Written by: Qari Usama bin Abdul Salam حفظه الله
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
"Whoever has the means for Nikah should get married."
Sunan Ibn Majah: 1846 | Al-Albani: Sahih, Silsilah al-Sahihah: 2383
② Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud (رضي الله عنه):
The Prophet ﷺ said:
"O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes and protects private parts. And whoever is not able, should fast, for fasting will diminish his desire."
Sahih Muslim: 1400
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Qur’anic Command:
﴿وَأَنْكِحُوا الْأَيَامَى...﴾
"Marry those among you who are single and the righteous among your male and female slaves. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His grace..."
Surah An-Nur: 32-33
④ Permission for Polygyny:
﴿فَانْكِحُوْا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ...﴾
"Marry women of your choice, two or three or four..."
Surah An-Nisa: 3
"Three are entitled to Allah’s help: the one striving to pay off slavery, the one who marries for chastity, and the one fighting in Allah's cause."
Sunan al-Nasa’i: 3220 | Ibn Majah: 2518 (Hasan)
② Abu Umamah (رضي الله عنه) narrated:
"Whoever marries seeking the pleasure of Allah has completed half of his faith."
Al-I‘tiqad lil-Bayhaqi, p.178
③ Anas (رضي الله عنه) narrated:
"Whoever is granted a righteous wife by Allah, half of his religion is secured. Let him fear Allah regarding the other half."
Al-Mustadrak al-Hakim: 2681
④ Anas ibn Malik (رضي الله عنه) reported:
"Whoever wants to meet Allah in a state of purity should marry free women."
Ibn Majah: 1862 | Also mentioned in Bukhari’s Tarikh and other references
The Prophet ﷺ said:
"Nikah is my Sunnah. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me. Marry, for I will boast of your numbers before other nations."
Sunan Ibn Majah: 1846
② Narrated by Anas (رضي الله عنه):
When some companions expressed extreme asceticism (not marrying, not eating meat, etc.), the Prophet ﷺ said:
"I pray and sleep, fast and break fast, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not from me."
Sahih Muslim: 1401 | Ibn Hibban: 14
③ Narrated by Samurah (رضي الله عنه):
"The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade celibacy." Then the following verse was recited:
﴿وَلَقَدْ أَرْسَلْنَا رُسُلًا...﴾
Sunan Ibn Majah: 1849 | Sunan al-Nasa’i: 3215
① Sayyidah Zaynab (رضي الله عنها), daughter of the Prophet ﷺ, was married to Abu al-‘As (رضي الله عنه) who was not a Hashimi.
② Two daughters of the Prophet ﷺ, Ruqayyah and Umm Kulthum (رضي الله عنهما), were married to Uthman ibn Affan (رضي الله عنه) — not a Hashimi.
③ Umm Kulthum bint ‘Ali (رضي الله عنها), granddaughter of the Prophet ﷺ, was married to ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (رضي الله عنه) — a non-Hashimi.
④ The Prophet ﷺ married his cousin Zaynab bint Jahsh (رضي الله عنها) to Zayd ibn Harithah (رضي الله عنه), a freed slave — as recorded in Surah al-Ahzab.
⑤ ‘Ali ibn al-Husayn (Zayn al-‘Abidin) married Shaharbanu, a non-Hashimi woman.
Note: Neither Qur'an nor Hadith forbids a Hashimi woman from marrying a non-Hashimi man. The real basis for superiority is Taqwa (piety), not lineage.
Sahih al-Bukhari: 5127
Sahih Muslim: 1416 | Sunan al-Nasa’i: 3339
Harms of Nikah Shighar:
① Emotional retaliation in case of conflict between either couple.
② Absence of proper Mahr — a practice of the age of ignorance.
③ Even if Mahr is specified, it often doesn't eliminate the retaliatory nature of such arrangements.
Sahih Muslim: 3468
◈ The Importance of Nikah
① Narrated by ʿĀ’ishah (رضي الله عنها):The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
"Whoever has the means for Nikah should get married."
Sunan Ibn Majah: 1846 | Al-Albani: Sahih, Silsilah al-Sahihah: 2383② Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud (رضي الله عنه):
The Prophet ﷺ said:
"O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes and protects private parts. And whoever is not able, should fast, for fasting will diminish his desire."
