إن الحمد لله نحمده، ونستعينه، من يهده الله فلا مضل له، ومن يضلل فلا هادي له ، وأشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له، وأن محمدا عبده ورسوله . أما بعد:
Allah Almighty has One Hundred Parts of Mercy
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى:وَرَحْمَتِي وَسِعَتْ كُلَّ شَيْءٍ
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“And My mercy encompasses all things.”
وَقَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: رَبَّنَا وَسِعْتَ كُلَّ شَيْءٍ رَّحْمَةً وَعِلْمًا
❀ And Allah Almighty has said:
“O our Lord! You have encompassed everything in mercy and knowledge.”
Hadith 1
وعن أبى هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: جعل الله الرحمة مائة جزء فأمسك عنده تسعة وتسعين جزءا ، وأنزل فى الأرض جزءا، واحدا، فمن ذلك الجزء يتراحم الخلق ، حتى ترفع الفرس حافرها عن ولدها خشية أن تصيبه
Narrated Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him), he said that I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) say: Allah Almighty has divided His mercy into one hundred parts. He kept ninety-nine parts with Himself and sent down only one part on the earth. Because of this one part, creatures show mercy to one another, to the extent that even a mare does not trample on its young but lifts its hoof so as not to hurt it.
Good Treatment Towards Those Who Behave Badly
Hadith 2
وعنه: أن رجلا قال: يارسول الله! إن لى قرابة، أصلهم ويقطعون، وأحسن إليهم ويسيئون ، وأحلم ويجهلون، قال: إن كان كما تقول فكأنما تسفهم المل ، ولا يزال معك من الله ظهير ما دمت على ذلك
“And Hazrat Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that a man said: O Messenger of Allah! I have some relatives, (the situation is) I maintain ties with them, but they sever ties with me. I treat them well while they treat me badly, and I act with wisdom and knowledge while they act ignorantly. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: If the matter is as you say, then you are putting hot ashes in their mouths. As long as your condition remains like this, there will always be a helper from Allah with you.”
Allah Almighty maintains His relationship with those who uphold ties of kinship
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ ﴿٢٢﴾
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“Then indeed, you are close if you become a ruler and cause corruption on the earth and sever your ties of kinship completely.”
Hadith 3
وعن أبى هريرة عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: إن الله خلق الخلق حتى إذا فرغ من خلقه ، قالت الرحم: هذا مقام العائذ بك من القطيعة؟ قال: نعم ، أما ترضين أن أصل من وصلك ، وأقطع من قطعك؟ قالت: بلى يا رب، قال: فهو لك ، قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : فاقرءوا إن شئتم فهل عسيتم إن توليتم أن تفسدوا فى الأرض وتقطعوا أرحامكم
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) that he reported from the Prophet (peace be upon him) that he said: Allah Almighty created the creation. When He finished creating them, kinship (relationship) said: Is this the place where I seek refuge from severing ties? Allah Almighty said: Yes, that is so. Are you not pleased that I will maintain relations with those who maintain relations with you, and I will sever relations with those who sever relations with you? Kinship said: Why not, O my Lord! Allah Almighty said: This (honor) I have given you. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) then said: If you wish, recite this verse: It is near that if you were given the choice, you would cause corruption on earth and sever ties of kinship.”
Hadith 4
وعن أبى ذر ، قال : أمرني خليلي صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم بسبع: (1) أمرني بحب المساكين ، والدنو منهم (2) وأمرني أن أنظر ، إلى من هو دوني ولا أنظر إلى من هو فوقى (3) وأمرني أن أصل الرحم وإن أدبرت (4) وأمرنى أن لا أسأل أحدا شيئا (5) وأمرني أن أقول بالحق وإن كان مرا (6) وأمرني أن لا أخاف فى الله لومة لائم (7) وأمرني أن أكثر من قول لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله فإنهن من كنز تحت العرش – وفي رواية فإنها كنز من كنوز الجنة
“And Hazrat Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him) says: My beloved (peace be upon him) commanded me with seven matters: [1] He commanded to love the poor and stay close to them [2] He commanded to look at those who are lower than oneself and not to pay attention to those who are superior [3] He commanded me to maintain ties of kinship even if they turn away [4] He commanded me not to ask anyone for anything [5] He commanded me to speak the truth even if it is bitter [6] He commanded me not to fear the blame of any blamer in the matter of Allah and [7] He commanded me to frequently recite لا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بالله because these words are among the treasures beneath the Throne.” And in another narration: “These words are one of the treasures of Paradise.”
