Abdullah bin Ubaydullah bin Abi Mulaykah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: A daughter of Sayyiduna Uthman (may Allah be pleased with him) died in Makkah, and we came to attend her (funeral). Sayyiduna Ibn Umar and Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them) were also present, and I was between them. He said: I was sitting beside one of them, and then the other came and sat beside me. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) said to Amr bin Uthman: Will you not forbid the women from weeping? For the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The deceased is punished because of the weeping of his family." Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) said: Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) also used to say something like that. Then he narrated: I came back with Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) from Makkah, and when we reached al-Bayda', there was a caravan under a tree. He said: Go and see who these people of the caravan are. He said: I looked, and it was Sayyiduna Suhayb (may Allah be pleased with him). I told him, and he said: Call him to me. So I went to Sayyiduna Suhayb (may Allah be pleased with him) and said: Come to the Commander of the Believers. When Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) was martyred, Sayyiduna Suhayb (may Allah be pleased with him) came in weeping, saying: Alas, my brother! Alas, my companion! Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: O Suhayb! Do you weep over me, when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The deceased is indeed punished because of some of the weeping of his family." Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) said: When Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) died, I mentioned this to Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her), and she said: May Allah have mercy on him. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) did not narrate it like this, that "Allah Almighty punishes the believer because of the weeping of his family"; rather, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Allah Almighty increases the punishment of the disbeliever because of the weeping of his family." He said: Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The Qur'an is sufficient for you: "And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another." [Surah al-An'am: 164] He said: At that, Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) said: It is Allah who makes one weep and makes one laugh. Ibn Abi Mulaykah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: By Allah! Sayyiduna Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) did not say anything (in reply).
Hadith Referenceالسنن الكبرى للبيهقي / كتاب الجنائز / 7176