Those who permitted visiting graves

Ibn Buraydah narrates from his father (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I had earlier forbidden you from visiting the graves, so now visit them."

Sayyiduna Anas bin Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) says that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade visiting the graves, then (later) he said: "Visit the graves, and do not speak obscene words."

Sayyiduna Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) says that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) had forbidden visiting the graves, then (later) he said: "Indeed, I had forbidden you from visiting the graves; now visit them, for it refreshes the remembrance of the Hereafter."

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) says that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) visited the grave of his honoured mother and wept, and those who were around him also began to weep. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I asked my Lord for permission to pray for her forgiveness, but I was not given permission; and I asked my Lord for permission to visit her grave, and I was given permission. So visit the graves, for this will remind you of death." (The remembrance of death will be refreshed.)

Sulayman bin Buraydah narrates from his father (may Allah be pleased with him) that when the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) conquered Makkah, he (peace and blessings be upon him) came to an old grave and sat down beside it, and he became like one who is addressing someone, and the people sat around him. When he (peace and blessings be upon him) stood up, he (peace and blessings be upon him) was weeping. Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) met him (peace and blessings be upon him), and Umar was the boldest of the people towards him. Sayyiduna Umar said: "O Messenger of Allah! May my father and mother be sacrificed for you (peace and blessings be upon him), what has made you (peace and blessings be upon him) weep?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "This is the grave of my honoured mother. I asked my Lord for permission to visit it, and I was given permission; and I asked for permission to seek forgiveness for her, and it was not given to me. I remembered her, my heart was moved with tenderness, and I wept." The narrator says: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was never seen weeping more than he wept that day.

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah (bin Mas'ud) (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Indeed, I had (earlier) forbidden you from visiting the graves. Indeed, I have been given permission to visit the grave of my mother. So you too should visit the graves; it will remind you of the Hereafter."

Nafi' says that Asim bin Umar passed away while Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) was not present. When he arrived, he said: "Show me his grave." Then he stood by it for a while and made supplication.

Abdullah bin Abi Mulaykah says that Sayyiduna Abd al-Rahman bin Abi Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) passed away at a place called al-Hubshi. Ibn Jurayj says that al-Hubshi is a place at a distance of twelve miles from Makkah. He was buried in Makkah. When Sayyidah Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) came, she came to his grave and recited these verses:
"We were firm, inseparable companions for a long time, until it was thought that we would never part.
But when we parted, it felt as though Malik and I, despite that long companionship, had not spent even a single night together."
Then she said: "By Allah! Had I been present at that time, I would have had you buried where you died; and had I been present at your funeral, I would not have visited your grave."

Nafi' says that when Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) returned (from a journey) and one of his children had died (in his absence), he would say: "Show me his grave." They would show it to him, and he would go and stand at it and supplicate for him.

Ibn Buraydah narrates from his father (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: I once sat with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in a gathering and saw that he was sad. A man from among the people said: "O Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)! Why is it that you appear sad?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Yes, I was remembering my mother." Then he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I had forbidden you from eating the meat of the sacrificial animals beyond three days; so (now) eat yourselves, feed others, and store as much as you wish. And I had forbidden you from visiting the graves; so whoever wishes to visit his mother's grave, let him visit it. And I had forbidden you from the gourd vessel, the green glazed jar, the pitch-coated vessel, and the hollowed-out wooden stump in which date wine is made; so avoid everything that intoxicates, and prepare nabidh in whatever vessel you wish."