Hadith 5
وعن إسحاق بن سعيد ، قال حدثني أبي، قال: كنت عند ابن عباس، فأتاه رجل فسأله: من أنت؟ قال: فمت له برحم بعيدة، فألان له القول ، فقال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : اعرفوا أنسابكم تصلوا أرحامكم ، فإنه لا قرب بالرحم إذا قطعت وإن كانت قريبة، ولا بعد بها إذا وصلت وإن كانت بعيدة
“And it is narrated from Ishaq bin Saeed, who said: My father told me that he was with Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him), a man came to him, and he asked him: Who are you? He explained a distant kinship relation. Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) spoke to him gently and said that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Know your lineage so that you may maintain ties of kinship. Because the closeness of kinship has no meaning when kinship ties are completely severed, even if those relatives are very close. And the distance of kinship has no meaning when ties of kinship are maintained, even if those relatives are very distant.”
Hadith 6
وعن عبد الله بن مسعود رفعه: اتقوا الله وصلوا أرحامكم
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abdullah bin Mas’ud (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Fear Allah and maintain ties of kinship.”
Statement on Affection
Hadith 7
وعن أبى هريرة رضی اللہ عنہ ، ان النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال : المؤمن مألف ، ولا خير فيمن لا يألف ولا يؤلف
Hakim has declared it authentic.
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: The believer is the abode of affection (pure affection), and there is no good in the person who does not show affection to anyone nor does anyone show affection to him.”
The Unfortunate Person is the One Deprived of Mercy
Hadith 8
وعن أبى هريرة رضي الله عنه ، قال : سمعت أبا القاسم الصادق المصدوق صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول : لا تنزع الرحمة إلا من شقي
Ahmad Shakir has declared it authentic.
“And Hazrat Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates, I heard Abu al-Qasim, the truthful and trustworthy (peace be upon him), say: Mercy is taken away only from an unfortunate person.”
Show Compassion and Mercy to the Creation of Allah
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: فَقُلْ سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُمْ ۖ كَتَبَ رَبُّكُمْ عَلَىٰ نَفْسِهِ الرَّحْمَةَ
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“Say, ‘Peace be upon you. Your Lord has decreed mercy upon Himself.'”
Hadith 9
وعن جرير بن عبد الله رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : لا يرحم الله من لا يرحم الناس
“And Hazrat Jarir bin Abdullah (RA) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: Allah does not have mercy on the one who does not have mercy on people.”
Maintaining kinship ties as a cause of increase in wealth
Hadith 10
وعن أبى هريرة رضي الله عنه ، قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : تعلموا من أنسابكم ما تصلون به ارحامكم ، فإن صلة الرحم محبة في الأهل ، مثراة فى المال ، منساة فى الأثر
Muhaddith Albani graded it as Hasan.
“And Hazrat Abu Huraira (RA) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: Learn your lineage to the extent that you maintain kinship ties, for maintaining kinship ties causes love among relatives, increase in wealth, and longevity.”
Statement about punishment in this world for those who sever kinship ties
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: الَّذِينَ يَنقُضُونَ عَهْدَ اللَّهِ مِن بَعْدِ مِيثَاقِهِ وَيَقْطَعُونَ مَا أَمَرَ اللَّهُ بِهِ أَن يُوصَلَ وَيُفْسِدُونَ فِي الْأَرْضِ ۚ أُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْخَاسِرُونَ ﴿٢٧﴾
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“Those who break the covenant of Allah after ratifying it, and sever what Allah has commanded to be joined, and cause corruption on earth—those are the ones who suffer loss.”
