Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah

Hazrat Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) states that for the purpose of proposing marriage, a man can say to a woman that "I am interested in you" and "I desire a woman who possesses such and such qualities." He can express this to her through words.

Hazrat Mujahid, regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an { وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہِ مِنْ خِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ }: "And there is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women," says that one may say: "You are beautiful, you are generous, you are on the path of goodness." But it is disliked to say: "Do not deprive me of yourself, I cannot live without you."

Ibrahim did not consider the use of any kind of words for the proposal of marriage to be objectionable.

Hasan considered it disliked that after a woman's waiting period ('iddah) had ended, a man would say, "I have married you." Other than this, he may say whatever he wishes.

Hasan says that he can say: I like you, I am inclined towards you, and do not deprive me of yourself.

Hazrat Mujahid says that he can say: "You are beautiful, you are generous, you are on the path of goodness."

Hazrat Qasim says that if a woman's husband passes away and a man wishes to send her a marriage proposal, he can say: "I like you, I am interested in you, I desire you." And he can also say other similar words.

Hazrat Ubaidah, regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an { وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہِ مِنْ خِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ }: "And there is no blame upon you for proposing marriage to women," states that he will mention it to the woman's guardian and will not speak to the woman herself.

Hazrat Abu Salamah narrates that the Prophet ﷺ said to Fatimah bint Qais, may Allah be pleased with her, that you should move to Umm Shareek's place and do not deprive us of yourself.

Hazrat Saeed bin Jubair, regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an {إلاَّ أَنْ تَقُولُوا قَوْلاً مَعْرُوفًا }, says that he should say: "I have an inclination towards you and I hope that Allah Almighty will unite you and me."

Hazrat Aamir says that he can say: "You are beautiful, you are generous. If Allah wills, the bond will be established."

Ibrahim says that there is no harm in giving a gift when sending a marriage proposal.

Hazrat Abu Salamah narrates that the Prophet ﷺ said to Fatimah bint Qais, may Allah be pleased with her, "Do not deprive us of yourself."

Hazrat Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with both of them), regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an { وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہِ مِنْ خِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ }: "And there is no blame upon you for proposing to women [in waiting]," says that when a man gives a marriage proposal, he will say, "I wish to marry," and in the proposal he will not specify that particular woman.

Hazrat Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both), regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an { وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہِ مِنْ خِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ }: "And there is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women," says that he will say: "I have an inclination towards you and I wish to marry you." Thus, without making any agreement or promise, he should inform her that he wishes to marry her.

Hazrat Qasim, regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an { وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہِ مِنْ خِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ }: "And there is no blame upon you for proposing to women [indirectly] during their waiting period," states that during the waiting period, a man may say to a woman that he likes her and is interested in her, and he may use such words.

Hazrat Amir, regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an { وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہِ مِنْ خِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ }: "And there is no blame upon you for proposing to women," says that he will say: "She is beautiful, she is generous in spending, and if Allah wills, this bond will be established."

Hazrat Mujahid, regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an { وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہِ مِنْ خِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ }: "And there is no blame upon you for proposing to women," says that a man may say to a woman that she is beautiful, she is generous in spending, and she is on the path of goodness. However, it is better that the intention of proposing marriage remains in his heart and he does not express it openly to the woman. And all of this is permissible and virtuous.

Hazrat Abu Zuha, regarding the verse of the Holy Qur'an {إلاَّ أَنْ تَقُولُوا قَوْلاً مَعْرُوفًا }, says that he will say to the woman, "I desire you."