It is narrated from Sayyiduna Anas bin Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered Sayyiduna al-Fadl bin Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) to prepare water for his ablution. Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) set out to relieve himself, and it was his (peace and blessings be upon him) habit that when he went to relieve himself, he would go so far that he could hardly be seen. When the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) had relieved himself, he turned back, and he (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by a woman who was at the grave of one of her dead, lamenting and wailing. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) stood by her, and she did not recognise him (peace and blessings be upon him). He (peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Fear Allah and be patient." The woman said: "O servant of Allah, go away from here (and mind your own business)." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said this to her three times, then left, came and took the ablution vessel from Sayyiduna al-Fadl (may Allah be pleased with him). Sayyiduna al-Fadl (may Allah be pleased with him) got up, went to the woman and asked: "What did the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say to you?" She stood up and (in astonishment and remorse) said: "Woe to me! Was that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)? I did not recognise him at all." So she hurried until she caught up with him (peace and blessings be upon him) at the door of the mosque and said: "O Messenger of Allah, by Allah, I did not recognise you." So the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Patience is (truly counted) only at the first shock." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said this three times.
Imam al-Tabarani (may Allah have mercy on him) said: "No one but Yusuf bin Atiyyah narrated this hadith with all these details from Ata bin Abi Maymunah, and Sa'id bin Mansur is alone in narrating it."
Hadith Referenceالمعجم الأوسط / باب الميم / 6244
Hadith Gradingمحدثین:إسناده ضعيف جدًّا، فيه يوسف بن عطية السعدي متروك
Hadith Takhrij«قال الهيثمي: فيه يوسف بن عطية السعدي وهو متروك ضعيف «مجمع الزوائد ومنبع الفوائد، ج 3، ص 3»» «أخرجه ابن ماجه فى «سننه» برقم: 332، 548، وأبو يعلى فى «مسنده» برقم: 3657، 3658، 3664، والبزار فى «مسنده» برقم: 7550، وابن حجر فى «المطالب العالية» برقم: 34، 106، والطبراني فى «الأوسط» برقم: 6356»