Lamenting over the deceased

It is narrated from Hazrat Umar that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Surely, the deceased is punished in the grave because of the lamentation of their relatives.

Hazrat Saeed bin Ubaid and Hazrat Muhammad bin Qais say that we heard from Hazrat Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) bin Rabee’ah al-Walabi that in Kufa, the first person over whom lamentation was performed was Qarza bin Ka’b al-Ansari. Hazrat Mughirah bin Shu’bah stood up and said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: Whoever laments over the deceased, because of that lamentation, the deceased is punished in the grave.

It is narrated from Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whoever wails over the deceased, the deceased is punished in the grave because of that wailing.

Hazrat Umm Atiyyah says that when the verses of the Holy Qur'an from { اِِذَا جَائَکَ الْمُؤْمِنَاتُ یُبَایِعْنَکَ } to { وَلاَ یَعْصِیْنَکَ فِیْ مَعْرُوفٍ } were revealed, not wailing was also included in them. I submitted, "O Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)! Except for the family of so-and-so, indeed they helped me in the time of ignorance." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Except for the family of so-and-so."

It is narrated from Hazrat Umm Salamah that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Not wailing is also included in the verse of the Qur'an { وَلاَ یَعْصِیْنَکَ فِیْ مَعْرُوفٍ }.

It is narrated from Hazrat Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Surely, there are two (signs) of disbelief among the people: wailing and casting aspersions on lineage.

It is narrated from Hazrat Abu Malik Ash'ari that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Four practices from the time of ignorance will remain in my Ummah; they will not abandon them: boasting about lineage, finding fault in ancestry, seeking rain from the stars, and wailing. And if a woman who wails dies before repenting, she will be raised on the Day of Judgment wearing a garment of tar and a cloak of scabs.

Hazrat Ali (may Allah be pleased with him, may Allah honor his face) said that wailing has been prohibited.

Hazrat Ali (may Allah be pleased with him, may Allah honor his face) narrates that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) forbade wailing.

Hazrat Salim says that the verse of the Holy Qur’an { وَلاَ یَعْصِیْنَکَ فِیْ مَعْرُوفٍ } means not to wail.

Hazrat Abu Al-Bakhtari says that wailing over the deceased is among the practices of ignorance.

12483 - Waki‘ narrated to us (Ishaq ibn ‘Uthman al-Kalabi narrated to us) from Isma‘il ibn ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn ‘Atiyyah al-Ansari from his mother, who said: I said to her: What is the customary practice you were forbidden from? She said: Wailing.

Hazrat Zaid bin Aslam says that by the verse of the Holy Qur'an { وَلاَ یَعْصِیْنَکَ فِیْ مَعْرُوفٍ }, it is meant that women will not tear their collars, will not strike their faces, will not loosen (scatter) their hair, and will not cry out "Ah! Ah!" (wailing and lamenting at the time of calamity).

Hazrat Abu Alia says that in { وَلاَ یَعْصِیْنَکَ فِیْ مَعْرُوفٍ }, "ma'ruf" refers to every action that is in accordance with obedience to Allah, and His Prophet would not be pleased that he be obeyed in disobedience to Allah.

Hazrat Sha'bi says that curse has been invoked upon the woman who wails and the one who listens to wailing.

Hazrat Jabir narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade wailing.