السنن الكبرى للبيهقي
Sunan al-Kubra al-Bayhaqi
كتاب الجنائز
Book of Funerals
باب: ما يستحب من مسح رأس اليتيم وإكرامه.
It is recommended to stroke the orphan's head and treat him kindly
Toggle above to switch between keyword search and direct hadith lookup
أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ، أنبأ أَبُو الْحُسَيْنِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ تَمِيمٍ الْحَنْظَلِيُّ بِبَغْدَادَ، ثنا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الرَّقَاشِيُّ، ثنا أَبُو عَاصِمٍ، أَخْبَرَنِي جَعْفَرُ ⦗١٠٠⦘ بْنُ خَالِدِ ابْنِ سَارَةَ، وَقَدْ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ جُرَيْجٍ، عَنْهُ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، أَنَّ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ جَعْفَرٍ قَالَ: لَوْ رَأَيْتَنِي وَقُثَمَ وَعُبَيْدَ اللهِ ابْنَيِ الْعَبَّاسِ نَلْعَبُ إِذْ مَرَّ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَى دَابَّةٍ فَقَالَ: " احْمِلُوا هَذَا إِلَيَّ "، فَجَعَلَنِي أَمَامَهُ، ثُمَّ قَالَ لِقُثَمَ: " احْمِلُوا هَذَا إِلَيَّ "، فَجَعَلَهُ وَرَاءَهُ مَا اسْتَحْيَا مِنْ عَمِّهِ الْعَبَّاسِ أَنْ حَمَلَ قُثَمَ وَتَرَكَ عُبَيْدَ اللهِ ثُمَّ مَسَحَ بِرَأْسِي ثَلَاثًا كُلَّمَا مَسَحَ قَالَ: " اللهُمَّ اخْلُفْ جَعْفَرًا فِي وَلَدِهِ ". قُلْتُ لِعَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ جَعْفَرٍ: مَا فَعَلَ قُثَمُ؟ قَالَ: اسْتُشْهِدَ، قُلْتُ لِعَبْدِ اللهِ: اللهُ وَرَسُولُهُ كَانَ أَعْلَمُ بِالْخِيَرَةِ، قَالَ: أَجَلْ.
Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Ja'far (may Allah be pleased with them both) said: If only you had seen me and Qutham and Ubaydullah (may Allah be pleased with them both), the two sons of Sayyiduna al-Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him), as we were playing, when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by us on his mount and said: "Lift this one up to me," and he seated me in front of him. Then he said about Qutham: "Bring this one to me as well," and he seated him behind him. He was not embarrassed before his uncle al-Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) that he carried Qutham and left Ubaydullah. Then he passed his hand over my head three times, and each time he said: 'Allahumma ikhluf Ja'faran fi waladihi' (O Allah, be Ja'far's successor among his children [make his children as he was]). I said to Abdullah bin Ja'far (may Allah be pleased with them both): What became of Qutham? He said: He was martyred. So I said to Abdullah: Allah and His Messenger knew best what was good for him. He said: Yes, indeed.
أَخْبَرَنَاهُ أَبُو بَكْرٍ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ أَبِي سَعِيدِ بْنِ سَخْتَوَيْهِ الْإِسْفَرَايِينِيُّ بِمَكَّةَ وَكَتَبَهُ لِي بِخَطِّهِ، أنبأ أَبُو الْحَسَنِ عَلِيُّ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ كَيْسَانَ النَّحْوِيُّ بِبَغْدَادَ وَأَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو الْحَسَنِ الْمُقْرِئُ، أنبأ الْحَسَنُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ إِسْحَاقَ، قَالَا: ثنا يُوسُفُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ الْقَاضِي، ثنا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، ثنا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي عِمْرَانَ الْجَوْنِيِّ، عَنْ رَجُلٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَجُلًا شَكَا إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَسْوَةَ قَلْبِهِ، فَقَالَ: " إِنْ أَرَدْتَ أَنْ يُلَيَّنَ قَلْبُكَ فَأَطْعِمِ الْمَسَاكِينَ وَامْسَحْ رَأْسَ الْيَتِيمِ ".
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man mentioned to him (peace and blessings be upon him) the hardness of his heart, so he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If you wish to soften your heart, feed the poor and pat the head of the orphan."
وَأَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو الْحَسَنِ الْمُقْرِئُ، أنبأ الْحَسَنُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ إِسْحَاقَ، ثنا يُوسُفُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ، ثنا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، ثنا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ وَاسِعٍ، أَنَّ أَبَا الدَّرْدَاءِ، رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ كَتَبَ إِلَى سَلْمَانَ: أَنَّ رَجُلًا شَكَا إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَسْوَةَ قَلْبِهِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: " إِنْ أَرَدْتَ أَنْ يُلَيَّنَ قَلْبُكَ فَامْسَحْ رَأْسَ الْيَتِيمِ وَأَطْعِمْهُ ".
Sayyiduna Abu al-Darda' (may Allah be pleased with him) wrote to Sayyiduna Salman (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man complained to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) of the hardness of his heart, and he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If you wish your heart to become soft, then place your hand on the head of the orphan (show him affection) and feed him."
