَا عَلِمْتُ إِذَا دَخَلَ فَهِدَ، وَإِذَا خَرَجَ أَسِدَ وَلَا يَسْأَلُ عَمَّا عَهِدَ . قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: لَحْمُ جَمَلٍ غَثٍّ عَلَى جَبَلٍ لَا بِالسَّمِينِ فَيُنْتَقَلُ، وَلَا بِالسَّهْلِ فَيُرْتَقَى إِلَيْهِ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: وَاللهِ مَا عَلِمْتُ إِنَّهُ إِذَا أَكَلَ لَفَّ، وَإِذَا شَرِبَ اشْتَفَّ، وَإِذَا ذَبَحَ اغْتَثَّ، وَإِذَا نَامَ الْتَفَّ، وَلَا يَدْخُلُ الْكَفَّ فَيَعْلَمَ الْبَثَّ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: نَكَحْتُ الْعَشَنَّقَ إِنْ أَنْطِقْ أُطَلَّقْ، وَإِنْ أَسْكُتْ أُعَلَّقْ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: عَيَايَاءُ طَبَاقَاءُ، كُلُّ دَاءٍ لَهُ دَوَاءٌ، شَجَّكِ أَوْ فَلَّكِ، أَوْ جَمَعَ كُلًّا لَكِ. قِيلَ: «أَنْتِ يَا فُلَانَةُ» . قَالَتْ: نَكَحْتُ أَبَا زَرْعٍ، وَمَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ؟ أَنَاسَ مِنْ حُلِيٍّ أُذُنَيَّ، وَمَلَأَ مِنْ شَحْمٍ عَضُدِيَّ، وَبَجَّحَ نَفْسِي فَبَجِحَتْ إِلَيَّ، وَجَدَنِي فِي غُنَيْمَةٍ بِشِقٍّ، فَجَعَلَنِي بَيْنَ حَائِلٍ وَصَائِلٍ وَأَطِيطٍ وَدَائِسٍ وَمُنَقٍّ، فَأَنَا أَنَامُ عِنْدَهُ فَأَتَصَبَّحُ، وَأَشْرَبُ فَأَتَقَمَّحُ، وَأَنْطِقُ فَلَا أَتَقَبَّحُ. ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ مَضْجَعُهُ مَسَلُّ الشَّطْبَةِ، وَيُشْبِعُهُ ذِرَاعُ الْجَفْرَةِ. بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ مِلْءُ إِزَارِهَا، وَزَيْنُ أَبِيهَا، وَزَيْنُ أُمِّهَا، وَخَيْرُ جَارَتِهَا. جَارِيَةُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ وَمَا جَارِيَةُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ؟ لَا تُخْرِجُ حَدِيثَنَا تَبْثِيثًا وَلَا تُهْلِكُ مِيرَتَنَا تَنْقِيثًا، فَخَرَجَ مِنْ عِنْدِي أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَالْأَوْطَابُ تُمْخَضُ فَإِذَا هُوَ بِأُمِّ غُلَامَيْنِ كَالسَّقْرَيْنِ، فَتَزَوَّجَهَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَطَلَّقَنِي، فَاسْتَبْدَلْتُ وَكُلُّ بَدَلٍ أَعْوَرُ، فَنَكَحْتُ شَابًّا سَرِيًّا، رَكِبَ شَرِيًّا، وَأَخَذَ خَطِّيًّا، وَأَعْطَانِي نَعَمًا ثَرِيًّا وَأَعْطَانِي مِنْ كُلِّ سَائِمَةٍ زَوْجًا، فَقَالَ: امْتَارِي يَا أُمَّ زَرْعٍ مِيرِي أَهْلَكِ، فَجَمَعْتُ مِنْ ذَلِكَ فَلَمْ يَمْلَأْ أَصْغَرَ وِعَاءٍ مِنْ أَوْعِيَةِ أَبِي زَرْعٍ. قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ: فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ بَلْ أَنْتَ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي زَرْعٍ .
