Taken from: Fatawa Ilmiyyah, Vol. 1, Principles, Takhreej & Tahqeeq of Narrations, p. 663
➊ Is marrying outside one’s tribe or clan considered objectionable in Islam?
➋ What is the Islamic ruling on considering oneself superior and others inferior?
➌ Did the Prophet ﷺ marry his daughters outside his own clan?
➍ Can the arrival of a person really halt one’s work and success? What if the wife is very extravagant in expenses?
➎ Before marriage, the wife performed Istikhara and saw blood and red/black colors in her dream — what does this mean in Shariah?
➏ What are the mutual rights and obligations of husband and wife?
In Islam, marriage is not restricted to one’s tribe or clan. For instance, Abdur Rahman bin ‘Awf al-Qurashi al-Zuhri al-Muhajir (RA) married a woman from the Ansar.
Reference: Muwatta Imam Malik (Narration of ‘Abdur Rahman bin al-Qasim: 150, verified; Riwayah of Yahya bin Yahya 2/545)
Islam strictly prohibits arrogance and pride. The Prophet ﷺ said:
"بِحَسْبِ امْرِئٍ مِنْ الشَّرِّ أَنْ يَحْقِرَ أَخَاهُ الْمُسْلِمَ"
“It is enough evil for a man to consider his Muslim brother lowly.”
Reference: Sahih Muslim: 64, Hadith 25
The Prophet ﷺ’s four daughters were married into various Qurayshi clans:
◈ Fatimah (RA): ‘Ali bin Abi Talib al-Qurashi al-Hashimi (RA)
◈ Zainab (RA): Abu al-‘As bin al-Rabi‘ al-Qurashi (RA)
◈ Ruqayyah (RA): ‘Uthman bin ‘Affan al-Qurashi al-Umawi (RA)
◈ Umm Kulthum (RA): ‘Uthman bin ‘Affan (RA), after Ruqayyah (RA)
A wife saying: “Ever since you came into my life, all my matters stopped” is a form of superstition, which Islam rejects.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
"لا طيرۃ"
“There is no bad omen.”
Reference: Sahih Bukhari: 5757, Sahih Muslim: 2223
Extravagance is also condemned for both men and women. Neither the husband nor wife is permitted to be wasteful — moderation is required.
Seeing a dream after Istikhara is not necessary. Dreams of blood or red/black colors have no basis in Qur’an or Hadith. Claims that such colors are “bad signs” are baseless and rejected.
Warning: Popular dream interpretation books such as:
✿ Ta‘teer al-Anam fi Ta‘beer al-Manam by al-Nabulsi (Innovator)
✿ Ta‘beer al-Ru’ya Kalan by Abu al-Qasim Dlawari (Deobandi)
✿ Ta‘beer al-Ru’ya attributed to Ibn Sirin (RA)
— are unreliable and not valid proofs.
Reference: Shaykh Abu ‘Ubaydah Mashhur bin Hasan Aal-Salman, Kutub Hazara Minha al-‘Ulama, Vol. 2, pp. 275–277, 279–283
Obedience in lawful matters is obligatory. The Prophet ﷺ said:
"والذي نفس محمد بيده لا تؤدي المرأة حق ربها حتى تؤدي حق زوجها"
“By Him in Whose Hand is Muhammad’s soul! A woman cannot fulfill the right of her Lord until she fulfills the right of her husband.”
Reference: Sunan Ibn Majah: 1853; Ibn Hibban, al-Mawarid: 1290; al-Hakim 4/172
He ﷺ also said:
"ثَلَاثَةٌ لَا تُجَاوِزُ صَلَاتُهُمْ آذَانَهُمْ…"
“Three people’s prayer does not rise above their ears — one of them is a woman whose husband is angry with her.”
Reference: Sunan al-Tirmidhi: 360; Sharh al-Sunnah 3/404, Hadith 838
Another Hadith:
"لا تُؤْذِي امْرَأَةٌ زَوْجَهَا فِي الدُّنْيَا…"
“If a wife harms her husband in this world, his heavenly wives say: ‘Do not harm him, for he is only a guest with you for a few days.’”