Hadith 11
وعن أبى بكرة رضي الله عنه ، قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ما من ذنب أحرى أن يعجل الله لصاحبه العقوبة فى الدنيا، مع ما يدخر له فى الآخرة، من البغي وقطيعة الرحم
Muhaddith Albani has declared it authentic.
“And Hazrat Abu Bakrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Oppression, rebellion, and severing ties of kinship are such sins that Allah punishes the offender in this world and also stores the punishment for him in the Hereafter.”
One who severs ties of kinship will not enter Paradise
Hadith 12
وعن جبير بن مطعم رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : لا يدخل الجنة قاطع
“And Hazrat Jubair bin Mut’im (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: One who severs ties of kinship will not enter Paradise.”
Maintaining kinship is connected to the Throne
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى : الرَّحْمَٰنُ عَلَى الْعَرْشِ اسْتَوَىٰ ﴿٥﴾
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“He is the Most Merciful, established on the Throne.”
Hadith 13
وعن عائشة رضی اللہ عنہا ، قالت : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: الرحم معلقة بالعرش تقول : من وصلني وصله الله، ومن قطعنى قطعه الله
“And Hazrat Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Kinship (rahm) is suspended from the Throne, it says, whoever joins me, Allah will join him, and whoever breaks me, Allah will break him.”
Statement on Maintaining Ties of Kinship with Parents’ Friends
Hadith 14
وعن ابن عمر رضي الله عنهما ، قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : إن من ابر البر صلة الرجل اهل ود أبيه بعد أن يولى
“And Hazrat Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Indeed, among the greatest acts of righteousness is that a man maintains ties with his father’s friends after his father has passed away.”
Maintaining Kinship through Ties of Kinship
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى:وَإِذْ أَخَذْنَا مِيثَاقَ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ لَا تَعْبُدُونَ إِلَّا اللَّهَ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَقُولُوا لِلنَّاسِ حُسْنًا وَأَقِيمُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَآتُوا الزَّكَاةَ ثُمَّ تَوَلَّيْتُمْ إِلَّا قَلِيلًا مِّنكُمْ وَأَنتُم مُّعْرِضُونَ ﴿٨٣﴾
❀ Allah Almighty said:
“And when We took a firm covenant from the Children of Israel, [saying], ‘Do not worship except Allah; and to parents do good and to relatives, orphans, and the needy. And speak to people good [words] and establish prayer and give zakah.’ Then you turned away, except a few of you, and you were refusing.”
Hadith 15
وعن عمرو بن العاص رضي الله عنه ، قال : سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: إن آل أبى فلان ليسوا لي بأولياء ، إنما وليي الله وصالح المؤمنين، ولكن لهم رحم ابلها ببلالها
“And Hazrat Amr bin Aas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates, I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) say: The family of Abu so-and-so are not my friends and supporters; my supporters are Allah and the righteous believers, but I maintain kinship ties with them through upholding ties of kinship.”
Statement on Working in Agreement Amongst Each Other
Hadith 16
وعن أبى موسى قال بعثه النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم ومعاذ ابن جبل قال لهما: يسرا ولا تعسرا ، وبشرا ولا تنفرا وتطاوعا . وقال أبو موسى: يا رسول الله ، إنا بأرض يصنع فيها شراب من العسل يقال له: البتع، وشراب من الشعير يقال له: المزر: فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : كل مسكر حرام
And it is narrated from Hazrat Abu Musa Ash’ari (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: When the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) sent him and Mu’adh ibn Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) to Yemen, he said to them: Make things easy for the people, do not make things difficult for them, give them glad tidings and do not cause hatred, and work in unity among yourselves. Hazrat Abu Musa Ash’ari (may Allah be pleased with him) said: O Messenger of Allah! We are going to a land where wine is made from honey called “Bit'” and wine is also extracted from barley called “Mazr.” The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Everything that causes intoxication is forbidden.”
