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صحيح البخاري
Bukhari
كتاب الأدب
The Book of Al-Adab (Good Manners)
بَابُ صِلَةِ الْمَرْأَةِ أُمَّهَا وَلَهَا زَوْجٌ:
Chapter. The kindness shown by a lady who has a husband, to her mother.
Sahih Bukhari 5979 — The kindness shown by a lady who has a husband
وَقَالَ اللَّيْثُ ، حَدَّثَنِي هِشَامٌ ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ ، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ ، قَالتَ : قَدِمَتْ أُمِّي وَهِيَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فِي عَهْدِ قُرَيْشٍ وَمُدَّتِهِمْ إِذْ عَاهَدُوا النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَعَ ابْنِهَا ، فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فَقُلْتُ : إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ وَهِيَ رَاغِبَةٌ أَفَأَصِلُهَا ؟ قَالَ : " نَعَمْ ، صِلِي أُمَّكِ "
Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (saws) saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor)." The Prophet (saws) said, "Yes, be good to your mother."
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
Hazrat Asma was a married woman; she had already been married to Hazrat Zubair radi Allahu anhu. Accordingly, Hafiz Ibn Hajar rahimahullah writes that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam granted Hazrat Asma radi Allahu anha permission to maintain ties of kinship with her mother, and in this matter, he did not instruct her to consult her husband. (Fath al-Bari: 10/508) Therefore, in the matter of maintaining ties of kinship with her mother, there is no need for a woman to consult her husband; she should maintain ties of kinship with her mother. Even after marriage, this remains her obligation and the mother’s right to service does not end. However, in the case of a conflict of rights, the husband’s right will take precedence. And Allah knows best.
Hazrat Asma was a married woman; she had already been married to Hazrat Zubair radi Allahu anhu. Accordingly, Hafiz Ibn Hajar rahimahullah writes that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam granted Hazrat Asma radi Allahu anha permission to maintain ties of kinship with her mother, and in this matter, he did not instruct her to consult her husband. (Fath al-Bari: 10/508) Therefore, in the matter of maintaining ties of kinship with her mother, there is no need for a woman to consult her husband; she should maintain ties of kinship with her mother. Even after marriage, this remains her obligation and the mother’s right to service does not end. However, in the case of a conflict of rights, the husband’s right will take precedence. And Allah knows best.
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 5979