Reference: Sunan al-Tirmidhi: 1174; Hilyat al-Awliya 5/220
Even voluntary fasting requires the husband’s permission:
"لا تَصُومُ الْمَرْأَةُ يَوْمًا وَاحِدًا وَزَوْجُهَا شَاهِدٌ إِلا بِإِذْنِهِ"
References: Sahih Bukhari: 5192, Sahih Muslim: 1026
The Prophet ﷺ said regarding the husband:
"فإنَّما هو جنَّتُكِ وناركِ"
“Indeed, he (the husband) is your Paradise and your Hell.”
References: Musnad Ahmad 4/341; Sunan al-Kubra al-Nasa’i: 8967; al-Hakim 2/189
The Prophet ﷺ said:
"وَأَطْعِمْهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ، وَاكْسُهَا إِذَا اكْتَسَيْتَ، وَلا تُقَبِّحْ الْوَجْهَ، وَلا تَضْرِبْ"
“Feed her when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not insult her, and do not hit her.”
Reference: Sunan Abi Dawud: 2143
Some British citizens look down upon spouses without nationality. This is forbidden in Islam. The Prophet ﷺ said:
"الْمُسْلِمُ مَنْ سَلِمَ الْمُسْلِمُونَ مِنْ لِسَانِهِ وَيَدِهِ"
“A Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand other Muslims are safe.”
References: Sahih Bukhari: 10, Sahih Muslim: 41, Darussalam: 162
May Allah ﷻ make your friend’s home a place of peace, love, unity, and tranquility. May He guide his wife to righteousness and keep them firm on the path of truth. Ameen.
⚖ Wallahu A‘lam bis-Sawab – And Allah knows best.
❀ Questions Raised ❀
➊ Is marrying outside one’s tribe or clan considered objectionable in Islam?
➋ What is the Islamic ruling on considering oneself superior and others inferior?
➌ Did the Prophet ﷺ marry his daughters outside his own clan?
➍ Can the arrival of a person really halt one’s work and success? What if the wife is very extravagant in expenses?
➎ Before marriage, the wife performed Istikhara and saw blood and red/black colors in her dream — what does this mean in Shariah?
➏ What are the mutual rights and obligations of husband and wife?
✿ Detailed Answers ✿
① Marrying Outside One’s Tribe is Not Objectionable
In Islam, marriage is not restricted to one’s tribe or clan. For instance, Abdur Rahman bin ‘Awf al-Qurashi al-Zuhri al-Muhajir (RA) married a woman from the Ansar.
Reference: Muwatta Imam Malik (Narration of ‘Abdur Rahman bin al-Qasim: 150, verified; Riwayah of Yahya bin Yahya 2/545)
② Considering Oneself Superior and Others Inferior is Forbidden
Islam strictly prohibits arrogance and pride. The Prophet ﷺ said:
"بِحَسْبِ امْرِئٍ مِنْ الشَّرِّ أَنْ يَحْقِرَ أَخَاهُ الْمُسْلِمَ"
“It is enough evil for a man to consider his Muslim brother lowly.”
Reference: Sahih Muslim: 64, Hadith 25
③ The Prophet ﷺ Married His Daughters into Different Tribes
The Prophet ﷺ’s four daughters were married into various Qurayshi clans:
◈ Fatimah (RA): ‘Ali bin Abi Talib al-Qurashi al-Hashimi (RA)
◈ Zainab (RA): Abu al-‘As bin al-Rabi‘ al-Qurashi (RA)
◈ Ruqayyah (RA): ‘Uthman bin ‘Affan al-Qurashi al-Umawi (RA)
◈ Umm Kulthum (RA): ‘Uthman bin ‘Affan (RA), after Ruqayyah (RA)
④ No Concept of Bad Omens in Islam
A wife saying: “Ever since you came into my life, all my matters stopped” is a form of superstition, which Islam rejects.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
"لا طيرۃ"
“There is no bad omen.”