Treating Each Other with Love and Compassion
Hadith 17
وعن النعمان بن بشير يقول: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ترى المؤمنين فى تراحمهم وتوادهم وتعاطفهم كمثل الجسد إذا اشتكى عضوا تداعى له سائر جسده بالسهر والحمى
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Nu’man bin Bashir (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: You will see the believers like one body in showing mercy to one another, loving one another, and treating each other with compassion; if one part of the body feels pain, the whole body becomes restless, its sleep is disturbed, and the entire body suffers from fever.”
Praying to Allah Almighty for Mercy for One’s Children
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: رَبِّ اجْعَلْنِي مُقِيمَ الصَّلَاةِ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِي ۚ رَبَّنَا وَتَقَبَّلْ دُعَاءِ ﴿٤٠﴾ رَبَّنَا اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَوْمَ يَقُومُ الْحِسَابُ ﴿٤١﴾
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“O my Lord! Make me and my offspring those who establish prayer. O our Lord! Accept my supplication. O our Lord! On the Day when reckoning will be established, forgive me, my parents, and all the believers.”
Hadith 18
وعن أسامة بن زيد رضي الله عنه : كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يأخذني فيقعدني على فخذه، ويقعد الحسن ابن على على فخذه الآخر ، ثم يضمهما ، ثم يقول: اللهم ارحمهما فإنى أرحمهما
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Usama bin Zaid (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) used to hold me and seat me on his thigh, and seat Hazrat Hasan on his other thigh, then he would embrace both of us together and say: O Allah! Have mercy on these two, as I have mercy on them.”
The Punishment for Not Showing Mercy to People
Hadith 19
وعن أبى هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: قبل رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم الحسن بن علي، وعنده الأقرع بن حابس التميمي جالسا ، فقال الأقرع : إن لى عشرة من الولد ما قبلت منهم أحدا ، فنظر إليه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ثم قال: من لا يرحم لا يرحم
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) kissed Hazrat Hasan bin Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) while Hazrat Al-Aqra bin Habis Tamimi (may Allah be pleased with him) was also sitting with him. Hazrat Al-Aqra (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I have ten sons, and I have never kissed any of them. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) looked at him and then said: He who does not show mercy to others will not be shown mercy.”
Maintaining Kinship Ties in a State of Polytheism Leads to Embracing Islam
Hadith 20
وعن حكيم بن حزام أخبره أنه قال: يا رسول الله ، أرأيت أمورا كنت أتحنث بها فى الجاهلية من صلة وعتاقة وصدقة ، هل لي فيها من أجر؟ قال حكيم: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : أسلمت على ما سلف من خير
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Hakim bin Hizam (may Allah be pleased with him) that he asked: O Messenger of Allah! Inform me about those deeds which I used to do in the time of ignorance such as maintaining kinship ties, freeing slaves, and giving charity, will I get the reward for them? Hazrat Hakim says that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: You have become a Muslim along with all those good deeds which you had done before.”
Definition of Maintaining Kinship Ties
Hadith 21
وعن عبد الله بن عمرو رفعه عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: ليس الواصل بالمكافي ، ولكن الواصل الذى إذا قطعت رحمه وصلها
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Returning a favor is not maintaining kinship ties; rather, the one who maintains kinship ties is the person who, even after the relationship of kinship has been severed with him, still maintains it.”
Maintaining Kinship Ties is a Branch Connected to the Most Merciful
Hadith 22
وعن أبى هريرة رضي الله عنه عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: إن الرحم شجنة من الرحمن، فقال الله: من وصلك وصلته، ومن قطعك قطعته
And it is narrated from Hazrat Abu Huraira (RA) that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Rahm (kinship) is a branch of Ar-Rahman (The Most Merciful). Allah Almighty said: Whoever joins you, I will join him, and whoever severs you, I will sever My relation with him.”
