Authored by: al-Shaykh Mubashshir Ahmad Rabbani (may Allah preserve him)
This form of giving is not a gesture of generosity but is treated like a debt or investment. For instance:
"The Kanbūh Muslim community did not practice dowry, did not send henna or gifts from the bride’s side, and did not accept or demand Salami or Neutā during marriage ceremonies. They considered such acts dishonorable."
[Hindustānī Tahzīb kā Musalmānon par Aṣar, pp. 153-154]
"Do not give with the intention of gaining more in return."
[al-Muddaththir: 6]
If one helps or supports another, it should be sincerely for Allah’s sake, without any expectation of return or worldly benefit.
Unfortunately, many people host walīmahs today with the intention of monetary gain, hoping for higher returns during their own events.
May Allah grant us the ability to avoid such innovations. Āmīn.
✦ Question: Is Giving “Salami” at Wedding Feasts Proven from the Qur’an and Sunnah? ✦
The answer: Since the time Muslims began neglecting the teachings of Islam, many un-Islamic practices infiltrated their lives. Among these are several customs associated with marriage ceremonies that lack any basis in Qur'an or authentic Sunnah.✦ The Origin of “Salami” and Cultural Influence ✦
The practice of inviting guests to a walīmah and then expecting or collecting money (Salami/Neutā) from them is a Hindu custom. This ritual was adopted into Muslim culture in the Indian subcontinent due to prolonged interaction with non-Muslim societies.This form of giving is not a gesture of generosity but is treated like a debt or investment. For instance:
- If someone gives 100 rupees at your wedding, they expect 200 at theirs.
- If one fails to reciprocate, it causes offense or complaint.
- If one merely returns what was given previously, it is remarked: "He’s cut off ties with us."
✦ Historical Note from Indian Muslim Society ✦
Dr. Muhammad Umar notes:"The Kanbūh Muslim community did not practice dowry, did not send henna or gifts from the bride’s side, and did not accept or demand Salami or Neutā during marriage ceremonies. They considered such acts dishonorable."
[Hindustānī Tahzīb kā Musalmānon par Aṣar, pp. 153-154]
✦ Islamic Teaching on Giving and Expectation ✦
Allah says:"Do not give with the intention of gaining more in return."
[al-Muddaththir: 6]
If one helps or supports another, it should be sincerely for Allah’s sake, without any expectation of return or worldly benefit.
Unfortunately, many people host walīmahs today with the intention of monetary gain, hoping for higher returns during their own events.
✦ Conclusion ✦
Islam permits a simple walīmah according to one's capacity after the marriage. However, inviting people to a meal and then collecting money is not only against the teachings of Islam but also a mockery of religious values.May Allah grant us the ability to avoid such innovations. Āmīn.
