True Ties of Kinship Are Not Based on Reciprocity, But on Reconciliation

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Author: Dr. Muhammad Zia-ur-Rahman A‘zami (رحمه الله)

❖ Chapter:

«باب ليس الواصل بالمكافئ»

“The one who reciprocates is not the true one who maintains ties.”

It is narrated from ʿAbdullāh ibn ʿAmr ibn al-ʿĀṣ (رضي الله عنهما) that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:

“The one who maintains ties of kinship only as a return for being treated well is not the true maintainer. Rather, the one who truly upholds kinship is he who connects the ties when they have been severed.”
[Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī, Ḥadīth 5991]

This means that:

✔ True kinship is not based on mere exchange,
✔ But it is about initiating connection even when others break it,
✔ The one who continues to uphold family bonds despite being ignored, abandoned, or wronged is the one who is truly fulfilling the duty of Ṣilat al-Raḥim.