Urwah bin al-Zubayr narrated from Hakim bin Hizam bin Khuwaylid (may Allah be pleased with him) that he heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: "The upper hand is better than the lower hand. Let each of you begin with those in his care. The best charity is that given out of surplus wealth. Whoever refrains from asking, Allah will keep him chaste; and whoever wishes to be self-sufficient, Allah will make him self-sufficient."
Hadith Referenceالمعجم الكبير للطبراني / باب الحاء / 3080