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الادب المفرد
Adab al-Mufrad
كتاب السباب
Book of Insulting
بَابُ الْمُسْتَبَّانِ شَيْطَانَانِ يَتَهَاتَرَانِ وَيَتَكَاذَبَانِ
Chapter: The Two Abusing Each Other Are Two Devils, Reviling and Lying
Al-Adab al-Mufrad 428 — The Two Abusing Each Other Are Two Devils
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي إِبْرَاهِيمُ، عَنْ حَجَّاجِ بْنِ حَجَّاجٍ، عَنْ قَتَادَةَ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ، عَنْ عِيَاضِ بْنِ حِمَارٍ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ”إِنَّ اللَّهَ أَوْحَى إِلَيَّ أَنْ تَوَاضَعُوا حَتَّى لاَ يَبْغِيَ أَحَدٌ عَلَى أَحَدٍ، وَلاَ يَفْخَرَ أَحَدٌ عَلَى أَحَدٍ“، فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، أَرَأَيْتَ لَوْ أَنَّ رَجُلاً سَبَّنِي فِي مَلَأٍ هُمْ أَنْقُصُ مِنِّي، فَرَدَدْتُ عَلَيْهِ، هَلْ عَلَيَّ فِي ذَلِكَ جُنَاحٌ؟ قَالَ: ”الْمُسْتَبَّانِ شَيْطَانَانِ يَتَهَاتَرَانِ وَيَتَكَاذَبَانِ.“
Sayyiduna Iyad bin Himar (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Allah Almighty has revealed to me that you should adopt humility and modesty, and that no one should wrong another, nor should anyone boast over another.” I asked: O Messenger of Allah! If someone of lower status abuses me and I respond to him, will I be sinful? The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Both who abuse each other are devils who utter obscenities and lie.”
قَالَ عِيَاضٌ: وَكُنْتُ حَرْبًا لِرَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَأَهْدَيْتُ إِلَيْهِ نَاقَةً، قَبْلَ أَنْ أُسْلِمَ، فَلَمْ يَقْبَلْهَا وَقَالَ: ”إِنِّي أَكْرَهُ زَبْدَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ.“
Sayyiduna Iyad (may Allah be pleased with him) says that before accepting Islam, while I was still an opponent of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), I gave a she-camel to him as a gift, but he did not accept it, and said: "I dislike the gift of polytheists."
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Usman Muneeb
Benefits and Issues:
➊ Using abusive language during a quarrel, if it becomes a habit for someone, is a sign of hypocrisy. Therefore, one should avoid cursing and reviling each other. Even if the opponent is of a lower status, one should demonstrate patience and restraint and avoid responding, because in such situations, a person, often unintentionally, ends up slandering or lying in order to disgrace the other.
➋ During a quarrel, Shaytan (Satan) exerts his influence greatly. By provoking anger, he incites a person to use abusive language. Therefore, at the time of conflict and dispute, one should recite: "A‘udhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim" (I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Shaytan). (: Bukhari: 6048)
➊ Using abusive language during a quarrel, if it becomes a habit for someone, is a sign of hypocrisy. Therefore, one should avoid cursing and reviling each other. Even if the opponent is of a lower status, one should demonstrate patience and restraint and avoid responding, because in such situations, a person, often unintentionally, ends up slandering or lying in order to disgrace the other.
➋ During a quarrel, Shaytan (Satan) exerts his influence greatly. By provoking anger, he incites a person to use abusive language. Therefore, at the time of conflict and dispute, one should recite: "A‘udhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim" (I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Shaytan). (: Bukhari: 6048)
Source: Fadlullah al-Ahad: Urdu Commentary on al-Adab al-Mufrad, Page: 428
