Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah 18031 — The righteous woman and the woman

Sayyiduna Umar bin al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Women are of three kinds. First, the wife who is good-tempered, gentle-natured, chaste, Muslim, loving and child-bearing, who supports her husband in every situation and does not complain at hardships; but such a woman is rarely found. Second, the chaste Muslim woman who raises children and has no concern other than the children. Third, the woman who is ill-tempered and of bad nature; Allah Almighty places such a woman around the neck of whomever He wills, and no one but Allah can remove her. Men too are of three kinds. First, the chaste, Muslim, intelligent man who understands all kinds of affairs; if he is caught in a difficulty, he gets out of it by his wisdom. Second, the chaste Muslim man who is not himself a man of sound opinion, but when a matter arises, he consults a sensible man of sound opinion and acts on his advice. Third, the ignorant and foolish person who neither has sound opinion himself, nor consults a sensible person, nor obeys a well-wisher.