Reference: Sahih Bukhari: 5757, Sahih Muslim: 2223
Extravagance is also condemned for both men and women. Neither the husband nor wife is permitted to be wasteful — moderation is required.
⑤ Istikhara Dreams and Their Interpretation
Seeing a dream after Istikhara is not necessary. Dreams of blood or red/black colors have no basis in Qur’an or Hadith. Claims that such colors are “bad signs” are baseless and rejected.
Warning: Popular dream interpretation books such as:
✿ Ta‘teer al-Anam fi Ta‘beer al-Manam by al-Nabulsi (Innovator)
✿ Ta‘beer al-Ru’ya Kalan by Abu al-Qasim Dlawari (Deobandi)
✿ Ta‘beer al-Ru’ya attributed to Ibn Sirin (RA)
— are unreliable and not valid proofs.
Reference: Shaykh Abu ‘Ubaydah Mashhur bin Hasan Aal-Salman, Kutub Hazara Minha al-‘Ulama, Vol. 2, pp. 275–277, 279–283
⑥ Rights and Obligations Between Husband and Wife
✿ Wife’s Duties Towards Her Husband
Obedience in lawful matters is obligatory. The Prophet ﷺ said:
"والذي نفس محمد بيده لا تؤدي المرأة حق ربها حتى تؤدي حق زوجها"
“By Him in Whose Hand is Muhammad’s soul! A woman cannot fulfill the right of her Lord until she fulfills the right of her husband.”
Reference: Sunan Ibn Majah: 1853; Ibn Hibban, al-Mawarid: 1290; al-Hakim 4/172
He ﷺ also said:
"ثَلَاثَةٌ لَا تُجَاوِزُ صَلَاتُهُمْ آذَانَهُمْ…"
“Three people’s prayer does not rise above their ears — one of them is a woman whose husband is angry with her.”
Reference: Sunan al-Tirmidhi: 360; Sharh al-Sunnah 3/404, Hadith 838
Another Hadith:
"لا تُؤْذِي امْرَأَةٌ زَوْجَهَا فِي الدُّنْيَا…"
“If a wife harms her husband in this world, his heavenly wives say: ‘Do not harm him, for he is only a guest with you for a few days.’”
Reference: Sunan al-Tirmidhi: 1174; Hilyat al-Awliya 5/220
Even voluntary fasting requires the husband’s permission:
"لا تَصُومُ الْمَرْأَةُ يَوْمًا وَاحِدًا وَزَوْجُهَا شَاهِدٌ إِلا بِإِذْنِهِ"
References: Sahih Bukhari: 5192, Sahih Muslim: 1026
The Prophet ﷺ said regarding the husband:
"فإنَّما هو جنَّتُكِ وناركِ"
“Indeed, he (the husband) is your Paradise and your Hell.”
References: Musnad Ahmad 4/341; Sunan al-Kubra al-Nasa’i: 8967; al-Hakim 2/189
✿ Husband’s Duties Towards His Wife
The Prophet ﷺ said:
"وَأَطْعِمْهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ، وَاكْسُهَا إِذَا اكْتَسَيْتَ، وَلا تُقَبِّحْ الْوَجْهَ، وَلا تَضْرِبْ"
“Feed her when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not insult her, and do not hit her.”
Reference: Sunan Abi Dawud: 2143
⑦ Discrimination Based on Nationality is Haram
Some British citizens look down upon spouses without nationality. This is forbidden in Islam. The Prophet ﷺ said:
"الْمُسْلِمُ مَنْ سَلِمَ الْمُسْلِمُونَ مِنْ لِسَانِهِ وَيَدِهِ"
“A Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand other Muslims are safe.”
References: Sahih Bukhari: 10, Sahih Muslim: 41, Darussalam: 162
❀ Supplication ❀
May Allah ﷻ make your friend’s home a place of peace, love, unity, and tranquility. May He guide his wife to righteousness and keep them firm on the path of truth. Ameen.
⚖ Wallahu A‘lam bis-Sawab – And Allah knows best.
