52 Authentic Ahadith on Kind Treatment of Parents

❀ ﴿وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا﴾
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and show kindness to parents.”

❀﴿وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ إِحْسَانًا ۖ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ كُرْهًا وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهًا﴾
“And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship.”

❀ ﴿وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ﴾
“And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, increasing her in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the final destination.”

❀ ﴿وَإِذْ أَخَذْنَا مِيثَاقَ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ لَا تَعْبُدُونَ إِلَّا اللَّهَ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا﴾
“And [recall] when We took the covenant from the Children of Israel, [enjoining upon them], ‘Do not worship except Allah; and to parents do good.'”

❀ ﴿وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حُسْنًا﴾
“And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents.”

❀ ﴿وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا﴾
“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good.”

① عن أسماء بنت أبى بكر قالت أتتني أمي راغبة فى عهد النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فسألت النبى أصلها قال نعم وفي رواية قدمت أمي وهى مشركة
“Asma bint Abi Bakr (may Allah be pleased with them) narrated that her mother came to her and she was a polytheist, so I asked the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), ‘Should I be kind to her?’ He said, ‘Yes, maintain ties of kinship with her and treat her well.'”

② عن أبى هريرة قال جاء رجل إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال يا رسول الله من أحق بحسن صحابتي قال أمك قال ثم من قال أمك قال ثم من قال أمك قال ثم من قال ثم أبوك
“Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that a man came to the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and asked: O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my good treatment? He replied: Your mother. He asked: Then who? He replied: Your mother. He asked: Then who? He replied: Your mother. He asked: Then who? He replied: Then your father.”

③ عن بهز بن حكيم عن أبيه عن جده قال قلت يا رسول الله من أبر قال أمك ثم أمك ثم أمك ثم أباك
“A companion asked the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم: Whom should I do good to? He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father.”

④ عن المقدام بن معديكرب أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إن الله يوصيكم بأمهاتكم ثلاثا إن الله يوصيكم بآبائكم
“Miqdam bin Ma’dikarib رضي الله عنه said that the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Allah the Exalted advises you to treat your mothers well. He said this three times. (Then he said) Allah the Exalted advises you to treat your fathers well.”

⑤ عن عبد الله قال سألت النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم أى العمل أحب إلى الله قال الصلاة على وقتها قال ثم أى قال ثم بر الوالدين قال ثم أى قال الجهاد فى سبيل الله
“Abdullah bin Mas’ud (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that he said: I asked the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), ‘Which deed is most beloved to Allah?’ He replied, ‘Prayer offered on time.’ Then I asked, ‘Then which?’ He said, ‘Good treatment of parents.’ Then I asked, ‘Then which?’ He said, ‘Jihad in the way of Allah.'”

⑥ عن عبد الله بن عمرو عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال رضى الرب فى رضى الوالد وسخط الرب فى سخط الوالد
“Abdullah bin Amr رضي الله عنهما narrates from the Prophet Muhammad صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم that he said: The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent, and the displeasure of the Lord lies in the displeasure of the parent.”

(Note) In this hadith, the term parent refers to both mother and father.
⋆ المراد بالوالد الجنس او اذا كان حكم الوالد هذا فحكم الوالدة اقوى وبالاعتبار اولى
Benefit: If a person’s parents are pleased with him, then understand that Allah is pleased with him, and if his parents are displeased with him, then understand that Allah is also displeased with him. This pleasure and displeasure refer to the pleasure and displeasure according to Islam.

⑦ عن عبد الرحمن بن عوف قال سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول قال الله تعالى أنا الرحمن وهى الرحم شققت لها من اسمي من وصلها وصلته ومن قطعها بتته
“Abdur Rahman bin Awf رضي الله عنه says that I heard the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم say that Allah Almighty says: I am Merciful, and this is kinship. I have cut off the name of the one who severs it from My name. Whoever maintains it, I will maintain him, and whoever severs it, I will sever him.”

Benefit: That is, whoever maintains and strengthens kinship ties, Allah Almighty will connect him with Himself. And whoever breaks kinship ties, Allah Almighty will break His connection with him. Among all relatives, the greatest right of maintaining kinship belongs to the parents.

⑧ عن أبى الدرداء قال سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول الوالد أوسط أبواب الجنة فإن شئت فأضع ذلك الباب أو احفظه
Abu Darda رضي الله عنه narrates that he heard the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم say: “Parents are the best gate to Paradise. It is your choice whether you waste this gate by displeasing them or protect it by serving them, obeying them, and pleasing them.”

Benefit: According to this hadith, parents are the best gate to Paradise, meaning the best deed to enter Paradise is serving, obeying, and being dutiful to one’s parents.

⑨ عن عائشة قالت قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم دخلت الجنة فسمعت فيها قراءة فقلت من هذا قالوا حارثة بن النعمان فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم كذلكم البر كذلكم البر وكان أبر الناس بأمه
Aisha رضي الله عنها narrates that the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: “I entered Paradise and heard the sound of someone reciting the Qur’an. I asked: Who is this? The angels said: This is Haritha bin Nu’man. The reward for doing good is like this. He used to treat his mother better than anyone else.”

(This is why, because of his good treatment of his mother, he recited the Qur’an on earth and the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم heard his recitation in Paradise.)

⑩ عن معاوية بن جاهمة أن جاهمة جاء إلى النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال يا رسول الله أردت أن أغزو وقد جئت أستشيرك فقال هل لك من أم قال نعم قال فالزمها فإن الجنة عند رجليها
Muawiyah bin Jahmah رضي الله عنه states that my father Jahmah came to the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and asked him, “O Messenger of Allah! I intend to go for jihad and have come to seek your advice.” The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم asked, “Do you have a mother?” He said, “Yes.” The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “Then hold on to her, serve her, for indeed Paradise is beneath her feet.”

