Shar‘i Ruling on Relations with Those Who Oppose Ḥijāb
Source: Fatāwā al-Deen al-Khāliṣ, Vol. 1, p.102
Question:
If a man or woman holds hatred against me because my wife observes ḥijāb, and the woman blames me by calling me a "Ṣūfī" and claims that observing veil from relatives is inappropriate— is it permissible for me to bear hatred toward such a person?
All praise is due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah. To proceed:
If this situation arises, then your first obligation is to offer gentle counsel and explain the Islamic ruling on ḥijāb with wisdom and clarity.
If the individual repents and corrects their stance, they remain your Muslim brother or sister, and cutting ties between Muslims is not permissible without valid reason.
If the person persistently and knowingly rejects this obligation and opposes a clearly established command such as ḥijāb, then:
It becomes obligatory to bear hatred for the sake of Allah and to sever ties from such individuals.
This is part of the principle of al-walā’ wa al-barā’—loving for the sake of Allah and detesting for the sake of Allah.
Even in such circumstances, one must:
◈ Continue to supplicate to Allah for their guidance
◈ Hope that they may come to recognize the truth
◈ Pray that they abandon their erroneous beliefs and misguidance
The Qur’an emphasizes the importance of ḥijāb in several verses, making it a clear obligation for Muslim women.
The harms of immodesty and abandoning ḥijāb include:
◈ The sanctity of honor is violated
◈ Young men and women fall into disgrace and shame
◈ Adulterers and immoral individuals exploit the situation
◈ The wrath and anger of Allah descend
◈ It leads to various forms of destruction and ruin
◈ It is permissible—rather necessary— to bear religious-based hatred toward those who object to the obligation of ḥijāb.
◈ However, this must be accompanied by duʿāʾ for their guidance and continued effort for their reform.
◈ True Islamic conduct combines firmness in belief with gentleness in character.
Waṣallallāhu ʿalā Nabiyyinā Muḥammad wa ālihi wa ṣaḥbihi ajmaʿīn.
ھذا ما عندي واللہ أعلم بالصواب۔
Source: Fatāwā al-Deen al-Khāliṣ, Vol. 1, p.102
Question:
If a man or woman holds hatred against me because my wife observes ḥijāb, and the woman blames me by calling me a "Ṣūfī" and claims that observing veil from relatives is inappropriate— is it permissible for me to bear hatred toward such a person?
❖ The Answer:
All praise is due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah. To proceed:
❶ First Step: Advice and Clarification
If this situation arises, then your first obligation is to offer gentle counsel and explain the Islamic ruling on ḥijāb with wisdom and clarity.
If the individual repents and corrects their stance, they remain your Muslim brother or sister, and cutting ties between Muslims is not permissible without valid reason.
❷ Persistent Rejection and Enmity Toward Ḥijāb
If the person persistently and knowingly rejects this obligation and opposes a clearly established command such as ḥijāb, then:
It becomes obligatory to bear hatred for the sake of Allah and to sever ties from such individuals.This is part of the principle of al-walā’ wa al-barā’—loving for the sake of Allah and detesting for the sake of Allah.
❸ Supplication and Hope for Guidance
Even in such circumstances, one must:
◈ Continue to supplicate to Allah for their guidance
◈ Hope that they may come to recognize the truth
◈ Pray that they abandon their erroneous beliefs and misguidance
✿ The Importance of Ḥijāb and the Harms of Immodesty
The Qur’an emphasizes the importance of ḥijāb in several verses, making it a clear obligation for Muslim women.The harms of immodesty and abandoning ḥijāb include:
◈ The sanctity of honor is violated
◈ Young men and women fall into disgrace and shame
◈ Adulterers and immoral individuals exploit the situation
◈ The wrath and anger of Allah descend
◈ It leads to various forms of destruction and ruin
Conclusion:
◈ It is permissible—rather necessary— to bear religious-based hatred toward those who object to the obligation of ḥijāb.
◈ However, this must be accompanied by duʿāʾ for their guidance and continued effort for their reform.
◈ True Islamic conduct combines firmness in belief with gentleness in character.
Waṣallallāhu ʿalā Nabiyyinā Muḥammad wa ālihi wa ṣaḥbihi ajmaʿīn.ھذا ما عندي واللہ أعلم بالصواب۔