Urwah narrates from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), who said: In the Days of Ignorance I boasted of my father's wealth, which amounted to about one million uqiyah, so the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: "Be quiet, O Aishah! I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'." Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) began to relate that eleven women gathered in the Days of Ignorance and made a pact among themselves that each woman would tell about her husband and would not lie.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: (My husband) is like the night of Tihamah: neither hot, nor cold, nor any fear.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: (My husband's) scent is the scent of zarnab, and his touch is (soft) like a rabbit's, and I keep him under my control while he prevails over (other) people.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: By Allah! All I know is that he is one with a lofty pillar, a long sword-belt, abundant ashes, and his house is near the place of assembly.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: I married Malik, and what is Malik! He has camels that mostly go out to graze and seldom stay kneeling at home; when they hear the sound of the lute, they are certain that they are about to be slaughtered.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: My husband, I mention him; if I were to mention him, I would have to recount all his faults, small and large; I fear that I would not be able to describe him completely.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: By Allah! All I know is that when he enters the house, he is like a gentle cheetah, and when he goes out, he becomes a lion, and he does not ask about what he left behind.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: (My husband) is like the meat of a lean camel (placed) on a mountain; it is neither fat enough to be brought down, nor soft enough that one would climb up to it.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: By Allah! All I know is that if he eats, he gathers up everything; if he drinks, he drinks up everything; if he slaughters, he picks a lean animal; if he sleeps, he wraps himself up (in a blanket); and he does not put his hand inside to learn my grief.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: I married a tall (useless) man; if I speak, he divorces me, and if I keep silent, he leaves me hanging.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: He is feeble and useless; every illness has a cure; he may wound you, or break one of your limbs, or do both together.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: I married Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'! He weighed down my ears with ornaments, and filled my upper arms with fat, and he made me happy, so I became happy too. He had found me in a poor family with a few sheep, then he brought me into an environment bustling with neighing horses, groaning camels, and those who thresh the crops and clean the grain. So with him I sleep and wake late at leisure, I drink and am fully satisfied, and whatever I say, I am not rebuked for it. The son of Abu Zar', and what is the son of Abu Zar'! His sleeping manner is like a (thin) palm stalk, and the foreleg of a young kid satisfies him. The daughter of Abu Zar', and what is the daughter of Abu Zar'! Filling her wrap, the adornment of her father, the adornment of her mother, and the best (example) for her co-wife. The maidservant of Abu Zar', and what is the maidservant of Abu Zar'! She does not waste our talk by spreading it, nor does she waste our provisions by scattering them.
One day Abu Zar' went out from my presence while the milk skins were being churned, and his eyes fell upon a woman who had two sons (agile) like falcons, so Abu Zar' married her and divorced me. I sought a replacement (for him), and every replacement has some deficiency. I married a dignified young man who rode a swift horse, carried a Khatti spear, gave me many cattle, and gave me a pair of every kind of grazing animal, and said: O Umm Zar'! Take provisions and feed your family. I gathered all of it, yet it did not fill even the smallest of Abu Zar's vessels.
Sayyidah Aishah said: I said: O Messenger of Allah! Rather, you are better than Abu Zar'.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: (My husband) is like the night of Tihamah: neither hot, nor cold, nor any fear.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: (My husband's) scent is the scent of zarnab, and his touch is (soft) like a rabbit's, and I keep him under my control while he prevails over (other) people.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: By Allah! All I know is that he is one with a lofty pillar, a long sword-belt, abundant ashes, and his house is near the place of assembly.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: I married Malik, and what is Malik! He has camels that mostly go out to graze and seldom stay kneeling at home; when they hear the sound of the lute, they are certain that they are about to be slaughtered.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: My husband, I mention him; if I were to mention him, I would have to recount all his faults, small and large; I fear that I would not be able to describe him completely.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: By Allah! All I know is that when he enters the house, he is like a gentle cheetah, and when he goes out, he becomes a lion, and he does not ask about what he left behind.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: (My husband) is like the meat of a lean camel (placed) on a mountain; it is neither fat enough to be brought down, nor soft enough that one would climb up to it.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: By Allah! All I know is that if he eats, he gathers up everything; if he drinks, he drinks up everything; if he slaughters, he picks a lean animal; if he sleeps, he wraps himself up (in a blanket); and he does not put his hand inside to learn my grief.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: I married a tall (useless) man; if I speak, he divorces me, and if I keep silent, he leaves me hanging.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: He is feeble and useless; every illness has a cure; he may wound you, or break one of your limbs, or do both together.
It was said: You tell, O so-and-so! She said: I married Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'! He weighed down my ears with ornaments, and filled my upper arms with fat, and he made me happy, so I became happy too. He had found me in a poor family with a few sheep, then he brought me into an environment bustling with neighing horses, groaning camels, and those who thresh the crops and clean the grain. So with him I sleep and wake late at leisure, I drink and am fully satisfied, and whatever I say, I am not rebuked for it. The son of Abu Zar', and what is the son of Abu Zar'! His sleeping manner is like a (thin) palm stalk, and the foreleg of a young kid satisfies him. The daughter of Abu Zar', and what is the daughter of Abu Zar'! Filling her wrap, the adornment of her father, the adornment of her mother, and the best (example) for her co-wife. The maidservant of Abu Zar', and what is the maidservant of Abu Zar'! She does not waste our talk by spreading it, nor does she waste our provisions by scattering them.