⑪ عن جاهمة قال أتيت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم أستشيره فى الجهاد فقال النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم ألك والدان قلت نعم قال الزمهما فإن الجنة تحت أرجلھما
Jahmah رضي الله عنه says that I came to the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم to seek advice about going for jihad. The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم asked, “Do you have parents?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “Hold on to them because Paradise is beneath their feet.”

Benefit: The meaning of Paradise being beneath the feet of parents is that by obeying and serving them, Allah grants a person Paradise. Some people mistakenly think that perhaps Paradise is beneath the feet of the wife, and to please their wife, they upset everyone else, even neglecting their parents. Such people should fear Allah and understand that the rights of parents take precedence over those of the wife.

⑫ عن أبى هريرة قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ثلاث دعوات مستجابات لا شك فيهن دعوة المظلوم ودعوة المسافر ودعوة الوالد على ولده
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “There are three supplications that are surely answered, and there is no doubt about their acceptance: (1) the supplication of the oppressed, (2) the supplication of the traveler, (3) the supplication of parents for their children.”

⑬ عن أبى هريرة عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لم يتكلم فى المهد إلا ثلاثة عيسى ابن مريم وصاحب جريج وكان جريج رجلا عابدا فاتخذ صومعة فكان فيها فأتته أمه وهو يصلي فقالت يا جريج فقال يا رب أمي وصلاتي فأقبل علىٰ صلاته فانصرفت فلما كان من الغد أتته وهو يصلي فقالت يا جريج فقال يا رب أمي وصلاتي فأقبل علىٰ صلاته فانصرفت فلما كان من الغد أتته وهو يصلي فقالت يا جريج فقال يا رب أمي وصلاتي فأقبل علىٰ صلاته فقالت اللهم لا تمته حتىٰ ينظر إلىٰ وجوه المومسات فتذاكر بنو إسرائيل جريجا وعبادته وكانت امرأة بغي يتمثل بحسنها فقالت إن شئتم لأفتننه لكم قال فتعرضت له فلم يلتفت إليها فأتت راعيا كان يأوي إلىٰ صومعته فأمكنته من نفسها فوقع عليها فحملت فلما ولدت قالت هو من جريج فأتوه فاستنزلوه وهدموا صومعته وجعلوا يضربونه فقال ما شأنكم قالوا زنيت بهذه البغي فولدت منك فقال أين الصبي فجاءوا به فقال دعوني حتىٰ أصلي فصلىٰ فلما انصرف أتى الصبي فطعن فى بطنه وقال يا غلام من أبوك قال فلان الراعي قال فأقبلوا علىٰ جريج يقبلونه ويتمسحون به وقالوا نبني لك صومعتك من ذهب قال لا أعيدوها كما كانت من طين ففعلوا وبينا صبي يرضع من أمه فمر رجل راكب علىٰ دابة فارهة وشارة حسنة فقالت أمه اللهم اجعل ابني مثل هذا فترك الثدي وأقبل إليه فنظر إليه فقال اللهم لا تجعلني مثله ثم أقبل علىٰ ثديه فجعل يرتضع قال فكأني أنظر إلىٰ رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم وهو يحكي ارتضاعه بإصبعه السبابة فى فيه فجعل يمصها قال ومروا بجارية وهم يضربونها ويقولون زنيت سرقت وهى تقول حسبي الله ونعم الوكيل فقالت أمه اللهم لا تجعل ابني مثلها فترك الرضاع ونظر إليها فقال اللهم اجعلني مثلها
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “No child ever spoke in a swing except three children: one was Jesus (peace be upon him), the second was Jurayj and his companions. The story of Jurayj is that he was a devout person who built a place of worship and lived there.
His mother came while he was praying. She called out: ‘O Jurayj!’ He said: ‘O Lord, my mother is calling me and I am in prayer.’ He remained in prayer. His mother left. The next day she came again and called: ‘O Jurayj!’ He said: ‘O Lord, my mother is calling me and I am in prayer.’ He remained in prayer. His mother left. On the third day she came and called: ‘O Jurayj!’ He said: ‘O Lord, my mother is calling me and I am in prayer.’ He remained in prayer. His mother said: ‘O Allah! Do not kill him until he sees the face of immoral women’ (she cursed him).
Then the Children of Israel began to talk about Jurayj and his worship. Among the Children of Israel was an immoral woman whose beauty was proverbial. She said: ‘If you command, I will put Jurayj to the test.’ Then she went to Jurayj, but Jurayj did not even look at her. Finally, she went to a shepherd who used to stay near Jurayj’s place of worship and allowed him to keep company with her. The shepherd kept company with her, and the immoral woman became pregnant. When she gave birth, she said: ‘This child is Jurayj’s’ (she lied). When people heard this, they came to Jurayj, removed him from the place of worship, demolished it, and began to beat him (see how the mother’s curse took effect).
He said: ‘What is wrong with you?’ They said: ‘You committed adultery with this immoral woman and she bore you a child.’ Jurayj said: ‘Where is the child?’ They brought the child. Jurayj said: ‘Let me pray first.’ He prayed, then came to the child, pressed his stomach, and said: ‘O child! Who is your father?’ He said: ‘So-and-so shepherd.’ Hearing this, people ran to Jurayj, kissed and embraced him, and said: ‘We will build your place of worship with gold.’ He said: ‘Build it with clay as it was before.’
A woman was breastfeeding her child when a rider passed by wearing very fine clothes. The woman said: ‘O Allah! Make my son like this man.’ The child left his mother’s breast and turned toward the rider and said: ‘O Allah! Do not make me like him.’ Then he turned back and resumed breastfeeding.
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I still see that scene in my eyes when the Prophet (peace be upon him) showed by sucking his finger.
After that, people passed by with a slave girl. The woman said: ‘O Allah! Do not make my son like this slave girl.’ Hearing this, the child left his mother’s breast again and said: ‘O Allah! Make me like her.’ His mother asked: ‘Why? Why do you want to be like her?’ The child said: ‘That rider was an unjust person, while people say about that slave girl that she stole and committed adultery, although she did not do so.’

