Wailing over the deceased, and reports on it

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The dead person is indeed punished in his grave because of the wailing (of his relatives)."

Sa'id bin Ubayd and Muhammad bin Qays said: We heard Ali bin Rabi'ah al-Walibi say: The first person over whom wailing was done in Kufa was Sayyiduna Qarazah bin Ka'b al-Ansari (may Allah be pleased with him). Sayyiduna al-Mughirah bin Shu'bah (may Allah be pleased with him) stood up and said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: "Whoever is wailed over is punished in his grave because of the wailing done over him."

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Whoever is wailed over will be punished on the Day of Resurrection because of the wailing done over him."

Sayyidah Umm Atiyyah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: When the verses of the Qur'an from "When the believing women come to you pledging allegiance to you" up to "and that they will not disobey you in what is right" [Surah al-Mumtahanah: 12] were revealed, refraining from wailing was included in it. I said: "O Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)! Except for the family of so-and-so, for they helped me in the days of Jahiliyyah." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Except for the family of so-and-so."

It is narrated from Sayyidah Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Refraining from wailing is included in the verse of the Qur'an "and that they will not disobey you in what is right."

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Indeed, among people there are two (signs) of disbelief: wailing and attacking people's lineage."

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Malik al-Ash'ari (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Four things of the Jahiliyyah are found in my Ummah which they have not abandoned: boasting about ancestry, attacking lineage, seeking rain from the stars, and wailing. And the wailing woman, if she dies before repenting, will be made to stand on the Day of Resurrection wearing a shirt of tar and a garment of scabies."

Sayyiduna Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Wailing has been forbidden.

Sayyiduna Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade wailing.

Salim said: The verse of the Qur'an "and that they will not disobey you in what is right" refers to refraining from wailing.

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) returned on the day of Uhud and heard the women of Banu Abd al-Ashhal weeping over their dead. He said: "But Hamzah has no women to weep for him." So the women of the Ansar came and wept over Hamzah. He slept, then woke up and said: "Woe to them! Are they still here until now? Tell them to go back, and let them not weep over anyone who dies after today."

Abu al-Bakhtari said: Wailing over the dead is one of the practices of the Jahiliyyah.

Isma'il bin Abd al-Rahman bin Atiyyah al-Ansari said: I asked my mother: "What is the ma'ruf (right conduct) concerning which you (women) were given a prohibition?" She said: "Wailing."

Zayd bin Aslam said: The verse of the Qur'an "and that they will not disobey you in what is right" means that the women will not tear open their collars, will not strike their faces, will not dishevel (scatter) their hair, and will not cry out "woe" (screaming and wailing at a time of calamity).

Abu al-'Aliyah said about "and that they will not disobey you in what is right": (It means) wailing. He said: (The command concerning what is right) applies to every matter that accords with obedience to Allah; He was not pleased for His Prophet to be obeyed in disobedience to Allah.

Al-Sha'bi said: The wailing woman and the woman who holds on to (supports) her have been cursed.

Sayyiduna Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) said that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I only forbade wailing."