Source: Fatāwā ʿUlamāʾ-e-Ḥadīth, Kitāb al-Ṣalāh, Volume 1
A man forces his wife during intimacy to perform oral intercourse, despite her clear objection and assertion that such an act is sinful and impermissible. The husband maintains that the only sinful act is anal intercourse, and that oral intercourse is not a sin. The inquiry seeks:
① Differing Opinions Among Scholars:
Some scholars have included this act (oral intercourse) under the general permission of enjoyment between spouses, excluding the anus. Based on the literalist approach, any enjoyment except through the back passage is deemed permissible.
② Ethical and Spiritual Perspective:
Although technically not explicitly forbidden, such acts contradict the spirit of Islamic modesty and human dignity.
❝This act is a result of Western sexual culture, which is increasingly infiltrating Muslim society like a corrosive disease.❞
❝The same mouth that recites the Qurʾān, engages in dhikr, and glorifies Allah—should it be subjected to such indignity?❞
③ Prophetic Practice as Moral Reference:
The Prophet ﷺ displayed high levels of hygiene and respect for bodily functions:
When such etiquette exists for hands, then the tongue, which is even more noble, deserves greater preservation from such base acts.
④ Ruling on the Act:
⑤ Regarding Force:
If a husband forces his wife, this contradicts Islamic teachings of compassion, mutual respect, and consent in marital relations.
❝Islam does not condone coercion and humiliation in intimate relations.❞
❝Forcing the wife into any act she deems demeaning or repulsive is against Islamic ethics, even if not legally sinful.❞
Muḥammad Bashīr ʿAfī ʿanhu
(Sourced from Fatāwā ʿUlamāʾ-e-Ḥadīth, Kitāb al-Ṣalāh, Volume 1)
A man forces his wife during intimacy to perform oral intercourse, despite her clear objection and assertion that such an act is sinful and impermissible. The husband maintains that the only sinful act is anal intercourse, and that oral intercourse is not a sin. The inquiry seeks:
- The Sharʿī status of this act.
- The ruling on a husband who repeatedly engages in this forcefully.
- Whether there is any Sharʿī punishment or expiation (kafārah) required.
- Qurʾān and Ḥadīth-based verdict.
① Differing Opinions Among Scholars:
Some scholars have included this act (oral intercourse) under the general permission of enjoyment between spouses, excluding the anus. Based on the literalist approach, any enjoyment except through the back passage is deemed permissible.
② Ethical and Spiritual Perspective:
Although technically not explicitly forbidden, such acts contradict the spirit of Islamic modesty and human dignity.
❝This act is a result of Western sexual culture, which is increasingly infiltrating Muslim society like a corrosive disease.❞
❝The same mouth that recites the Qurʾān, engages in dhikr, and glorifies Allah—should it be subjected to such indignity?❞
③ Prophetic Practice as Moral Reference:
The Prophet ﷺ displayed high levels of hygiene and respect for bodily functions:
- He would use his right hand for noble acts (e.g., eating, shaking hands),
- and his left hand for cleaning himself after relieving himself (istinjā’).
When such etiquette exists for hands, then the tongue, which is even more noble, deserves greater preservation from such base acts.
④ Ruling on the Act:
- Technically, there is no explicit sin or legal punishment (ḥadd) if this act is committed between husband and wife.
- There is also no kaffārah (expiation) required.
- However, the act is discouraged (مكروه) and against Islamic refinement (adab) and spiritual cleanliness (ṭahārah maʿnawiyyah).
⑤ Regarding Force:
If a husband forces his wife, this contradicts Islamic teachings of compassion, mutual respect, and consent in marital relations.
❝Islam does not condone coercion and humiliation in intimate relations.❞
❝Forcing the wife into any act she deems demeaning or repulsive is against Islamic ethics, even if not legally sinful.❞
- The act itself is not legally harām, but is ethically condemned and should be avoided.
- The husband is not sinful in the legal sense, but is blameworthy from a moral and spiritual perspective, especially if he forces his wife repeatedly.
- No legal punishment or kaffārah is established in the Sharʿī texts.
- A Muslim should uphold the dignity of the human being, especially the spouse, and avoid Western imitations in private matters.
Muḥammad Bashīr ʿAfī ʿanhu
(Sourced from Fatāwā ʿUlamāʾ-e-Ḥadīth, Kitāb al-Ṣalāh, Volume 1)
