Question:
My wife refuses to live with my parents, despite no specific incidents causing any discord between them. Is her refusal permissible? Please provide a detailed answer.
Answer: It is incumbent upon the wife to maintain kindness, compassion, and harmonious relationships with her husband's family, including his parents, siblings, and close relatives. This behavior brings blessings and happiness to both her life and her husband's life. She should exercise patience and seek reward from Allah when faced with minor inconveniences or situations she dislikes.
If the wife encounters any challenges or unpleasant situations, she should remain steadfast and avoid upsetting her husband's family. Persistent opposition and discord may lead to misunderstandings that could ultimately compel the husband to consider divorce. Such a situation would not only break the marital bond but also create a challenging future for any children involved. One must reflect on the adverse impact this separation could have on the children, who may suffer greatly in the aftermath of such decisions.
(Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen رحمه الله)
My wife refuses to live with my parents, despite no specific incidents causing any discord between them. Is her refusal permissible? Please provide a detailed answer.
Answer: It is incumbent upon the wife to maintain kindness, compassion, and harmonious relationships with her husband's family, including his parents, siblings, and close relatives. This behavior brings blessings and happiness to both her life and her husband's life. She should exercise patience and seek reward from Allah when faced with minor inconveniences or situations she dislikes.
If the wife encounters any challenges or unpleasant situations, she should remain steadfast and avoid upsetting her husband's family. Persistent opposition and discord may lead to misunderstandings that could ultimately compel the husband to consider divorce. Such a situation would not only break the marital bond but also create a challenging future for any children involved. One must reflect on the adverse impact this separation could have on the children, who may suffer greatly in the aftermath of such decisions.
Advisory for the Wife
The wife is advised to reassess her approach and strive for righteousness and goodness. She should aim to support her husband in the matters of family life and build a positive environment in the home.Resolving Serious Disputes
If the disagreements escalate and remain unresolved, the matter should be referred to a judge (qadi). The judge will determine whether the wife can be compelled to live with her husband's family or whether other arrangements are to be made. If further nuances exist in the matter, the judge will provide clarification and issue a suitable ruling.General Counsel
In general, the wife is encouraged to prioritize her duties and the well-being of the family. She should work towards fostering a cooperative and supportive relationship with her husband and his relatives, keeping in mind the greater good and the rewards of patience in this world and the hereafter.(Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen رحمه الله)