❖ Wisdom Behind Polygamy in Islam and Its Social Benefits ❖
In Islamic law—or any practical system—the permissibility or prohibition of an act is not determined by whether it causes someone emotional pain or discomfort. If this were the criterion, many fundamental aspects of life would become impossible. Consider the following examples:
These examples illustrate that sometimes a lesser emotional hardship must be endured for the sake of a greater purpose.
These real-life examples demonstrate that emotional discomfort is a part of life, but it must often be borne in pursuit of greater societal benefits.
The permission of up to four marriages in Islam is not based on emotional comfort, but rather on broad social and moral considerations. Sometimes, such benefits outweigh individual emotional pain, which must then be patiently managed.
Though Western culture outwardly promotes monogamy, in practice, “secret polygamy” is rampant in the form of girlfriend culture and casual relationships—which lack responsibility and commitment.
Theosophist Nitya Basant, criticizing Western society, stated:
In the West, when a man tires of his mistress, he abandons her. Such women are left helpless—either turning to prostitution or enduring a life of humiliation.
In contrast, Islam dignifies and protects women, allowing them to live as legal wives, raising legitimate children in a secure and honorable environment.
Dr. Muso Leban, author of Tamaddun-e-Arab (Civilization of the Arabs), writes:
The lawful practice of polygamy among Muslims is far superior to the unlawful multiple relationships in the West, where chastity has all but disappeared.
Islamic teachings regarding polygamy are not rooted in ignorance of human emotions, but rather reflect deep social wisdom and balance.
Whereas other systems often subject women to exploitation and neglect, Islam offers them dignity, respect, and legal protection under the sacred institution of marriage.
❖ Islamic Perspective on Polygamy and Emotional Concerns:
➊ Are Rulings Based on Hurt Feelings or Emotional Pain?
In Islamic law—or any practical system—the permissibility or prohibition of an act is not determined by whether it causes someone emotional pain or discomfort. If this were the criterion, many fundamental aspects of life would become impossible. Consider the following examples:
- Marriage and Departure of the Daughter:
Don’t parents feel sorrow when they hand over their daughter in marriage? Yet, this pain does not invalidate the noble institution of Nikah. - A Mother Sharing Her Son with Another Woman (Wife):
A mother may feel emotional pain when her son begins life with his wife, but does that mean marriage should be avoided?
These examples illustrate that sometimes a lesser emotional hardship must be endured for the sake of a greater purpose.
➋ Emotional Pain in Other Areas of Life:
- Education:
Failing in exams or being rejected in job interviews can cause distress. Does this justify eliminating the entire educational or employment system? - Economic Inequality:
Poor individuals may feel hurt when they see luxury cars or grand homes. Should such possessions be banned due to emotional responses? - Development Projects:
Building highways may inconvenience pedestrians. Should all development be halted to avoid these difficulties?
These real-life examples demonstrate that emotional discomfort is a part of life, but it must often be borne in pursuit of greater societal benefits.
❖ The Wisdom Behind Polygamy in Islam:
The permission of up to four marriages in Islam is not based on emotional comfort, but rather on broad social and moral considerations. Sometimes, such benefits outweigh individual emotional pain, which must then be patiently managed.
❖ Hidden Polygamy in Western Society:
Though Western culture outwardly promotes monogamy, in practice, “secret polygamy” is rampant in the form of girlfriend culture and casual relationships—which lack responsibility and commitment.
Theosophist Nitya Basant, criticizing Western society, stated:
In the West, when a man tires of his mistress, he abandons her. Such women are left helpless—either turning to prostitution or enduring a life of humiliation.
In contrast, Islam dignifies and protects women, allowing them to live as legal wives, raising legitimate children in a secure and honorable environment.
❖ Views of European Writers:
Dr. Muso Leban, author of Tamaddun-e-Arab (Civilization of the Arabs), writes:
The lawful practice of polygamy among Muslims is far superior to the unlawful multiple relationships in the West, where chastity has all but disappeared.
❖ Conclusion:
Islamic teachings regarding polygamy are not rooted in ignorance of human emotions, but rather reflect deep social wisdom and balance.
Whereas other systems often subject women to exploitation and neglect, Islam offers them dignity, respect, and legal protection under the sacred institution of marriage.
