Assisting Family in Household Chores

Author: Dr. Muhammad Zia-ur-Rahman Azmi (رحمه الله)
Chapter: One of the Noble Characteristics is for a Man to Assist His Family

Assisting Family Members as an Act of Good Character​

Helping one’s family with household tasks is considered a praiseworthy trait and a reflection of excellent character in Islam. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) exemplified this through his actions at home.

Examples from Hadith​

❀ Narration by Al-Aswad (رضي الله عنه):
He reported:
"I asked Aisha (رضي الله عنها): 'What would the Prophet (ﷺ) do at home?' She replied: 'He used to assist his family with household tasks, but when it was time for prayer, he would leave for the prayer.'"
[Sahih: Bukhari (6039)]

❀ Narration by Urwah (رضي الله عنه):
He reported:
"It was said to Aisha (رضي الله عنها): 'What would the Prophet (ﷺ) do at home?' She replied: 'He would do what any of you would do—he would mend his sandals and patch his clothes.'"
[Sahih: Ahmad (24479), Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad (540), Abu Shaykh in Akhlaq Al-Nabi (120)]

Key Lessons​

1. Prophetic Example in the Household:
   
   • The Prophet (ﷺ) actively participated in household chores, demonstrating humility and care for his family.
   • His actions serve as a model for men to take an active role in their homes.
2. Balancing Responsibilities:
   
   • While the Prophet (ﷺ) assisted in domestic matters, he prioritized Salah when the time arrived, maintaining a balance between worldly and spiritual duties.
3. Breaking Gender Stereotypes:
   
   • These narrations emphasize that household tasks are not exclusively a woman’s responsibility; rather, it is a shared duty that fosters love and cooperation within the family.
4. Promoting Good Character:
   
   • Helping one’s family reflects the noble character traits of humility, care, and responsibility, which every Muslim is encouraged to adopt.

By following the example of the Prophet (ﷺ), we can strengthen family bonds and create a harmonious household environment.