الادب المفرد
Al-Adab al-Mufrad
كتابBook of a Man’s Work in His House
بَابُ إِذَا أَحَبَّ رَجُلًا فَلَا يُمَارِهِ وَلَا يَسْأَلُ عَنْهُChapter: If You Love Someone, Do Not Argue or Inquire Excessively
Hadith 545
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي مُعَاوِيَةُ، أَنَّ أَبَا الزَّاهِرِيَّةِ حَدَّثَهُ، عَنْ جُبَيْرِ بْنِ نُفَيْرٍ، عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ أَنَّهُ قَالَ: إِذَا أَحْبَبْتَ أَخًا فَلاَ تُمَارِهِ، وَلاَ تُشَارِّهِ، وَلاَ تَسْأَلْ عَنْهُ، فَعَسَى أَنْ تُوَافِيَ لَهُ عَدُوًّا فَيُخْبِرَكَ بِمَا لَيْسَ فِيهِ، فَيُفَرِّقَ بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ.
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Mu'adh bin Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him), he said: When you love your brother, never quarrel with him, nor treat him badly, nor ask anyone about him. It may happen that you meet one of his enemies, and he tells you something about him which is not true, and thus he creates separation between you.