Benefit: From these ahadith it is understood that the supplication of the mother for her children, whether good or bad, is not rejected by Allah Almighty but is accepted, and the curse of parents does not leave the children either.

⑭ عن ابن عمر عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال بينما ثلاثة نفر يتمشون أخذهم المطر فأووا إلىٰ غار فى جبل فانحطت علىٰ فم غارهم صخرة من الجبل فسدت عليهم فقال بعضهم لبعض انظروا أعمالا عملتموها لله صالحة فادعوا الله بها لعله يفرجها فقال أحدهم اللهم إنه كان لي والدان شيخان كبيران ولي امرأة ولي صغار كنت أرعى عليهم فإذا رحت عليهم فحلبت بدأت بوالدي أسقيهما قبل بني وإنه نأىٰ بي الشجر فما أتيت حتىٰ أمسيت فوجدتهما قد ناما فحلبت كما كنت أحلب فجئت بالقدح فقمت عند رءوسهما أكره أن أوقظهما من نومهما وأكره أن أسقي الصغار قبلهما والصغار يتضاغون عند قدمي فلم يزل ذلك دأبي ودأبهم حتىٰ طلع الفجر فإن كنت تعلم أني فعلت ذلك ابتغاء وجهك فافرج لنا فرجة نرىٰ منها السماء ففرج الله لهم فرجة حتىٰ رأوا منها السماء وقال الثاني اللهم إنه كانت لي ابنة عم أحبها كأشد ما يحب الرجال النساء فطلبت إليها نفسها فأبت حتىٰ آتيها بمائة دينار فسعيت حتىٰ جمعت مائة دينار فأتيتها بها فلما قدرت بين رجليها قالت يا عبد الله اتق الله ولا تفتح الخاتم إلا بحقه فقمت عنها اللهم إن كنت تعلم أني فعلت ذلك ابتغاء وجهك فافرج لنا منها فرجة ففرج لهم وقال الآخر اللهم إني كنت استأجرت أجيرا بفرق من أرز فلما قضىٰ عمله قال أعطني حقي فعرضت عليه حقه فرغب عنه فلم أزل أزرعه له حتىٰ جمعت منه بقرا وراعيها فجاءني فقال اتق الله ولا تظلمني فأعطني حقي فقلت اذهب إلىٰ تلك البقر وراعيها فخذها فقال اتق الله ولا تستهزئ بي فقلت إني لا أستهزئ بك خذ تلك البقر وراعيها فأخذها فذهب بها فإن كنت تعلم أني فعلت ذلك ابتغاء وجهك فافرج ما بقي ففرج الله عنهم
It is narrated from Ibn Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: Three people from Bani Israel were traveling on a road when it started to rain, so they entered a cave in a mountain. By chance, a stone fell at the mouth of the cave, blocking the entrance.

They wondered what to do. They consulted among themselves, saying, “Brother, do this: pray to Allah through the good deeds you have sincerely done for His sake; perhaps Allah will ease the difficulty and save you.” Then one of the three said: “O Allah! You know that both my parents were old, and my children were very young. To provide for them, I used to graze animals. When I came home in the evening, I would milk the animals and first give the milk to my parents, then to my children. One day, the animals went far away to graze under a tree, and I was delayed and did not return until evening. When I arrived home, I saw my parents had fallen asleep.

As usual, I milked the animals and stood by their side with the milk until morning. I did not feel it right to wake them from their sleep, nor did I want to give the milk to the children first. The calves kept crying at my feet, asking for milk (but I neither gave nor intended to give). This continued until morning. O Allah! If You know that I did this purely for Your pleasure, then move this stone so that we may see the sky.” Allah Almighty moved the stone enough for them to see the sky.

Then the second person prayed: “O Allah! You know that I loved one of my cousins intensely, as much as a man can love a woman. That girl said, ‘You cannot have me until you pay 100 dinars.’ I tried and collected the 100 dinars, but when I sat between her legs (intending to commit fornication), she said, ‘Fear Allah and do not break the dowry unlawfully.’ Hearing this, I got up and left her. O Allah! As You know, I did this for Your pleasure, so open our way.” Accordingly, two-thirds of the way was opened for them.

The third said: “O Allah! As You know, I had employed a laborer for a bundle of barley, and when I paid him his wages, he refused to accept them. So I sowed that barley in the ground, and from its yield, I bought cows and a shepherd. The laborer came and said, ‘O servant of Allah, give me my due.’ I said, ‘Go and take those cows and their shepherd; they are all yours.’ He said, ‘Are you mocking me?’ I said, ‘I am not mocking you; it is all yours.’ O Allah! As You know, if I did all this for Your pleasure, then open our way and ease our difficulty.” Thus, their path was opened, and their hardship was removed.

Benefit: From this hadith, it is understood that serving one’s parents leads Allah to relieve one from worldly difficulties and troubles.

⑮ عن ابن عمر أن رجلا أتى النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال يا رسول الله إني أصبت ذنبا عظيما فهل لي توبة قال هل لك من أم قال لا قال هل لك من خالة قال نعم قال فبرها
It is narrated from Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them) that a man came to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allah! I have committed a great sin. Can my repentance be accepted?” He asked, “Do you have a mother?” In one narration, it is “Do you have parents?” He said, “No.” He asked, “Do you have a maternal aunt?” He said, “Yes.” He said, “Be good to her.”

⑯ عن ابن عمر قال أتى النبى رجل فقال يا رسول الله إني أذنبت ذنبا كبيرا فهل لي من توبة قال ألك والدان قال لا قال فلك خالة قال نعم فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فبرها إذا
It is narrated from Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them) that a man came to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allah! I have committed many sins. Can my repentance be accepted?” He asked, “Do you have parents?” He said, “No.” He asked, “Do you have a maternal aunt?” He said, “Yes.” He said, “Then be good to her.”

Benefit: From this hadith, it is understood that by serving and treating parents well, Allah Almighty forgives even major sins.

