Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah 12500 — Those who permitted weeping over

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took Sayyiduna Abd al-Rahman bin Awf (may Allah be pleased with him) by the hand and went out to the date palms. His son Ibrahim was brought to him (peace and blessings be upon him); he was at that time on the point of death. He was placed in the lap of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O my son, I have no power to avail you anything against Allah Almighty." And tears came to his eyes (peace and blessings be upon him). Sayyiduna Abd al-Rahman said: "O Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), you are weeping? Did you (peace and blessings be upon him) not forbid weeping?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I forbade wailing, two wicked and foolish voices: the voice of amusement and play at the time of a melody, and the flutes of Satan; and the voice at the time of a calamity: scratching faces, tearing collars, and shrieking loudly like Satan. Indeed, these are tears of mercy, and whoever does not show mercy is not shown mercy. O Ibrahim, were it not that this is a true matter, a truthful promise and a path that everyone must tread, and that the last of us will soon join the first of us, our grief for you would have been greater than this. And indeed we are grieved because of you. The eyes weep, the heart is grieved and sorrowful, and we will not say anything that angers our Lord."