Written by: Qari Usama bin Abd al-Salam
Islam is a religion of love, reconciliation, and preservation of family ties. It strongly condemns hatred, quarrels, and cutting off relationships.
Sadly, in today's era, minor disputes often lead to broken family bonds, and many conflicts stem from the speech or behavior of women.
فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَنْ تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ أُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ ٱلَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ ٱللَّهُ
(Surah Muḥammad: 22–23)
Translation:
"Would you then, if given power, cause corruption in the land and sever your ties of kinship? They are the ones upon whom Allah's curse rests."
وَٱلَّذِينَ يَصِلُونَ مَآ أَمَرَ ٱللَّهُ بِهِۦٓ أَن يُوصَلَ وَيَخْشَوْنَ رَبَّهُمْ
(Surah al-Raʿd: 21)
Translation:
"And those who maintain the relationships that Allah has commanded to be joined, and fear their Lord."
«لَا يَدْخُلُ الْجَنَّةَ قَاطِعٌ»
(Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī & Muslim)
Translation:
"The one who severs family ties will not enter Paradise."
«مَا تَرَكْتُ بَعْدِي فِتْنَةً أَضَرَّ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ»
(Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī: 5096)
Translation:
"I have not left behind any trial more harmful to men than women."
This indicates that if a woman is unwise, foul-mouthed, or impatient, it can lead to household collapse, broken families, and community division.
Statements like:
“Your brother never helps you,”
“Your sister is rude…”
✔ These create mistrust and emotional distancing within families.
✔ Jealousy, complaining, and disrespectful behavior sow division in extended families.
✔ Forcing the husband to disconnect from his mother, sister, or brother creates lasting damage.
✔ Instead of being a peacemaker, some women become instigators, worsening every disagreement.
If a woman is:
✔ Religious
✔ Patient
✔ Respectful
✔ Soft-spoken
She can become the pillar of unity in her household and family.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
«أَفْضَلُ النِّسَاءِ الَّتِي تَسُرُّهُ إِذَا نَظَرَ، وَتُطِيعُهُ إِذَا أَمَرَ، وَلَا تُخَالِفُهُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَلَا فِي مَالِهِ بِمَا يَكْرَهُ»
(Sunan al-Nasāʾī: 3231)
Translation:
"The best woman is the one who pleases her husband when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands, and does not go against him regarding herself or his wealth in his absence."
✔ Family ties are a divine blessing.
✔ Breaking them is a major sin.
If women safeguard their tongues, show patience, and act with wisdom, many family feuds and enmities can be avoided.
"O Allah, grant our women understanding of the Deen, wisdom in their speech, and hearts inclined toward peace and reconciliation. Make us soft-hearted, peacemaking, and connected with our family relations. Āmīn."
Islam is a religion of love, reconciliation, and preservation of family ties. It strongly condemns hatred, quarrels, and cutting off relationships.
Sadly, in today's era, minor disputes often lead to broken family bonds, and many conflicts stem from the speech or behavior of women.
❖ Qur’anic Warnings
➊ Curse Upon Those Who Break Family Ties
فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَنْ تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ أُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ ٱلَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ ٱللَّهُ
(Surah Muḥammad: 22–23)
Translation:
"Would you then, if given power, cause corruption in the land and sever your ties of kinship? They are the ones upon whom Allah's curse rests."
➋ Command to Maintain Family Relations
وَٱلَّذِينَ يَصِلُونَ مَآ أَمَرَ ٱللَّهُ بِهِۦٓ أَن يُوصَلَ وَيَخْشَوْنَ رَبَّهُمْ
(Surah al-Raʿd: 21)
Translation:
"And those who maintain the relationships that Allah has commanded to be joined, and fear their Lord."
❖ Teachings from the Prophetic Sunnah
➊ The One Who Cuts Ties Will Be Deprived of Paradise
«لَا يَدْخُلُ الْجَنَّةَ قَاطِعٌ»
(Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī & Muslim)
Translation:
"The one who severs family ties will not enter Paradise."
➋ Women Can Be a Source of Great Fitnah
«مَا تَرَكْتُ بَعْدِي فِتْنَةً أَضَرَّ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ»
(Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī: 5096)
Translation:
"I have not left behind any trial more harmful to men than women."
This indicates that if a woman is unwise, foul-mouthed, or impatient, it can lead to household collapse, broken families, and community division.❖ Common Mistakes by Women That Ruin Relationships
➊ Sowing Doubts in the Husband's Mind Against His Siblings
Statements like:
“Your brother never helps you,”
“Your sister is rude…”
✔ These create mistrust and emotional distancing within families.
➋ Harboring Hatred Towards In-laws (Mother-in-law, Sister-in-law, etc.)
✔ Jealousy, complaining, and disrespectful behavior sow division in extended families.
➌ Pulling the Husband Away from His Own Family
✔ Forcing the husband to disconnect from his mother, sister, or brother creates lasting damage.
➍ Fanning the Flames in Conflicts
✔ Instead of being a peacemaker, some women become instigators, worsening every disagreement.
❖ A Woman’s True Role – A Source of Unity
If a woman is:
✔ Religious
✔ Patient
✔ Respectful
✔ Soft-spoken
She can become the pillar of unity in her household and family.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
«أَفْضَلُ النِّسَاءِ الَّتِي تَسُرُّهُ إِذَا نَظَرَ، وَتُطِيعُهُ إِذَا أَمَرَ، وَلَا تُخَالِفُهُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَلَا فِي مَالِهِ بِمَا يَكْرَهُ»
(Sunan al-Nasāʾī: 3231)
Translation:
"The best woman is the one who pleases her husband when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands, and does not go against him regarding herself or his wealth in his absence."
❖ Conclusion – Reconnect, Don’t Sever
✔ Family ties are a divine blessing.
✔ Breaking them is a major sin.
If women safeguard their tongues, show patience, and act with wisdom, many family feuds and enmities can be avoided.
Duʿāʾ
"O Allah, grant our women understanding of the Deen, wisdom in their speech, and hearts inclined toward peace and reconciliation. Make us soft-hearted, peacemaking, and connected with our family relations. Āmīn."
