Written by: Qari Usama bin Abdus Salam
It is a grave reality that our society is witnessing a dangerous trend, particularly among married men, who neglect the love of their wives and children by becoming entangled in unnecessary relationships—whether on social media or in real life.
Where does it all begin?
Often, it starts with a former friend, an office colleague, or a stranger—through a casual conversation. A seemingly harmless message such as, “How are you?”, “It’s been a long time since I heard from you,” or “Where have you been busy these days?” may appear innocent, yet it gradually leads down a path where emotions begin to spiral out of control.
The problem is that men often perceive it as casual conversation, but in reality, the heart and mind slowly begin leaning toward that woman. She listens to your troubles, understands your hardships, and then utters the sentence: “I wish you weren’t married!” — a spark that pushes the mind toward moral deviation.
We live in a society where the strength of the family system is among the greatest blessings. Your wife is the woman who has stood beside you through every rise and fall, who has become the mother of your children, and who has sacrificed countless times for you. Do not let her love and sincerity be sacrificed for a momentary emotional weakness.
The glitter seen on social media or in the outside world is deceptive. You have not seen those women when they are ill, worried, or exhausted—exactly like your own wife experiences.
For the sake of Allah—wake up!
Value your home, your wife, and your children. The honour and love you have in your own home will never be found elsewhere. If ever your heart begins to be swayed by the words of a non-mahram woman, distance yourself immediately. Block the path of Shaytan, for a single moment of heedlessness can destroy your peace, honour, and your entire household.
In today’s era, where divorce and the destruction of families have become common, we must take lessons from these tragedies. Remember—whoever destroys his own home will never attain true happiness or peace, and above all, will have to answer before Allah.
Love your wife and children, care for them, and turn your home into a paradise—this is what our religion, our culture, and our humanity demand from us.
It is a grave reality that our society is witnessing a dangerous trend, particularly among married men, who neglect the love of their wives and children by becoming entangled in unnecessary relationships—whether on social media or in real life.
Where does it all begin?
Often, it starts with a former friend, an office colleague, or a stranger—through a casual conversation. A seemingly harmless message such as, “How are you?”, “It’s been a long time since I heard from you,” or “Where have you been busy these days?” may appear innocent, yet it gradually leads down a path where emotions begin to spiral out of control.
The problem is that men often perceive it as casual conversation, but in reality, the heart and mind slowly begin leaning toward that woman. She listens to your troubles, understands your hardships, and then utters the sentence: “I wish you weren’t married!” — a spark that pushes the mind toward moral deviation.
We live in a society where the strength of the family system is among the greatest blessings. Your wife is the woman who has stood beside you through every rise and fall, who has become the mother of your children, and who has sacrificed countless times for you. Do not let her love and sincerity be sacrificed for a momentary emotional weakness.
The glitter seen on social media or in the outside world is deceptive. You have not seen those women when they are ill, worried, or exhausted—exactly like your own wife experiences.
For the sake of Allah—wake up!
Value your home, your wife, and your children. The honour and love you have in your own home will never be found elsewhere. If ever your heart begins to be swayed by the words of a non-mahram woman, distance yourself immediately. Block the path of Shaytan, for a single moment of heedlessness can destroy your peace, honour, and your entire household.
In today’s era, where divorce and the destruction of families have become common, we must take lessons from these tragedies. Remember—whoever destroys his own home will never attain true happiness or peace, and above all, will have to answer before Allah.
Love your wife and children, care for them, and turn your home into a paradise—this is what our religion, our culture, and our humanity demand from us.
