A man: when is it proper for him to grant his wife khul?

Abu Qilabah and Ibn Sirin said: It is not lawful for a man to ask his wife for khul' (release for compensation) until he sees another man upon her belly, because Allah Almighty says: "Unless they commit a flagrant indecency" [Al-Nisa: 19].

Ibrahim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: It is not lawful for a man to take a ransom (for khul') from his wife unless she does not obey him and does not fulfil his oath; if she does that, and the fault is on her side, the ransom is lawful for him. If the husband refuses to accept the ransom from her and the wife refuses to obey him, the two of them should appoint two arbiters, one from his family and one from hers.

Al-Sha'bi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If a woman dislikes her husband, the man should take a ransom from her and let her go.

Humayd bin Abd al-Rahman al-Himyari (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Khul' with a woman is good for you when she says, "I will not take the ritual bath (ghusl) from major impurity for you, nor fulfil your oath, nor obey your command."

Sayyiduna Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said: It is proper for a man to separate from his wife (by khul') when the woman says, "I will not take the ritual bath (ghusl) from major impurity for you, nor obey you, nor fulfil your oath, nor honour anyone."

Miqsam (may Allah have mercy on him) said: When she disobeys you and harms you, (khul' is lawful for you).

Al-Hasan (may Allah have mercy on him) said in the explanation of the verse of khul': This is proper when the woman says, "I will not take the ritual bath (ghusl) from major impurity for you."

Al-Dahhak (may Allah have mercy on him) said in the explanation of the verse of the Qur'an, "That you may take away part of what you have given them, unless they commit a flagrant indecency" [Al-Nisa: 19]: If the woman does that, it is lawful for the man to take a ransom.

Ata (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If the woman is the cause of the bad relations, it is lawful for the man to do khul'.

Jabir bin Zayd (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If the woman is the cause of the bad relations, it is lawful for the man to take a ransom.

Urwah (may Allah have mercy on him) used to say: The ransom is not lawful until the corruption comes from the woman's side. He did not say: The ransom is not lawful until the woman says, "I will not fulfil your oath, and I will not take the ritual bath (ghusl) from major impurity for you."

Ibn Jurayj (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Tawus (may Allah have mercy on him) used to say: The ransom in khul' is lawful as long as both fear that they will not be able to keep within the limits of Allah. He did not hold the view of the foolish, that the ransom is not lawful until the woman says, "I will not take the ritual bath (ghusl) from major impurity for you"; rather, he said the real basis is failing to keep within the limits of Allah [Al-Baqarah: 229], and the limits of Allah have been laid down upon both of them, such as good treatment and companionship.

Shu'bah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: I asked al-Hakam (may Allah have mercy on him) about a woman's saying to her husband, "I will not take the ritual bath (ghusl) from major impurity for you, nor fulfil your oath, nor obey you." He said: This is nothing of importance; he should keep her with him.

Al-Qasim bin Muhammad (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked about the Qur'anic verse: "except if they both fear that they will not keep within the limits of Allah", and he said: It refers to what has been made obligatory upon them both regarding good conduct in married life and companionship.

Kathir, the freed slave of Ibn Samurah (may Allah have mercy on him), said: The case of a woman who was disobedient to her husband was brought before Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him), and he said to her husband: Grant her khul' (separation for compensation).

Al-Zuhri, Ata and Amr bin Shu'ayb (may Allah have mercy on them) said: Khul' may only be done with a disobedient wife.