Longevity Increases Due to Maintaining Kinship
Hadith 23
وعن أبى هريرة رضی اللہ عنہ أنه قال: سمعت رسول الله صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم يقول: من سره أن يبسط له فى رزقه، وأن ينسأ له فى أثره، فليصل رحمه
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abu Huraira (RA) that he said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) say: Whoever likes that his provision be increased and his life be prolonged, let him maintain kinship.”
The Command to Maintain Kinship
Hadith 24
وعن أبى أيوب الأنصاري رضي الله عنه : أن رجلا قال: يا رسول الله ، أخبرنى بعمل يدخلنى الجنة فقال القوم: ما له، ما له؟ فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : أرب ما له ، فقال النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم : تعبد الله لا تشرك به شيئا، وتقيم الصلاة، وتؤتي الزكاة، وتصل الرحم . ذرها ، قال: كأنه كان على راحلته
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abu Ayyub Ansari (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man said, ‘O Messenger of Allah! Tell me of an action that will admit me to Paradise?’ People said, ‘What has happened to him? What has happened to him?’ The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, ‘He is in need, and what has happened to him?’ The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to him: Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him, establish prayer, give zakat, and maintain ties of kinship. Now leave him (my she-camel).’ It seems that at that time he (the Prophet) was on his mount.”
Hadith 25
وعن عبد الله بن عباس أخبره: أن أبا سفيان أخبره : أن هرقل أرسل إليه ، فقال: فما يأمركم؟ يعني النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم ، فقال: يأمرنا بالصلاة، والصدقة، والعفاف، والصلة
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) that Hazrat Abu Sufyan (may Allah be pleased with him) told him that Heraclius had summoned him and asked him what the Prophet (peace be upon him) commanded you. Abu Sufyan (may Allah be pleased with him) said: He commands us to pray, give charity, maintain chastity, and keep ties of kinship.”
Good Treatment of a Polytheist Brother
Hadith 26
وعن ابن عمر رضي الله عنهما يقول: رأى عمر حلة سيراء تباع فقال: يا رسول الله ابتع هذه والبسها يوم الجمعة، وإذا جاءك الوفود، قال: إنما يلبس هذه من لا خلاق له ، فأتي النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم منها بحلل ، فأرسل إلى عمر بحلة ، فقال: كيف ألبسها وقد قلت فيها ما قلت؟ قال: إني لم أعطكها لتلبسها ، ولكن تبيعها أو تكسوها ، فأرسل بها عمر إلى أخ له من أهل مكة ، قبل أن يسلم
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) saw a silk striped garment being sold and said: O Messenger of Allah! You should buy it so that you may wear it on Fridays and when delegations arrive. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Only he wears it who has no share in the Hereafter. After that, many such silk garments came to the Prophet (peace be upon him), and he sent one garment to Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him). He said: How can I wear it when you had previously said about it what you said? The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: I did not send it for you to wear, but rather to sell it in the market or to give it to someone else to wear. Accordingly, Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) sent that garment to one of his brothers who lived in Makkah and had not yet become a Muslim.”
Statement on Maintaining Ties of Kinship with the Polytheistic Mother
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ ﴿١٤﴾ وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا ۖ وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّ ۚ ثُمَّ إِلَيَّ مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ ﴿١٥﴾
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“And We have enjoined upon man concerning his parents: his mother carried him, increasing her in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the final destination. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.”
Hadith 27
وعن أسماء قالت: قدمت أمى وهى مشركة فى عهد قريش ومدتهم إذ عاهدوا النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم مع أبيها، فاستفتيت النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فقلت: إن أمى قدمت وهى راغبة أفأصلها قال: نعم، صلى امك
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Asma bint Abi Bakr (may Allah be pleased with her), she said that my mother was a polytheist. She came to Medina with her father at the time of the peace treaty between the Prophet (peace be upon him) and the Quraysh. I asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) for a ruling and said that my mother has come hoping for maintaining kinship ties with me; can I maintain ties with her? He said: Yes, maintain ties with your mother.”