⑰ عن أنس بن مالك قال سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول من سره أن يبسط له فى رزقه أو ينسأ له فى أثره فليصل رحمه
“Anas bin Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said: Whoever likes that his sustenance increases or his lifespan is extended, let him maintain ties with his kin.”

Benefit: Among all relationships and kinships, the best and closest relationship is that of parents. It is understood that by treating parents well, Allah extends a person’s lifespan and grants abundance in sustenance.

⑱ عن أبى هريرة عن النبى قال تعلموا من أنسابكم ما تصلون به أرحامكم فإن صلة الرحم محبة فى الأهل مثراة فى المال منسأة فى الأثر
“Abu Huraira, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Noble Prophet, peace be upon him, said: Learn from your lineage so much that you maintain ties with your kin, because maintaining kinship is a cause of love among family, increase in wealth, and expansion in lifespan.”

⑲ عن عبد الله بن عمرو قال جاء رجل إلى رسول الله فاستأذنه فى الجهاد فقال أحيا والداك قال نعم قال ففيهما فجاهد
Narrated from Abdullah bin Amr رضي الله عنهما that a man came to the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and asked for permission to go for Jihad. He asked: Are your parents alive? He said: Yes. He said: Then strive in Jihad for both of them (meaning serve them). And in another narration, the Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said to him: Go to your parents and serve them well.

Benefit: Imam Bukhari رحمه الله established this chapter first in his Sahih Bukhari

titled “Chapter: No one should go for Jihad except with the permission of the parents.” Then he mentioned this hadith of Abdullah bin Amr رضي الله عنهما, meaning Imam Bukhari proves from this hadith that a person should not go for Jihad without the permission of his parents.

⑳ عن عبد الله بن عمرو قال أتى رجل رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال يا رسول الله إني جئت أريد الجهاد معك أبتغي وجه الله والدار الآخرة ولقد أتيت وإن والدي ليبكيان قال فارجع إليهما فأضحكهما كما أبكيتهما
Narrated from Abdullah bin Amr رضي الله عنهما that a man came to the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and said: I want to go for Jihad seeking the pleasure of Allah and the Hereafter, and I came while my parents were crying. The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Then return to them and make them laugh as you made them cry.

㉑ أن رجلا هاجر إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم من اليمن فقال هل لك أحد باليمن قال أبواي قال أذنا لك قال لا قال فارجع إليهما فاستأذنهما فإن أذنا لك فجاهد وإلا فبرهما
A man migrated from Yemen and came to the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم. He asked: Do you have any relatives in Yemen? He said: My parents are there. The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Have your parents given you permission? He said: No. Then the Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Return and seek permission from your parents. If they permit you, then go for Jihad; otherwise, be kind to your parents.

Objection: Those who do not consider the permission of parents necessary for Jihad present a verse from the Holy Quran:
❀ ﴿قُلْ إِن كَانَ آبَاؤُكُمْ وَأَبْنَاؤُكُمْ وَإِخْوَانُكُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ وَعَشِيرَتُكُمْ وَأَمْوَالٌ اقْتَرَفْتُمُوهَا وَتِجَارَةٌ تَخْشَوْنَ كَسَادَهَا وَمَسَاكِنُ تَرْضَوْنَهَا أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ وَجِهَادٍ فِي سَبِيلِهِ فَتَرَبَّصُوا حَتَّىٰ يَأْتِيَ اللَّهُ بِأَمْرِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْفَاسِقِينَ﴾
Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your relatives, the wealth you have gained, the trade you fear may decline, and the dwellings you love are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving in His cause, then wait until Allah brings His command (punishment). And Allah does not guide the defiantly disobedient.

The meaning is that if Allah and His Messenger and Jihad in the way of Allah are less beloved to you than your fathers, your brothers, etc., then wait for Allah’s punishment.

They say that whoever seeks permission from parents is considered to have loved his parents more than Allah, His Messenger, and Jihad in the way of Allah, and whoever loves parents or anything else more than Allah, His Messenger, and Jihad should await Allah’s punishment.

Answer: Those who consider the permission of parents necessary for Jihad do not regard parents as more beloved than Allah, His Messenger, and Jihad. Rather, by obeying the words of the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم, they issue the ruling that permission of parents is necessary for Jihad. So, they did not issue this ruling by loving parents more than Allah and His Messenger, but by loving the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and obeying his words.

Note: Some people consider those scholars who deem the permission of parents necessary for Jihad as deniers of Jihad. Brothers! This is neither denial of Jihad nor denial of the virtue of Jihad. Jihad will continue until the Day of Judgment; it existed before, it exists now, and it will continue until the Day of Judgment. الجهاد ماض إلى يوم القيامة.

Fatwa of Hafiz Abdul Mannan Noorpuri, may Allah have mercy on him

Hafiz Abdul Mannan Noorpuri, may Allah have mercy on him, states in response to a question that it is necessary to obtain permission from parents before going to these jihads. Refer to the authentic hadiths in Sahih Bukhari and Abu Dawood. In this regard, an article by Hafiz Abdul Salam Bhattvi, may Allah have mercy on him, was published in Majallah al-Da’wah; please study it. If one goes to jihad without obtaining permission from parents, he commits a major sin because the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, has counted disobedience to parents among the major sins. Except for religion and debt, all sins of a martyr in the cause of Allah are forgiven upon martyrdom.

Fatwa of Fazilat al-Sheikh Hafiz Abdul Salam Bhattvi, may Allah have mercy on him

Abdullah bin Umar رضي الله عنهما narrates that a man came to the Prophet Muhammad صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and asked for permission to participate in jihad. The Prophet asked: Are your parents alive? He said: Yes. The Prophet said: Then fight jihad among them.

Imam Bukhari رحمه الله created a chapter on this hadith titled “Jihad with the permission of parents.” In its explanation, Hafiz Ibn Hajar رحمه الله states: The majority of scholars say that if both parents or either one forbids, then jihad is prohibited, provided both are Muslims, because good treatment towards them is an individual obligation, while jihad is a collective obligation. However, when jihad becomes an individual obligation, no permission is required.

