«أفضل الصدقة ما ترك غنى واليد العليا خير من اليد السفلى وابدأ بمن تعول» (تقول المرأة: إما أن تطعمني وإما أن تطلقني ويقول العبد: أطعمني واستعملني; ويقول الابن: أطعمني إلى من تدعني؟!)
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
"The best charity is that after which wealth still remains (that is, the person does not make himself needy), and the upper hand (the giver) is better than the lower hand (the receiver), and begin spending with those whose upkeep is your responsibility. (For the wife says: 'Either feed me or divorce me'; the slave says: 'Feed me and make use of me'; and the son says: 'Feed me; to whom are you leaving me?')"
Hadith Referenceصحیح الجامع الصغیر / حرف الألف / 1114