Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah 20416 — Treating women with gentleness

Nu'aym bin Hanzalah said: Sayyiduna Jarir bin Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) once came to Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) and complained of the bad character of his wives. Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "I face the same trouble that you face. Whenever I go to the market or meet people and buy an animal or a garment, they start saying: 'He goes to the market to look at the girls and to propose marriage to them!'" Hearing this, Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "Do you not know that Ibrahim (peace be upon him) complained about the character of Sarah (may Allah be pleased with her), and Allah Almighty revealed to him: 'She is only from a rib, so take the rib and straighten it; if it becomes straight, well and good, otherwise live with her despite her habits.'"