Sahih Muslim: 1400③
Qur’anic Command:﴿وَأَنْكِحُوا الْأَيَامَى...﴾
"Marry those among you who are single and the righteous among your male and female slaves. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His grace..."
Surah An-Nur: 32-33④
Permission for Polygyny:﴿فَانْكِحُوْا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ...﴾
"Marry women of your choice, two or three or four..."
Surah An-Nisa: 3◈ Virtues of Nikah
① Abu Hurairah (رضي الله عنه) narrated:"Three are entitled to Allah’s help: the one striving to pay off slavery, the one who marries for chastity, and the one fighting in Allah's cause."
Sunan al-Nasa’i: 3220 | Ibn Majah: 2518 (Hasan)② Abu Umamah (رضي الله عنه) narrated:
"Whoever marries seeking the pleasure of Allah has completed half of his faith."
Al-I‘tiqad lil-Bayhaqi, p.178③ Anas (رضي الله عنه) narrated:
"Whoever is granted a righteous wife by Allah, half of his religion is secured. Let him fear Allah regarding the other half."
Al-Mustadrak al-Hakim: 2681④ Anas ibn Malik (رضي الله عنه) reported:
"Whoever wants to meet Allah in a state of purity should marry free women."
Ibn Majah: 1862 | Also mentioned in Bukhari’s Tarikh and other references◈ Warning Against Avoiding Marriage
① Narrated by ʿĀ’ishah (رضي الله عنها):The Prophet ﷺ said:
"Nikah is my Sunnah. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me. Marry, for I will boast of your numbers before other nations."
Sunan Ibn Majah: 1846② Narrated by Anas (رضي الله عنه):
When some companions expressed extreme asceticism (not marrying, not eating meat, etc.), the Prophet ﷺ said:
"I pray and sleep, fast and break fast, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not from me."
Sahih Muslim: 1401 | Ibn Hibban: 14③ Narrated by Samurah (رضي الله عنه):
"The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade celibacy." Then the following verse was recited:
﴿وَلَقَدْ أَرْسَلْنَا رُسُلًا...﴾
Sunan Ibn Majah: 1849 | Sunan al-Nasa’i: 3215◈ Clarifying Misconceptions: Marriage Between Hashimis and Non-Hashimis
Some people falsely claim that a Hashimi woman cannot marry a non-Hashimi man. This is incorrect based on:① Sayyidah Zaynab (رضي الله عنها), daughter of the Prophet ﷺ, was married to Abu al-‘As (رضي الله عنه) who was not a Hashimi.
② Two daughters of the Prophet ﷺ, Ruqayyah and Umm Kulthum (رضي الله عنهما), were married to Uthman ibn Affan (رضي الله عنه) — not a Hashimi.
③ Umm Kulthum bint ‘Ali (رضي الله عنها), granddaughter of the Prophet ﷺ, was married to ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (رضي الله عنه) — a non-Hashimi.
④ The Prophet ﷺ married his cousin Zaynab bint Jahsh (رضي الله عنها) to Zayd ibn Harithah (رضي الله عنه), a freed slave — as recorded in Surah al-Ahzab.
⑤ ‘Ali ibn al-Husayn (Zayn al-‘Abidin) married Shaharbanu, a non-Hashimi woman.
Note: Neither Qur'an nor Hadith forbids a Hashimi woman from marrying a non-Hashimi man. The real basis for superiority is Taqwa (piety), not lineage.◈ Types of Nikah
✔ 1. Nikah al-Masnun (Prescribed Marriage):
A marriage performed under a guardian with the intention of lifelong companionship. Sahih al-Bukhari: 5127✖ 2. Nikah Shighar (Exchange Marriage / Wata Sata):
A man marries off his daughter or sister on the condition that the other man does the same, often without specifying Mahr. This is haram (forbidden). Sahih Muslim: 1416 | Sunan al-Nasa’i: 3339 Harms of Nikah Shighar:① Emotional retaliation in case of conflict between either couple.
② Absence of proper Mahr — a practice of the age of ignorance.
③ Even if Mahr is specified, it often doesn't eliminate the retaliatory nature of such arrangements.
Sahih Muslim: 3468