Explanation of the Spirit of Mercy
Hadith 28
وعن عائشة رضي الله عنها قالت: جاء أعرابي إلى النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال: تقبلون الصبيان؟ فما نقبلهم ، فقال النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم : أوأملك لك أن نزع الله من قلبك الرحمة
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), she said that a villager came to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and said: Do you people kiss children? We do not kiss them. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: If Allah has removed the spirit of mercy from your heart, then what can I do?”
Punishment for Severing Ties
Hadith 29
وعن عبد الله بن مسعود قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : لو أن رجلين دخلا فى الإسلام فاهتجرا لكان أحدهما خارجا من الإسلام حتى يرجع ، يعني: الظالم
“And Abdullah bin Mas’ud (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said: If two people enter Islam and then sever ties with each other, one of them (i.e., the oppressor) leaves Islam until he ceases to sever ties.”
The Reward of Forgiveness
قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى: الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ ﴿١٣٤﴾
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
Those who spend (in Allah’s cause) in prosperity and adversity, and those who restrain their anger and pardon people. And Allah loves the doers of good.”
Hadith 30
وعن عبد الله بن عمرو بن العاص مرفوعا: ارحموا ترحموا، واغفروا يغفر الله لكم، وويل لأقماع القول، وويل للمصرين الذين يصرون على ما فعلوا وهم يعلمون
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr bin Aas (RA) that the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: Be merciful, and you will be shown mercy; forgive, and Allah will forgive you. Destruction is for those who hear the words but do not understand them (i.e., they ignore them), and destruction is also for those who insist on their actions despite knowing and understanding.”
Statement on Showing Mercy to Family
Hadith 31
وعن أنس بن مالك: كان أرحم الناس بالعيال والصبيان
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Anas bin Malik (RA) that the Prophet (PBUH) was the most merciful among people towards his family and children.”
The Goodness of This World and the Hereafter is Through Good Character
قَالَ الله تَعَالَى: وَقُولُوا لِلنَّاسِ حُسْنًا
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“And speak kindly to people.”
Hadith 32
وعن عائشة ، أن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لها: إنه من أعطي حظه من الرفق، فقد أعطي حظه من خير الدنيا والآخرة، وصلة الرحم ، وحسن الخلق وحسن الجوار يعمران الديار ويزيدان فى الأعمار
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said to her: Whoever is granted gentleness, he is granted goodness and well-being in this world and the Hereafter. Maintaining kinship ties, good manners, and good treatment of neighbors (such as acts of kindness) build homes (and tribes) and increase lifespans. Be gentle even with animals.”
Hadith 33
وعن المقدام بن شريح عن أبيه قال: سألت عائشة رضي الله عنها عن البداوة؟ فقالت: كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يبدو إلى هذه التلاع ، وإنه أراد البداوة مرة ، فأرسل إلى ناقة محرمة من إبل الصدقة ، فقال لي: يا عائشة! أرفقي ، فإن الرفق لم يكن فى شيء قط إلا زانه، ولا نزع من شيء قط إلا شانه
“And Miqdam bin Shuraih narrates from his father, who said: I asked Hazrat Aisha رضي الله عنها about desert life. She said: The Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم used to go to those dunes. Once, when he صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم intended to live in the desert, he sent me one of the charity camels, a she-camel on which no one had yet ridden, and said: Aisha! Be gentle, for whatever has gentleness, it adorns it, and whatever is deprived of gentleness, it makes it defective.”
The Letter of Maintaining Kinship Ties in the Sword’s Sheath by the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم
Hadith 34
وعن على ، قال : لما ضممت إلى سلاح رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، وجدت فى قائم سيف رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم رقعة فيها؛ صل من قطعك ، وأحسن إلى من أساء إليك ، وقل الحق ولو على نفسك
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: When I took possession of the weapons of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), I found a note in the hilt of the sword of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) which said: Whoever cuts off kinship with you, then maintain kinship with him; whoever treats you badly, then treat him well; and speak the truth even if it is against yourself.”