When jihad becomes an individual obligation, if a person refrains from going to jihad due to the parents’ command, then there is a risk of Allah’s punishment. Allah Almighty says:
❀ ﴿قُلْ إِن كَانَ آبَاؤُكُمْ وَأَبْنَاؤُكُمْ وَإِخْوَانُكُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ وَعَشِيرَتُكُمْ وَأَمْوَالٌ اقْتَرَفْتُمُوهَا وَتِجَارَةٌ تَخْشَوْنَ كَسَادَهَا وَمَسَاكِنُ تَرْضَوْنَهَا أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ وَجِهَادٍ فِي سَبِيلِهِ فَتَرَبَّصُوا حَتَّىٰ يَأْتِيَ اللَّهُ بِأَمْرِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْفَاسِقِينَ﴾ ‎
Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your relatives, the wealth you have earned, the trade you fear may decline, and the dwellings you love are more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving in His cause, then wait until Allah brings His command (punishment). And Allah does not guide the defiantly disobedient.

Jihad becomes an individual obligation in the following cases:
(a) When the enemy attacks or occupies the land of the Islamic state

(b) When the Amir orders a group or a specific person to go out: وإذا استنفرتم فانفروا

When you are ordered to go out, then go out.
(c) When a person is in the battlefield and the fighting begins:
❀ ﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِذَا لَقِيتُمُ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا زَحْفًا فَلَا تُوَلُّوهُمُ الْأَدْبَارَ﴾
O you who have believed, when you meet those who disbelieve in battle, do not turn your backs to them.

㉒ عن عمرو بن شعيب عن أبيه عن جده أن رجلا أتى النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال يا رسول الله إن لي مالا وولدا وإن والدي يحتاج مالي قال أنت ومالك لوالدك إن أولادكم من أطيب كسبكم فكلوا من كسب أولادكم
A Companion, may Allah be pleased with him, said that a man came to the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, and said, “I have wealth, and my father is in need of my wealth.” The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: “You and your wealth belong to your father. Your children are from your pure earnings; you may consume the earnings of your children.”

Benefit: From this hadith, it is understood that the wealth of children belongs to the parents. When parents are in need of their children’s wealth, they have the right to take as much as they want. However, parents should avoid oppression and injustice and be fair among their children. Nowadays, the society is quite the opposite, where men give all their earnings to their wives, and the wife (Mashallah) asks her husband’s parents for five or ten rupees. Brothers! How shameful this is. We should fear Allah and give preference to parents over the wife.

㉓عن عبد الله بن عمر قال كانت تحتي امرأة وكنت أحبها وكان عمر يكرهها فقال لي طلقها فأبيت فأتى عمر النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فذكر ذلك له فقال النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم طلقها
“Abdullah bin Umar, may Allah be pleased with them both, narrated that there was a woman married to me whom I loved, but Umar, may Allah be pleased with him (my father), disliked her. He told me: Divorce her. I did not obey. He (Umar, may Allah be pleased with him) went to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and presented this matter before him, and he instructed me: Divorce that woman.” (That is, obey your father’s command)

㉔ عن أبى الدرداء قال إن رجلا أتاه فقال إن لي امرأة وإن أمي تأمرني بطلاقها فقال أبو الدرداء سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول الوالد أوسط أبواب الجنة فإن شئت فأضع ذلك الباب أو احفظه
“Abu Darda, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that a man came to him and said, I have a wife and my mother commands me to divorce her. Abu Darda, may Allah be pleased with him, said: I heard the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, say that the parent is the best gate to Paradise; if you wish, you may guard this gate by serving them, or you may lose it by disobeying them.”

Note: By parent is meant both mother and father. كما تقدم
Meaning: Abu Darda, may Allah be pleased with him, intended by narrating this hadith that obey your mother and divorce your wife.
Benefit: If a man’s parents are not pleased with his wife, are upset with her, are troubled by her, and they command their son to divorce his wife, then it is obligatory upon the son to obey his parents’ command and divorce his wife, provided that she is indeed at fault and guilty. And if she is not at fault and the parents command him against the Shariah, saying things like “Do not raise your hands (in supplication),” “Go to the court,” “Have the eleventh day of the month celebrated in the name of someone other than Allah,” etc., then if the woman does not obey her husband’s parents in these matters, in such a case, the wife should not be divorced by obeying the parents.

㉕ عن أبى هريرة قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لا يجزي ولد والدا إلا أن يجده مملوكا فيشتريه فيعتقه
Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: No son can fully repay the rights of his father unless he finds his father as a slave and then buys and frees him.

Benefit: The meaning of this hadith is that a person may serve his parents all his life, obey them, never say even “uff” (a mild expression of annoyance) to them, carry them on his back to perform Hajj, yet still cannot fully fulfill the rights of his parents. Indeed, there is only one way to fully fulfill the rights of parents, and that is if one finds his parents as slaves and buys and frees them.

㉖ عن ابن عمر قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم إن أبر البر صلة المرء أهل ود ابيه بعد ان يولي
“It is narrated from Ibn Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: Among the greatest good deeds is for a person to maintain ties of kinship with the friends of his father after his father’s death.”

The happiness of a righteous child is to pray well for their parents because this teaching is given in the Quran and Hadith. Allah Almighty has taught the way to pray for parents as follows:
❀ ﴿رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا﴾
“O my Lord! Have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small.”

❀ ﴿رَبَّنَا اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَوْمَ يَقُومُ الْحِسَابُ﴾
“Our Lord! Forgive me and my parents and the believers on the Day the account is established.”

