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السنن الكبرى للبيهقي
Sunan al-Kubra al-Bayhaqi
كتاب النكاح
Book of Marriage
باب: ما وجب عليه من تخيير النساء
Chapter: What was obligatory upon him (peace and blessings be upon him) of giving his wives the choice
Bayhaqi 13267 — What was obligatory upon him ﷺ of giving his wives
اُردوEn
أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو مُحَمَّدٍ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ يَحْيَى بْنِ عَبْدِ الْجَبَّارِ السُّكَّرِيُّ بِبَغْدَادَ، أنبأ إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الصَّفَّارُ، ثنا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ، ثنا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ، أنبأ مَعْمَرٌ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، ⦗٥٩⦘ عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ أَبِي ثَوْرٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ: لَمْ أَزَلْ حَرِيصًا أَنْ أَسْأَلَ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ عَنِ الْمَرْأَتَيْنِ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ اللَّتَيْنِ قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: {إِنْ تَتُوبَا إِلَى اللهِ فَقَدْ صَغَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا} [التحريم: ٤]، حَتَّى حَجَّ عُمَرُ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ وَحَجَجْتُ مَعَهُ، فَلَمَّا كَانَ بِبَعْضِ الطَّرِيقِ، عَدَلَ عُمَرُ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ لِحَاجَتِهِ وَعَدَلْتُ مَعَهُ بِالْإِدَاوَةِ، فَتَبَرَّزَ، ثُمَّ أَتَى، فَسَكَبْتُ عَلَى يَدَيْهِ فَتَوَضَّأَ، فَقُلْتُ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، مَنِ الْمَرْأَتَانِ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ اللَّتَانِ قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: {إِنْ تَتُوبَا إِلَى اللهِ فَقَدْ صَغَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا} [التحريم: ٤]؟ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ: وَاعَجَبًا لَكَ يَا ابْنَ عَبَّاسٍ، قَالَ الزُّهْرِيُّ رَحِمَهُ اللهُ تَعَالَى: كَرِهَ وَاللهِ مَا سَأَلَهُ عَنْهُ وَلَمْ يَكْتُمْهُ، قَالَ: هِيَ حَفْصَةُ وَعَائِشَةُ، ثُمَّ أَخَذَ يَسُوقُ الْحَدِيثَ، فَقَالَ: كُنَّا مَعْشَرَ قُرَيْشٍ قَوْمًا نَغْلِبُ النِّسَاءَ، فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ وَجَدْنَا قَوْمًا تَغْلِبُهُمْ نِسَاؤُهُمْ، فَطَفِقَ نِسَاؤُنَا يَتَعَلَّمْنَ مِنْ نِسَائِهِمْ، قَالَ: وَكَانَ مَنْزِلِي فِي بَنِي أُمَيَّةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ بِالْعَوَالِي، فَتَغَضَّبْتُ يَوْمًا عَلَى امْرَأَتِي، فَإِذَا هِيَ تُرَاجِعُنِي، فَأَنْكَرْتُ أَنْ تُرَاجِعَنِي فَقَالَتْ: مَا تُنْكِرُ أَنْ أُرَاجِعَكَ، فَوَاللهِ إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يُرَاجِعْنَهُ وَتَهْجُرُهُ إِحْدَاهُنَّ الْيَوْمَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ، قَالَ: فَانْطَلَقْتُ، فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ، فَقُلْتُ: أَتُرَاجِعِينَ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ؟ فَقَالَتْ: نَعَمْ، قُلْتُ: وَتَهْجُرُهُ إِحْدَاكُنَّ الْيَوْمَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ؟ قَالَتْ: نَعَمْ، قُلْتُ: قَدْ خَابَ مَنْ فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ مِنْكُنَّ وَخَسِرَ، أَفَتَأْمَنُ إِحْدَاكُنَّ أَنْ يَغْضَبَ اللهُ عَلَيْهَا لِغَضَبِ رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَإِذَا هِيَ قَدْ هَلَكَتْ؟ لَا تُرَاجِعِي رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، وَلَا تَسْأَلِيهِ شَيْئًا، وَسَلِينِي مَا بَدَا لَكِ، وَلَا يَغُرَّنَّكِ إِنْ كَانَتْ جَارَتُكِ هِيَ أَوْسَمُ وَأَحَبُّ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مِنْكِ، يُرِيدُ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَ: وَكَانَ لِي جَارٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ، وَكُنَّا نَتَنَاوَبُ النُّزُولَ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَيَنْزِلُ يَوْمًا وَأَنْزِلُ يَوْمًا، فَيَأْتِينِي بِخَبَرِ الْوَحْيِ وَغَيْرِهِ وَآتِيهِ بِمِثْلِ ذَلِكَ قَالَ: وَكُنَّا نَتَحَدَّثُ أَنَّ غَسَّانَ تَنَعَّلَ الْخَيْلَ لِغَزْوِنَا، فَنَزَلَ صَاحِبِي يَوْمًا، ثُمَّ أَتَانِي عِشَاءً، فَضَرَبَ بَابِي، ثُمَّ نَادَانِي، فَخَرَجْتُ إِلَيْهِ، فَقَالَ: حَدَثَ أَمْرٌ عَظِيمٌ قَالَ: قُلْتُ: مَاذَا أَجَاءَتْ غَسَّانُ؟ قَالَ: بَلْ أَعْظَمُ مِنْ ذَلِكَ وَأَطْوَلُ، طَلَّقَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ نِسَاءَهُ، قَالَ: فَقُلْتُ: قَدْ خَابَتْ وَخَسِرَتْ، قَدْ كُنْتُ أَظُنُّ هَذَا كَائِنًا، حَتَّى إِذَا صَلَّيْتُ الصُّبْحَ شَدَدْتُ عَلَيَّ ثِيَابِي، ثُمَّ نَزَلْتُ، فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ وَهِيَ تَبْكِي، فَقُلْتُ: أَطَلَّقَكُنَّ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ؟ قَالَتْ: لَا أَدْرِي، هُوَ هَذَا مُعْتَزِلًا فِي هَذِهِ الْمَشْرُبَةِ، فَأَتَيْتُ غُلَامًا لَهُ أَسْوَدُ فَقُلْتُ: اسْتَأْذِنْ لِعُمَرَ فَدَخَلَ الْغُلَامُ، ثُمَّ خَرَجَ إِلِيَّ، فَقَالَ: قَدْ ذَكَرْتُكَ لَهُ فَصَمَتَ، فَانْطَلَقْتُ حَتَّى أَتَيْتُ الْمَسْجِدَ، فَإِذَا قَوْمٌ حَوْلَ الْمِنْبَرِ جُلُوسٌ يَبْكِي بَعْضُهُمْ فَجَلَسْتُ قَلِيلًا حَتَّى غَلَبَنِي مَا أَجِدُ فَأَتَيْتُ الْغُلَامَ، فَقُلْتُ: اسْتَأْذِنْ لِعُمَرَ، فَدَخَلَ، ثُمَّ خَرَجَ إِلِيَّ، فَقَالَ قَدْ ذَكَرْتُكَ لَهُ، فَصَمَتَ، فَخَرَجْتُ، فَجَلَسْتُ إِلَى الْمِنْبَرِ، ثُمَّ غَلَبَنِي مَا أَجِدُ، فَأَتَيْتُ الْغُلَامَ، فَقُلْتُ: اسْتَأْذِنْ لِعُمَرَ فَدَخَلَ، ثُمَّ خَرَجَ إِلِيَّ، فَقَالَ قَدْ ذَكَرْتُكَ لَهُ فَصَمَتَ قَالَ: فَوَلَّيْتُ مُدْبِرًا، فَإِذَا الْغُلَامُ يَدْعُونِي، فَقَالَ: ادْخُلْ قَدْ أَذِنَ لَكَ فَدَخَلْتُ، فَسَلَّمْتُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَإِذَا هُوَ مُتَّكِئٌ عَلَى رِمَالِ⦗٦٠⦘ حَصِيرٍ قَدْ أَثَّرَ فِي جَنْبِهِ، فَقُلْتُ: أَطَلَّقْتَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ نِسَاءَكَ؟ قَالَ: فَرَفَعَ رَأْسَهُ إِلِيَّ وَقَالَ: " لَا "، فَقُلْتُ: اللهُ أَكْبَرُ، لَوْ رَأَيْتَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ وَكُنَّا مَعْشَرَ قُرَيْشٍ قَوْمًا نَغْلِبُ النِّسَاءَ، فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ وَجَدْنَا قَوْمًا تَغْلِبُهُمْ نِسَاؤُهُمْ فَطَفِقَ نِسَاؤُنَا يَتَعَلَّمْنَ، فَتَغَضَّبْتُ عَلَى امْرَأَتِي يَوْمًا وَإِذَا هِيَ تُرَاجِعُنِي يَعْنِي فَأَنْكَرْتُ، فَقَالَتْ: مَا تُنْكِرُ أَنْ أُرَاجِعَكَ، فَوَاللهِ إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَيُرَاجِعْنَهُ وَتَهْجُرُهُ إِحْدَاهُنَّ الْيَوْمَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ، فَقُلْتُ: قَدْ خَابَ مَنْ فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ مِنْهُنَّ وَخَسِرَ، أَفَتَأْمَنُ إِحْدَاهُنَّ أَنْ يَغْضَبَ اللهُ عَلَيْهَا لِغَضَبِ رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ؟ فَإِذَا هِيَ قَدْ هَلَكَتْ، فَتَبَسَّمَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَقُلْتُ يَعْنِي قَدْ دَخَلْتُ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ فَقُلْتُ: لَا يَغُرَّنَّكِ إِنْ كَانَتْ جَارَتُكِ هِيَ أَوْسَمُ مِنْكِ وَأَحَبُّ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مِنْكِ، فَتَبَسَّمَ أُخْرَى، فَقُلْتُ: اسْتَأْنِسْ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، قَالَ: نَعَمْ، فَجَلَسْتُ، فَرَفَعْتُ رَأْسِي فِي الْبَيْتِ، فَوَاللهِ مَا رَأَيْتُ فِيهِ شَيْئًا يَرُدُّ الْبَصَرَ، إِلَّا أُهُبًا ثَلَاثَةً، فَقُلْتُ: ادْعُ اللهَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَنْ يُوَسِّعَ عَلَى أُمَّتِكَ، فَقَدْ وَسَّعَ عَلَى فَارِسَ وَالرُّومِ، وَهُمْ لَا يَعْبُدُونَ اللهَ، فَاسْتَوَى جَالِسًا، فَقَالَ: " أَفِي شَكٍّ أَنْتَ يَا ابْنَ الْخَطَّابِ؟ " أُولَئِكَ قَوْمٌ قَدْ عُجِّلَتْ لَهُمْ طَيِّبَاتُهُمْ فِي الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا "، فَقُلْتُ: أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ وَكَانَ أَقْسَمَ أَنْ لَا يَدْخُلَ عَلَيْهِنَّ شَهْرًا مِنْ شِدَّةِ مَوْجِدَتِهِ عَلَيْهِمْ حَتَّى عَاتَبَهُ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ قَالَ الزُّهْرِيُّ: فَأَخْبَرَنِي عُرْوَةُ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ: فَلَمَّا مَضَتْ تِسْعٌ وَعِشْرُونَ لَيْلَةً دَخَلَ عَلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بَدَأَ بِي، فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَقْسَمْتَ أَنْ لَا تَدْخُلَ عَلَيْنَا تَعْنِي شَهْرًا إِنَّكَ دَخَلْتَ عَلَيَّ مِنْ تِسْعٍ وَعِشْرِينَ أَعُدُّهُنَّ قَالَ: " إِنَّ الشَّهْرَ تِسْعٌ وَعِشْرُونَ "، ثُمَّ قَالَ: " يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنِّي ذَاكِرٌ لَكِ أَمْرًا فَلَا عَلَيْكِ أَنْ لَا تَعْجَلِي فِيهِ حَتَّى تَسْتَأْمِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ " قَالَ: ثُمَّ قَرَأَ عَلَيَّ: {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِي قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ إِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا} [الأحزاب: ٢٨] الْآيَةَ قَالَتْ: قَدْ عَلِمَ وَاللهِ أَنَّ أَبَوِيَّ لَمْ يَكُونَا يَأْمُرَانِي بِفِرَاقِهِ قَالَتْ: قُلْتُ: أَفِي هَذَا أَسْتَأْمِرُ أَبَوِيَّ، فَإِنِّي أُرِيدُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ " قَالَ مَعْمَرٌ: وَأَخْبَرَنِي أَيُّوبُ قَالَ: فَقَالَتْ لَهُ عَائِشَةُ لَا تَقُلْ إِنِّي اخْتَرْتُكَ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صلَّى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: " إِنَّمَا بُعِثْتُ مُبَلِّغًا وَلَمْ أُبْعَثْ مُتَعَنِّتًا " رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ فِي الصَّحِيحِ، عَنْ إِسْحَاقَ بْنِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، وَمُحَمَّدِ بْنِ أَبِي عُمَرَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّزَّاقِ بِطُولِهِ.
Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) said: I was always eager to ask Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who the two women were about whom Allah said: "If you two repent to Allah, (that is better), for your hearts have inclined (to wrong)." [Surah al-Tahrim: 4] Then Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) performed Hajj and I performed Hajj with him. On the way, Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) turned aside and went to relieve himself, and I went with him carrying a water vessel. Then he came out and I poured water over his (may Allah be pleased with him) hands, and he performed ablution. I said: O Commander of the Believers! Who are the two wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) about whom Allah Almighty said: "If you two repent to Allah, (that is better), for your hearts have inclined (to wrong)." [Surah al-Tahrim: 4]? Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: How astonishing you are, O Ibn Abbas! (Al-Zuhri (may Allah have mercy on him) said: By Allah, he disliked his question, yet he did not conceal it, but said): They were Hafsah (may Allah be pleased with her) and Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her). Then he began to narrate the story: We, the people of Quraysh, used to have the upper hand over our women. When we came to Madinah, we found people here whose women had the upper hand over them, and our women began to learn from them. He said: My house was among Banu Umayyah bin Zayd in the upper part (of Madinah). One day I became angry with my wife and she began to answer me back. I was taken aback that she answered me back. She said: Why are you taken aback that I answer you back? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) answer him back, and today one of them has kept away from him until night. He said: I went to Hafsah and said: Do you too answer back the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)? She said: Yes! And today one of them has kept away from him until night. I said: Whoever among you has done this has suffered loss. Does any one of you feel safe that the anger of Allah Almighty will not fall on her because of the displeasure of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)? She would be ruined. Never answer back the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), and do not ask him for anything; ask me for whatever you need. And do not be deceived by your neighbour being dearer to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) than you. He meant Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her).
He said: I had a neighbour from the Ansar, and we used to go to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) in turns. One day he would go to him, and the next day I would attend upon him. He would tell me of any revelation, and I would tell him of events likewise. We used to talk about how the tribe of Ghassan had shod their horses to wage war against us. My companion came, then he came to me at night, at the time of Isha, knocked on my door and called out to me. I went out to him and he said: Something tremendous has happened. I said: Have the Ghassan come out? He said: No, rather something greater and more serious than that. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) has divorced his wives. I said: Hafsah has failed and lost. I had thought this was going to happen. When I had prayed the Fajr prayer, I gathered my clothes and came to Hafsah. I found her weeping. I asked: Has the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) really divorced you?
She said: I do not know; he has withdrawn (from us) in this matter. I met an Abyssinian slave of his and said to him: Ask permission for Umar. The slave went in, then came back to me and said: You were mentioned to him, but he remained silent. I went to the mosque. There, people were sitting near the pulpit, weeping. I sat for a while, then my feelings overcame me, so I came back to the slave and said: Ask permission for Umar. The slave went in, came out and gave the same reply. I again went and sat near the pulpit in the mosque. But the same feeling came over me, so I went a third time and asked permission. When permission was not given, I turned my back and set off. Suddenly the slave began calling me: Come, permission has been given to you. I went in and greeted the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) with salam. He was lying on a mat, and its marks were visible on his body. I said: O Messenger of Allah! Have you really divorced your wives? He (peace and blessings be upon him) raised his head towards me and said: "No." I said: Allahu Akbar! O Messenger of Allah! Consider us: we, the people of Quraysh, used to have the upper hand over our women. When we came to Madinah, we found there a people whose women had the upper hand over them. Now our women too have begun to learn from them. One day I became angry with my wife and she began to answer me back. I was taken aback, and she said: Why are you taken aback? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) even answer him back, and today one of them has kept away from him. I said: Then she is ruined and destroyed. Does any one of you feel safe that the anger of Allah Almighty will not descend on her because of the displeasure of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)? She would be ruined. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) smiled (on hearing this). I said: Then I went to Hafsah and said to her: Do not be deceived by the fact that your neighbour is dearer to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) than you. He smiled again. I said: O Messenger of Allah! May I stay and keep you company?
He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Yes." I sat down, then raised my head and looked around the house. By Allah, I saw nothing in it worth a glance except three hides. I said: O Messenger of Allah! Supplicate for abundance for your Ummah. How much abundance has been given to Rome and Persia, even though they do not worship Allah! He (peace and blessings be upon him) sat up straight and said: "O Umar! Are you in doubt? These are people whose good things have been given to them (in advance) in the life of this world." I said: I seek forgiveness from Allah. He (peace and blessings be upon him) had sworn that he would not go to his wives for a month, in order to admonish them severely, until Allah Almighty settled the matter with him.
Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: When twenty-nine nights had passed, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) came to me and began with me. I said: O Messenger of Allah! You swore that you would not come to us for thirty days, yet only twenty-nine days have passed; I have been counting them. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "A month can also be twenty-nine days." Then he said: "O Aishah! I am going to tell you something; do not be hasty in it, but consult your parents." Then he (peace and blessings be upon him) recited this verse to me: "O Prophet, say to your wives: If you desire the life of this world and its adornment" [Surah al-Ahzab: 28] to the end of the verse. She said: By Allah, my parents would never tell me to separate from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). I said: Should I consult my parents about this matter? I desire Allah, His Messenger and the Hereafter.
In one narration it is mentioned that Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said to him: Do not tell (your other wives) that I chose you. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I have been sent only to convey, and I have not been sent to make things hard (for people)."
He said: I had a neighbour from the Ansar, and we used to go to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) in turns. One day he would go to him, and the next day I would attend upon him. He would tell me of any revelation, and I would tell him of events likewise. We used to talk about how the tribe of Ghassan had shod their horses to wage war against us. My companion came, then he came to me at night, at the time of Isha, knocked on my door and called out to me. I went out to him and he said: Something tremendous has happened. I said: Have the Ghassan come out? He said: No, rather something greater and more serious than that. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) has divorced his wives. I said: Hafsah has failed and lost. I had thought this was going to happen. When I had prayed the Fajr prayer, I gathered my clothes and came to Hafsah. I found her weeping. I asked: Has the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) really divorced you?
She said: I do not know; he has withdrawn (from us) in this matter. I met an Abyssinian slave of his and said to him: Ask permission for Umar. The slave went in, then came back to me and said: You were mentioned to him, but he remained silent. I went to the mosque. There, people were sitting near the pulpit, weeping. I sat for a while, then my feelings overcame me, so I came back to the slave and said: Ask permission for Umar. The slave went in, came out and gave the same reply. I again went and sat near the pulpit in the mosque. But the same feeling came over me, so I went a third time and asked permission. When permission was not given, I turned my back and set off. Suddenly the slave began calling me: Come, permission has been given to you. I went in and greeted the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) with salam. He was lying on a mat, and its marks were visible on his body. I said: O Messenger of Allah! Have you really divorced your wives? He (peace and blessings be upon him) raised his head towards me and said: "No." I said: Allahu Akbar! O Messenger of Allah! Consider us: we, the people of Quraysh, used to have the upper hand over our women. When we came to Madinah, we found there a people whose women had the upper hand over them. Now our women too have begun to learn from them. One day I became angry with my wife and she began to answer me back. I was taken aback, and she said: Why are you taken aback? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) even answer him back, and today one of them has kept away from him. I said: Then she is ruined and destroyed. Does any one of you feel safe that the anger of Allah Almighty will not descend on her because of the displeasure of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)? She would be ruined. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) smiled (on hearing this). I said: Then I went to Hafsah and said to her: Do not be deceived by the fact that your neighbour is dearer to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) than you. He smiled again. I said: O Messenger of Allah! May I stay and keep you company?
He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Yes." I sat down, then raised my head and looked around the house. By Allah, I saw nothing in it worth a glance except three hides. I said: O Messenger of Allah! Supplicate for abundance for your Ummah. How much abundance has been given to Rome and Persia, even though they do not worship Allah! He (peace and blessings be upon him) sat up straight and said: "O Umar! Are you in doubt? These are people whose good things have been given to them (in advance) in the life of this world." I said: I seek forgiveness from Allah. He (peace and blessings be upon him) had sworn that he would not go to his wives for a month, in order to admonish them severely, until Allah Almighty settled the matter with him.
Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: When twenty-nine nights had passed, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) came to me and began with me. I said: O Messenger of Allah! You swore that you would not come to us for thirty days, yet only twenty-nine days have passed; I have been counting them. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "A month can also be twenty-nine days." Then he said: "O Aishah! I am going to tell you something; do not be hasty in it, but consult your parents." Then he (peace and blessings be upon him) recited this verse to me: "O Prophet, say to your wives: If you desire the life of this world and its adornment" [Surah al-Ahzab: 28] to the end of the verse. She said: By Allah, my parents would never tell me to separate from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). I said: Should I consult my parents about this matter? I desire Allah, His Messenger and the Hereafter.
In one narration it is mentioned that Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said to him: Do not tell (your other wives) that I chose you. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I have been sent only to convey, and I have not been sent to make things hard (for people)."
