Majma al-Zawaid — Hadith 3918

Sa'id bin Abdullah al-Awdi narrates: I was present with Sayyiduna Abu Umamah al-Bahili (may Allah be pleased with him) while he was in the throes of death. He said: "When I die, do with me as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded. He said: 'When one of your brothers dies and you have levelled the earth over him, let one of you stand at the head of his grave and say: O so-and-so son of so-and-so, O son of so-and-so (woman)! For he hears but does not answer. Then let him say: O so-and-so son of so-and-so (woman)! And he will sit upright. Then let him say: O so-and-so son of so-and-so (woman)! And he (the deceased) will say: Guide us, may Allah Almighty have mercy on you, but you people will not perceive it. Then let the man say: Remember that upon which you left the world: the testimony that there is no god but Allah Almighty and that Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is His servant and His Messenger, and that you were pleased with Allah Almighty as Lord, with Islam as religion, with Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) as Prophet and with the Qur'an as guide. (The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) says:) Then each of Munkar and Nakir takes hold of his companion's hand and says: Come with us! We will not sit with someone who has been prompted with his argument. And Allah Almighty will be the one who pleads his argument for him, instead of Munkar and Nakir.' A man said: 'O Messenger of Allah! What if one does not know (the name of) his mother?' The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: 'Then he should attribute him to Sayyidah Hawwa' (may Allah be pleased with her) and say: O so-and-so son of Hawwa'.'"
Al-Tabarani recorded it in al-Mu'jam al-Kabir. Its chain contains a group of narrators whom I do not know.