㉗ عن أبى هريرة عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال القنطار اثنا عشر ألف أوقية كل أوقية خير مما بين السماء والأرض وقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم إن الرجل لترفع درجته فى الجنة فيقول أنىٰ هذا فيقال باستغفار ولدك لك
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “The treasure is twelve thousand ounces, each ounce is better than everything between the heavens and the earth.” And the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “When a person’s rank is raised in Paradise, he asks why this has happened? It is told to him that your offspring have sought forgiveness for you.”

It is not correct for some scholars to declare this weak)

It is a sin and forbidden to pray for forgiveness for parents who died as polytheists.
❀﴿مَا كَانَ لِلنَّبِيِّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَن يَسْتَغْفِرُوا لِلْمُشْرِكِينَ وَلَوْ كَانُوا أُولِي قُرْبَىٰ مِن بَعْدِ مَا تَبَيَّنَ لَهُمْ أَنَّهُمْ أَصْحَابُ الْجَحِيمِ﴾
“It is not appropriate for the Prophet and the believers to ask forgiveness for polytheists, even if they are close relatives, when it has become clear to them that those people are in Hell.”

If parents do not pray and die in that state, it is also forbidden to pray for their forgiveness because a person who does not pray is a polytheist, and praying for forgiveness for a polytheist is forbidden. كما تقدم

❀﴿فَإِن تَابُوا وَأَقَامُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَآتَوُا الزَّكَاةَ فَإِخْوَانُكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ﴾
“If they repent, establish prayer, and give zakat, then they are your religious brothers.”

Benefit: From this verse, it is established that performing prayer is a condition for becoming religious brothers; one who does not pray is not a religious brother, meaning he is a non-Muslim. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:
㉘ إن بين الرجل وبين الشرك والكفر ترك الصلاة
“Indeed, the difference between a Muslim and disbelief and polytheism is abandoning prayer.”

㉙ قال النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم ليس بين العبد والشرك إلا ترك الصلاة فإذا تركها فقد أشرك
“The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: The only difference between a servant and polytheism is abandoning prayer; so when he abandons prayer, he has committed polytheism.”

㉚ فمن تركها متعمدا فقد خرج من الملة
“Whoever deliberately abandons prayer, indeed he has certainly left the religion (i.e., the faith).”

㉛ عن المغيرة بن شعبة عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إن الله حرم عليكم عقوق الأمهات
“Mughirah bin Shu’bah رضي الله عنه narrates that the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Allah has made disobedience and troubling of the mother forbidden upon you.”

㉜ عن معاذ بن جبل قال أوصاني رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم بعشر كلمات قال لا تشرك بالله شيئا وإن قتلت أو حرقت ولا تعقن والديك وإن أمراك أن تخرج من أهلك ومالك
“Mu’adh bin Jabal رضي الله عنه says that the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم advised me with ten words. He said: Do not associate anyone with Allah, even if you are killed or burned, and do not disobey your parents even if they command you to leave your family and wealth.”

Disobedience to parents is a very major sin
㉝ عن عبد الرحمن بن أبى بكرة عن أبيه قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ألا أنبئكم بأكبر الكبائر قال ثلاثا قالوا بلى يا رسول الله قال الإشراك بالله وعقوق الوالدين
“Abu Bakrah رضي الله عنه narrates that the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Shall I not tell you about the major sins among the great sins? We said: Yes, O Messenger of Allah! Tell us. He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Associating partners with Allah and disobedience to parents.”

㉞ عن أبى أمامة قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ثلاثة لا يقبل الله منهم صرفا ولا عدلا عاق ومنان ومكذب بالقدر
“Abu Umamah رضي الله عنه narrates that the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Allah does not accept the obligatory and voluntary worship of three types of people: the disobedient to parents, the one who shows off, and the one who denies predestination.”

❀ ﴿فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا﴾
“So do not say to them a word of disrespect, nor repel them, but speak to them a noble word.”

Benefit: Allah Almighty says that if parents say something you dislike due to old age, still you should not say even “uff” to them, meaning you should not say anything in front of them that causes them pain or distress. Those brothers who scold or insult their parents should fear Allah, otherwise humiliation in this world and the Hereafter will be their destiny.

㉟ عن عبد الله بن عمرو قال جاء رجل إلى رسول الله فقال جئت أبايعك علىٰ الهجرة وتركت أبوي يبكيان قال ارجع إليهما فأضحكهما كما أبكيتهما
It is narrated from Abdullah bin Amr رضي الله عنهما that a man came to the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم. He said: I have come to pledge allegiance to you for migration, and I left my parents crying. So the Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them cry.

Benefit: Migration is a very high and virtuous deed, such a great act that Allah the Exalted forgives all (minor and major) sins of a person’s previous life through migration. Despite being such a great act, the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم did not permit migration without the consent of the parents.

㊱ عن أبى هريرة عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال رغم أنفه ثم رغم أنفه ثم رغم أنفه قيل من يا رسول الله قال من أدرك أبويه عند الكبر أحدهما أو كليهما فلم يدخل الجنة
Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: “May his nose be dusted, then may his nose be dusted, then may his nose be dusted (meaning disgraced) who finds both his parents or one of them in old age and does not enter Paradise by serving them.”

Benefit: Respected brothers! The Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم repeatedly curses the unfortunate one who does not attain Paradise by serving his parents. Brothers! For whom the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم prays a curse, think how can he gain honor in this world and the Hereafter, how can he be successful?

㊲ عن أبى هريرة أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم رقي المنبر فقال آمين آمين آمين فقيل له يا رسول الله ما كنت تصنع هذا فقال قال لي جبريل رغم أنف عبد أدرك رمضان فانسلخ منه لم يغفر له فقلت آمين ثم قال رغم أنف عبد أدرك والديه أو أحدهما فلم يدخله الجنة فقلت آمين ثم قال رغم أنف عبد ذكرت عنده فلم يصل عليك فقلت آمين
Narrated Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه that the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ascended the pulpit and said: Ameen, Ameen, Ameen. It was asked, O Messenger of Allah! Why did you say this? He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم replied: Gabriel عليه السلام told me, “May Allah dust the nose of a man or may He reprimand him.”

