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السنن الكبرى للبيهقي
Sunan al-Kubra al-Bayhaqi
كتاب النكاح
Book of Marriage
جماع أبواب الخطبة -- باب: التعريض بالخطبة
Collected chapters on marriage proposals -- Chapter: Indirect hinting at a marriage proposal
Bayhaqi 14028 — Collected chapters on marriage proposals -- Chapter
اُردوEn
أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ، أنبأ أَبُو الْحَسَنِ الطَّرَائِفِيُّ، وَأَبُو مُحَمَّدٍ الْكَعْبِيُّ قَالَا: ثنا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ قُتَيْبَةَ، ثنا يَزِيدُ بْنُ صَالِحٍ، عَنْ بُكَيْرِ بْنِ مَعْرُوفٍ، عَنْ مُقَاتِلِ بْنِ حَيَّانَ قَالَ: بَلَغَنَا وَاللهُ أَعْلَمُ أَنَّ مَعْنَى: {لَا تُوَاعِدُوهُنَّ سِرًّا} [البقرة: ٢٣٥] " الرَّفَثُ مِنَ الْكَلَامِ أَيْ لَا يُوَاجِهُهَا الرَّجُلُ فِي تَعْرِيضِ الْجِمَاعِ مِنْ نَفْسِهِ وَيَقُولُ آخَرُونَ: هُوَ الزِّنَا وَاللهُ أَعْلَمُ "، وَرُوِّينَا عَنِ الْحَسَنِ أَنَّهُ قَالَ فِي التَّعْرِيضِ: يُرْسِلُ إِلَيْهَا فِي عِدَّتِهَا يَقُولُ: إِنِّي فِيكِ لَرَاغِبٌ وَإِنِّي عَلَيْكِ لَحَرِيصٌ فَأَحْبَبْتُ أَنْ أُعْلِمَكِ فَإِذَا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُكِ رَأَيْتُ رَأْيَكِ، وَعَنْ عَطَاءٍ قَالَ: يُعَرِّضُ فَلَا يَبُوحُ، يَقُولُ: إِنَّ لِي حَاجَةً وَأَبْشِرِي فَأَنْتِ بِحَمْدِ اللهِ ⦗٢٩١⦘ نَافِقَةٌ، وَتَقُولُ هِيَ: قَدْ أَسْمَعُ مَا تَقُولُ، وَعَنْ عَطَاءٍ قَالَ: إِنْ وَاعَدَتْ رَجُلًا فِي عِدَّتِهَا ثُمَّ نَكَحَهَا بَعْدُ لَمْ يُفَرَّقْ بَيْنَهُمَا.
Muqatil bin Hayyan (may Allah have mercy on him) said: "But do not make promises to them secretly" [Surah al-Baqarah: 235] means obscene speech, that is, the man should not address her with hints of intercourse from himself; and others say that it means zina.
(b) Al-Hasan (may Allah have mercy on him) said regarding hinting at marriage: he sends word to her during her waiting period, saying: "I am desirous of you, I am eager for you, and I wanted to let you know; when your waiting period is over, you may decide as you see fit." Ata (may Allah have mercy on him) said: He hints and does not declare it openly. He says: "I have a need, so be of good cheer, for you, praise be to Allah, are much sought after." And she says: "I hear what you are saying." Ata (may Allah have mercy on him) also said: If she gave a man a promise during her waiting period and he then married her afterwards, they are not to be separated. [Hasan]
(b) Al-Hasan (may Allah have mercy on him) said regarding hinting at marriage: he sends word to her during her waiting period, saying: "I am desirous of you, I am eager for you, and I wanted to let you know; when your waiting period is over, you may decide as you see fit." Ata (may Allah have mercy on him) said: He hints and does not declare it openly. He says: "I have a need, so be of good cheer, for you, praise be to Allah, are much sought after." And she says: "I hear what you are saying." Ata (may Allah have mercy on him) also said: If she gave a man a promise during her waiting period and he then married her afterwards, they are not to be separated. [Hasan]
