Sayyiduna Hakim bin Hizam (may Allah be pleased with him) says that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The best charity is that which leaves one self-sufficient; the upper hand is better than the lower hand; and begin with your own family."
Hadith Referenceالسنن الكبرى للبيهقي / كتاب الزكاة / 7770