⋆ Whoever reaches the month of Ramadan and is not forgiven, I said: Ameen.
⋆ Then Gabriel said, “May the nose of a man be dusted or may he be reprimanded who has both parents or one of them and does not enter Paradise after serving them,” so I said: Ameen.
⋆ Then Gabriel said, “May the nose of a man be dusted or may he be reprimanded who, when your name is mentioned, does not send blessings upon you (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم),” so I said: Ameen.
Benefit: Brothers! The chief of angels Gabriel عليه السلام is cursing the disobedient to parents, and the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم is saying Ameen.

㊳عن أبى هريرة أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال ملعون من عمل عمل قوم لوط ملعون من عمل عمل قوم لوط ملعون من عمل عمل قوم لوط ملعون من ذبح لغير الله ملعون من عق والديه
“Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: The person who acts like the people of Lot (peace be upon him) is cursed. He repeated this statement three times and said: The person who sacrifices for anyone other than Allah is cursed, and the person who disobeys his parents is also cursed.”

㊴عن أبى الطفيل عامر بن وائلة قال كنت عند على بن أبى طالب فأتاه رجل فقال ما كان النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم يسر إليك قال فغضب وقال ما كان النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم يسر إلى شيئا يكتمه الناس غير أنه قد حدثني بكلمات أربع قال فقال ما هن يا أمير المؤمنين قال قال لعن الله من لعن والده لعن الله من ذبح لغير الله لعن الله من آوى محدثا لعن الله من غير منار الأرض
Abu Tufail Amir bin Wa’il narrates that I was with Ali bin Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) when a man came to Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) and said: What secret matters did the Prophet (peace be upon him) discuss with you? He said that Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) became angry and said: The Noble Prophet (peace be upon him) never discussed any secret matter with me that he hid from people except that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) taught me four statements. The narrator says: He said: O Commander of the Faithful! What are they? The narrator relates that Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Curse be upon the person who curses his parents (i.e., calls them cursed), curse be upon the person who sacrifices animals for other than Allah, curse be upon the person who gives place to an innovator, and curse be upon the person who changes the landmarks of the land.

㊵ عن عبد الله بن عمرو قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم إن من أكبر الكبائر أن يلعن الرجل والديه قيل يا رسول الله وكيف يلعن الرجل والديه قال يسب الرجل أبا الرجل فيسب أباه ويسب أمه فيسب أمه
Narrated from Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Among the major sins, the greatest sin is that a person calls his parents cursed. It was asked: Does a person call his parents cursed? The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: This person insults another person’s father, so (in response) he insults his father; he insults his mother, so (in response) he insults his mother.

㊶ عن عبد الله بن عمرو قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم من الكبائر أن يشتم الرجل والديه قالوا يا رسول الله وهل يشتم الرجل والديه قال نعم يسب أبا الرجل فيسب أباه ويسب أمه فيسب أمه
Narrated from Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: It is a major sin for a person to speak ill of his parents. The companions said: O Messenger of Allah! Does a person speak ill of his parents? The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Yes, he insults another person’s father, so (in response) he insults his father; he insults his mother, so (in response) he insults his mother.

Benefit: It is understood that if someone insults another’s parents and in response the other insults his parents, then the first person has effectively insulted his own parents.

㊷ عن عبد الله بن عمرو عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لا يدخل الجنة منان ولا عاق ولا مدمن خمر
“Abdullah bin Amr, may Allah be pleased with them both, narrated that the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said: One who excessively shows off his good deeds, disobeys his parents, and constantly drinks alcohol will not enter Paradise.”

㊸ عن عمرو بن مرة الجهني قال جاء رجل إلى النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال يا رسول الله شهدت أن لا إله إلا الله وأنك رسول الله وصليت الخمس وأديت زكاة مالي وصمت رمضان فقال النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم من مات علىٰ هذا كان مع النبيين والصديقين والشهداء يوم القيامة هكذا ونصب إصبعيه ما لم يعق والديه
“Amr bin Murrah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that a man came to the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah! I bear witness that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah and that you are the Messenger of Allah. I pray five prayers, give zakat from my wealth, and fast during Ramadan.’ The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: Whoever dies upon this (i.e., the mentioned deeds) will be with the Prophets, the truthful (Siddeeqeen), and the martyrs on the Day of Judgment,’ and he raised two fingers, while he had not disobeyed his parents.”

Benefit: The point is that one who affirms Tawheed and Risalah, prays, gives zakat from his wealth, and fasts will be with the Prophets, the truthful, and the martyrs on the Day of Judgment, but the condition is that he does not disobey his parents. If he performs all these deeds but also disobeys his parents, then he will not be with the Prophets, the truthful, and the martyrs on the Day of Judgment.

㊹عن جبير بن مطعم أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لا يدخل الجنة قاطع رحم
It is narrated from Jabir bin Mut’im, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said: “One who severs the ties of kinship will not enter Paradise.”

Benefit: If one who cuts off relations with common relatives cannot enter Paradise, then how can one who cuts off relations with parents enter Paradise, with whom maintaining kinship is most strongly commanded.

㊺ عن عبد الله قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ثلاثة لا ينظر الله عز وجل إليهم يوم القيامة العاق لوالديه والمرأة المترجلة والديوث وثلاثة لا يدخلون الجنة العاق لوالديه والمدمن علىٰ الخمر والمنان بما أعطى
Abdullah, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said: “On the Day of Resurrection, Allah will not look at three people: ● The disobedient to parents. ● A woman who imitates men. ● An idolater.
Three people will not enter Paradise: ● The disobedient to parents, ● One who always drinks alcohol, ● And one who excessively shows off favors done.”

㊻ عن أبى بكرة قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ما من ذنب أجدر أن يعجل الله تعالى لصاحبه العقوبة فى الدنيا مع ما يدخر له فى الآخرة من البغي وقطيعة الرحم
Abu Bakrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: No sin deserves that Allah hastens its punishment for the one who commits it in this world and also reserves its punishment for him in the Hereafter, except for two sins: rebellion and breaking family ties.

