It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The best charity is that which is given after (one's own) sufficiency, and the upper hand is better than the lower hand; and begin with those you support." He said: O Messenger of Allah, whom do I support? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Your wife says: 'Feed me or else part from me'; your servant says: 'Feed me and make use of me'; your child says: 'To whom will you leave me?'" Sa'id bin Abi Ayyub narrated it like this from Ibn Ajlan, and Ibn Uyaynah and others narrated it from Ibn Ajlan, from al-Maqburi, from Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), and made its final part the statement of Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him).
Hadith Referenceالسنن الكبرى للبيهقي / كتاب النفقات / 15710