The Immediate Reward of Maintaining Kinship
Hadith 35
وعن أبى هريرة، قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ليس شيء أطيع الله فيه أعجل ثوابا من صلة الرحم ، وليس شيء أعجل عقابا من البغي وقطيعة الرحم ، واليمين الفاجر تدع الديار بلاقع
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Among the commands of Allah that are followed, there is no deed whose reward comes sooner than maintaining kinship, and there is no sin like oppression and cutting off kinship whose punishment is hastened, and false oaths devastate lands.”
Showing Kindness and Ease is Maintaining Kinship
Hadith 36
وعن عبد الله بن مسعود، قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ألا أخبركم بمن يحرم على النار أو بمن تحرم عليه النار؟ على كل قريب هين سهل
“And Abdullah bin Mas’ud (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Shall I not tell you about a person who is forbidden from the fire or the fire is forbidden for him? He is one who is beloved by every heart, gentle, and makes things easy.”
The Punishment for Prolonged Severance of Kinship
Hadith 37
وعن أبى خراش السلمي، أنه سمع رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: من هجر أخاه سنة فهو كسفك دمه
“And it is narrated from Abu Khurash Salmi that he heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) say: Whoever cuts off his brother (kinship) and leaves him for a year, it is like shedding his blood.”
Keep Kinship Fresh through Salam (Greeting of Peace)
قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى: وَإِذَا حُيِّيتُم بِتَحِيَّةٍ فَحَيُّوا بِأَحْسَنَ مِنْهَا أَوْ رُدُّوهَا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ حَسِيبًا ﴿٨٦﴾
❀ Allah Almighty has said:
“And when you are greeted with a greeting, greet with one better than it or return it; indeed, Allah is ever, over all things, an Accountant.”
Hadith 38
وعن سويد بن عامر الأنصاري مرفوعا: بلوا أرحامكم ولو بالسلام
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Suwaid bin Amir Ansari (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Keep the ties of kinship fresh, even if it is through greeting.”
Considering Kinship through Maintaining Ties of Kinship
Hadith 39
وعن ابن عباس ، أنه قال: احفظوا أنسابكم ، تصلوا أرحامكم ، فإنه لا بعد بالرحم إذا قربت ، وإن كانت بعيدة، ولا قرب بها إذا بعدت ، وإن كانت قريبة ، وكل رحم آتية يوم القيامة أمام صاحبها ، تشهد له بصلة إن كان وصلها، وعليه بقطيعة إن كان قطعها
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: Protect your lineage so that you can maintain kinship ties, because no kinship, no matter how distant, remains far from maintaining ties of kinship, and no relationship, no matter how close, if not connected, becomes distant. And every womb (kinship) will come forward on the Day of Resurrection and will testify for the one who maintains kinship ties, and will testify against the one who cuts off kinship ties.”
Removing the Afflictions of Muslims
Hadith 40
وعن عبد الله بن عمر رضي الله عنه أخبره: أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: المسلم أخو المسلم، لا يظلمه ولا يسلمه، ومن كان فى حاجة أخيه ، كان الله فى حاجته ، ومن فرج عن مسلم كربة فرج الله عنه كربة من كربات يوم القيامة ، ومن ستر مسلما ستره الله يوم القيامة
“And it is narrated from Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: A Muslim is the brother of another Muslim, so he should neither oppress him nor hand him over to oppression. And whoever is busy fulfilling the needs of his brother, Allah will fulfill his needs. And whoever relieves the distress of a Muslim, Allah will relieve his distress on the Day of Resurrection. Also, whoever conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults on the Day of Resurrection.”
وصلى الله تعالى على خير خلقه محمد وآله وصحبه أجمعين