Benefit: The best and closest relationship a person has is with their parents. Whoever does not maintain the relationship with their parents and does not fulfill their rights, Allah Almighty will soon place them in some trouble or hardship in this world, and in the Hereafter, Allah will punish them.

㊼ عن العوام بن حوشب قال نزلت مرة حيا وإلىٰ جانب ذلك الحي مقبرة فلما كان بعد العصر انشق منها قبر فخرج رجل رأسه رأس حمار وجسده جسد إنسان فنهق ثلاث نهقات ثم انطبق عليه القبر فإذا عجوز تغزل شعرا أو صوفا فقالت امرأة ترىٰ تلك العجوز قلت ما لها قالت تلك أم هذا قلت وما كان قصته قالت كان يشرب الخمر فإذا راح تقول له أمه يا بني اتق الله إلىٰ متىٰ تشرب هذه الخمر فيقول لها إنك تنهقين كما ينهق الحمار قالت فمات بعد العصر قالت فهو ينشق عنه القبر بعد العصر كل يوم فينهق ثلاث نهقات ثم ينطبق عليه القبر
Awam bin Hawshab narrates that once I entered a tribe and there was a cemetery of that tribe. After Asr prayer, a grave in the cemetery opened, and out came a person whose head was that of a donkey and whose body was human. He crawled three times like a donkey. Then the grave closed over him. Suddenly, an old woman was spinning wool or hair there. Awam bin Hawshab says a woman said: “She is looking at that woman.” I asked: “What is wrong with her?” The woman said: “This old woman is the mother of that person who came out of the grave.” I asked: “What is his story?” She said: “He used to drink alcohol. When he came home in the evening, his mother would say to him: ‘O son, fear Allah, how long will you keep drinking alcohol?’ He would reply and crawl like a donkey.” The woman said: “He died after Asr prayer, and now every day after Asr, his grave opens, and he crawls three times like a donkey, then the grave closes over him.”

❀﴿وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا﴾
“If parents strive to make you associate with Me something of which you have no knowledge, then do not obey them, but accompany them in worldly matters in a good manner.”

Regarding the occasion of revelation of this verse, Saad bin Abi Waqqas (may Allah be pleased with him) said that many verses of the Quran were revealed concerning me. One of these verses was revealed when his mother swore that she would never speak to him (Saad) until he abandoned his religion (i.e., Islam). She neither ate nor drank and said, “Allah has commanded you to obey your parents, and I am your mother; I command you to abandon this matter (Islam).”
She remained in this state for three days without eating or drinking until she fainted. Finally, her brother Ammar stood up and gave her water to drink. After drinking the water, she began to curse Saad. At this moment, Allah Almighty revealed this verse ﴿وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ …﴾

㊽ عن على أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لا طاعة فى معصية الله إنما الطاعة فى المعروف
Narrated Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to anyone in disobedience to Allah; obedience is only in good deeds.”

㊾ عن النواس بن سمعان قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لا طاعة لمخلوق فى معصية الخالق
Narrated Nawas bin Sam’an (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator.”

㊿عن على قال بعث النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم سرية فاستعمل عليهم رجلا من الأنصار وأمرهم أن يطيعوه فغضب عليهم فقال أليس أمركم النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم أن تطيعوني قالوا بلى قال قد عزمت عليكم لما جمعتم لي حطبا وأوقدتم نارا ثم دخلتم فيها فجمعوا حطبا فأوقدوا فلما هموا بالدخول فجعل بعضهم ينظر إلىٰ بعض فقال قوم إنما تبعنا النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فرارا من النار أفندخلها فبينما هم كذلك خمدت النار وسكن غضبه فذكر للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال لو دخلوها ما خرجوا منها أبدا إنما الطاعة فى المعروف
Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) sent out a group and appointed an Ansari as its leader and commanded the people to obey him. This person became angry with them and said: “Is it not true that the Prophet (peace be upon him) commanded you to obey me?” They said: “Yes.” He said: “I have decided that you gather wood, then light a fire, and enter into that fire.” The people gathered wood and lit the fire, but when they intended to enter it, they stopped and looked at each other. Some said: “We accepted the Prophet’s obedience to avoid the fire, so should we now jump into the fire?” While they were thinking and discussing this, the fire went out and the man’s anger cooled down. Later, this matter was mentioned to the Prophet (peace be upon him), who said: “If these people had entered the fire, they would never have come out of it and would have burned forever in the Hellfire. Obedience is only in legitimate commands.”

(51) عن عبد الله عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم أنه قال السمع والطاعة على المرء المسلم فيما أحب وكره ما لم يؤمر بمعصية فإذا أمر بمعصية فلا سمع ولا طاعة
Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates from the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) that he said: “It is obligatory for a Muslim to listen and obey in matters he likes or dislikes unless he is commanded to disobey. When he is commanded to disobey, then neither listening nor obedience is required.”

Benefit: It is established from the evidences of the Quran and Hadith that in opposition to Shariah, the words of parents will not be accepted, nor will the words of any person in the world be accepted if they contradict Shariah, whether they are parents, rulers, teachers, or anyone else.

فتفكر وتدبر وكن من الصالحين العاملين

The correct matter is that they will be called by their father’s name. Imam Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, has dedicated a chapter in his Sahih Bukhari titled: “The chapter on people being called by their fathers” (باب ما يدعى الناس بآبائهم).

After that, he narrated this hadith:
(52) عن ابن عمر عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إن الغادر يرفع له لواء يوم القيامة يقال هذه غدر فلان بن فلان
“It is narrated from Ibn Umar, may Allah be pleased with them both, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: On the Day of Judgment, a banner will be raised for the deceiver, and it will be said: This is the deceit of so-and-so, son of so-and-so.”

Benefit: The other narrations that indicate calling by the mother’s name are weak.