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سنن ترمذي
Tirmidhi
كتاب البر والصلة عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلمChapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives
باب مَا جَاءَ مِنَ الْفَضْلِ فِي رِضَا الْوَالِدَيْنِChapter: The Virtue of Pleasing One's Parents
Hadith 1899
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ، عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ السَّائِبِ الْهُجَيْمِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ السُّلَمِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ ، أَنَّ رَجُلًا أَتَاهُ ، فَقَالَ : إِنّ لِيَ امْرَأَةً ، وَإِنَّ أُمِّي تَأْمُرُنِي بِطَلَاقِهَا ، قَالَ أَبُو الدَّرْدَاءِ : سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ : " الْوَالِدُ أَوْسَطُ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ فَإِنْ شِئْتَ فَأَضِعْ ذَلِكَ الْبَابَ أَوِ احْفَظْهُ " ، قَالَ ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ ، وَرُبَّمَا قَالَ سُفْيَانُ : إِنَّ أُمِّي ، وَرُبَّمَا قَالَ أَبِي ، وَهَذَا حَدِيثٌ صَحِيحٌ ، وَأَبُو عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ السُّلَمِيُّ اسْمُهُ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ حَبِيبٍ .
Abu Darda (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that a man came to him and said: "I have a wife, and my mother is ordering me to divorce her. (What should I do?)" Abu Darda (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: 'The father is the middle gate of Paradise; if you wish, neglect this gate, and if you wish, protect it.'" 1. Sufyan bin ‘Uyaynah sometimes said «إن امی» (my mother) and sometimes «إن أبی» (my father). © Imam Tirmidhi says: This hadith is authentic.
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Brief Explanation
1؎: That is, the rights of the parents should be safeguarded and given special attention. If "father" is taken as a generic term, then both mother and father are intended. Or, the meaning of the hadith is that if this is the status and rank of the father, then what can be said of the status of the mother.
Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
➊ Serving and obeying one’s parents is a means of entering Paradise.
➋ Keeping one’s parents pleased is the best means of entering Paradise.
➌ A believer has a great desire for Paradise; therefore, one should be very mindful of obeying one’s parents so that Paradise may be attained.
➍ If parents command something that is permissible according to the Shari‘ah, then it should be carried out, even if it is disagreeable to the heart. However, parents should also take into consideration the legitimate feelings of their children.
➎ The noble Companions (radi Allahu anhum) were very eager for voluntary acts of worship (nawafil); therefore, one should strive to perform as many voluntary acts of worship as possible according to one’s capacity, provided that this does not cause any shortcoming in the rights of others (huquq al-‘ibad).
➊ Serving and obeying one’s parents is a means of entering Paradise.
➋ Keeping one’s parents pleased is the best means of entering Paradise.
➌ A believer has a great desire for Paradise; therefore, one should be very mindful of obeying one’s parents so that Paradise may be attained.
➍ If parents command something that is permissible according to the Shari‘ah, then it should be carried out, even if it is disagreeable to the heart. However, parents should also take into consideration the legitimate feelings of their children.
➎ The noble Companions (radi Allahu anhum) were very eager for voluntary acts of worship (nawafil); therefore, one should strive to perform as many voluntary acts of worship as possible according to one’s capacity, provided that this does not cause any shortcoming in the rights of others (huquq al-‘ibad).
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 2089
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
➊ Serving the father is an important means of entering Paradise.
➋ Wasting (losing) means that if you anger your father, the door of Paradise will not be opened for you; in this way, you will lose the door of Paradise.
➌ Preserving means that if you please your father, then surely the door of Paradise will be opened for you.
➍ If the father commands something that involves the displeasure of Allah, then it is not permissible to obey the father; however, even in this situation, serving and respecting the father remains necessary.
➊ Serving the father is an important means of entering Paradise.
➋ Wasting (losing) means that if you anger your father, the door of Paradise will not be opened for you; in this way, you will lose the door of Paradise.
➌ Preserving means that if you please your father, then surely the door of Paradise will be opened for you.
➍ If the father commands something that involves the displeasure of Allah, then it is not permissible to obey the father; however, even in this situation, serving and respecting the father remains necessary.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 3663