One day Abu Zar' went out from my presence while the milk skins were being churned, and his eyes fell upon a woman who had two sons (agile) like falcons, so Abu Zar' married her and divorced me. I sought a replacement (for him), and every replacement has some deficiency. I married a dignified young man who rode a swift horse, carried a Khatti spear, gave me many cattle, and gave me a pair of every kind of grazing animal, and said: O Umm Zar'! Take provisions and feed your family. I gathered all of it, yet it did not fill even the smallest of Abu Zar's vessels.
Sayyidah Aishah said: I said: O Messenger of Allah! Rather, you are better than Abu Zar'.
حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ الرَّازِيُّ، ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ الْعَدَنِيُّ، قَالَ: ثنا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ شَابُورٍ، عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَحْوَهُ
A similar hadith is also narrated from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ اللهِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الْعُمَرِيُّ، ثنا الزُّبَيْرُ بْنُ بَكَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنِي مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الضَّحَّاكِ بْنِ عُثْمَانَ الْحَرَامِيُّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ الدَّرَاوَرْدِيِّ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: دَخَلَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَقَالَ: «يَا عَائِشَةُ كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ» ، قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: " إِنَّ قَرْيَةً مِنْ قُرَى الْيَمَنِ كَانَ بِهَا بُطُونٌ مِنْ بُطُونِ الْيَمَنِ وَفِيهَا إِحْدَى عَشْرَةَ امْرَأَةً، وَإِنَّهُنَّ خَرَجْنَ إِلَى مَجْلِسٍ لَهُنَّ، فَقَالَتْ بَعْضُهُنَّ لِبَعْضٍ: تَعَالَوْا فَلْنَذْكُرْنَ بُعُولَتَنَا بِبَعْضِ مَا فِيهِمْ وَلَا نَكْذِبُ، فَقِيلَ لِلْأُولَى: تَكَلَّمِي، فَقَالَتْ "، وَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ. وَقَالَتِ الثَّانِيَةُ وَهِيَ عَمْرَةُ بِنْتُ عَبْدِ عَمْرٍو: وَقِيلَ لِلثَّالِثَةِ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَهِيَ حُبًّا بِنْتُ كَعْبٍ. قِيلَ لِلرَّابِعَةِ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَهِيَ هُدَدُ بِنْتُ أَبِي هَرُومَةَ. قِيلَ لِلْخَامِسَةِ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَهِيَ كَبْشَةُ. قِيلَ لِلسَّادِسَةِ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَهِيَ هِنْدٌ. قِيلَ لِلسَّابِعَةِ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَهِيَ حُبًّا بِنْتُ عَلْقَمَةَ. قِيلَ لِلثَّامِنَةِ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَهِيَ أَسْمَاءُ بِنْتُ عَبْدٍ. قِيلَ لِلتَّاسِعَةِ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَلَمْ يُسَمِّهَا. قِيلَ لِلْعَاشِرَةِ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَهِيَ كُبَيْشَةُ بِنْتُ الْأَرْقَمِ. قِيلَ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ: تَكَلَّمِي، وَهِيَ بِنْتُ الْأُكَيْحِلِ بْنِ سَاعِدَةَ، فَقَالَتْ: أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَمَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ؟، وَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ
Abd al-Aziz bin Muhammad al-Darawardi narrates through Hisham bin Urwah, from his father, from Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) came in and said: "O Aishah! I was to you as Abu Zar' was to Umm Zar'." The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "There was a town among the towns of Yemen in which some of the clans of Yemen lived, and in it were eleven women. They went out to a gathering of theirs, and some of them said to others: Come, let us describe something of our husbands truthfully and not lie. It was said to the first: Speak, so she spoke" — then (the narrator) related the whole hadith. The second, who was Amrah bint Abd Amr, (also spoke). It was said to the third: Speak; she was Hubba bint Ka'b. It was said to the fourth: Speak; she was Hudad bint Abi Harumah. It was said to the fifth: Speak; she was Kabshah. It was said to the sixth: Speak; she was Hind. It was said to the seventh: Speak; she was Hubba bint Alqamah. It was said to the eighth: Speak; she was Asma' bint Abd. It was said to the ninth: Speak, and her name was not mentioned. It was said to the tenth: Speak; she was Kubayshah bint al-Arqam. It was said to Umm Zar': Speak; she was the daughter of al-Ukayhil bin Sa'idah, and she said: Abu Zar', and what is Abu Zar'?" — then (the narrator) related the whole hadith.
