سنن ترمذي
Tirmidhi
كتاب النكاح عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلمThe Book on Marriage
باب مَا جَاءَ فِي التَّسْوِيَةِ بَيْنَ الضَّرَائِرِChapter: What Has Been Related About Equality Between Co-Wives
Hadith 1140
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا بِشْرُ بْنُ السَّرِيِّ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ أَبِي قِلَابَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ يَزِيدَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ يَقْسِمُ بَيْنَ نِسَائِهِ فَيَعْدِلُ ، وَيَقُولُ : " اللَّهُمَّ هَذِهِ قِسْمَتِي فِيمَا أَمْلِكُ فَلَا تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلَا أَمْلِكُ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى : حَدِيثُ عَائِشَةَ هَكَذَا رَوَاهُ غَيْرُ وَاحِدٍ ، عَنْ حَمَّادِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ ، عَنْ أَبِي قِلَابَةَ ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ يَزِيدَ ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ، أَنّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " كَانَ يَقْسِمُ " . وَرَوَاهُ حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ، وَغَيْرُ وَاحِدٍ ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ أَبِي قِلَابَةَ مُرْسَلًا ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " كَانَ يَقْسِمُ " ، وَهَذَا أَصَحُّ مِنْ حَدِيثِ حَمَّادِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ ، وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ : لَا تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ ، وَلَا أَمْلِكُ إِنَّمَا يَعْنِي بِهِ الْحُبَّ ، وَالْمَوَدَّةَ كَذَا فَسَّرَهُ بَعْضُ أَهْلِ الْعِلْمِ .
´Aishah narrated that:` The Prophet would divide (his time) equally between his wives and said: "O Allah! This is my division in what I have control over, so do not punish me for what You have control over which I do not have control over."
Related hadith on this topic
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Dr. Abdur Rahman Freywai
Commentary:
Note:
(Hammad ibn Zayd and other more reliable narrators have narrated this from Ayyub «عن أبي قلابة عن النبي ﷺ» as mursal, but the first part of the hadith «اللهم هذا قسمي فيما أملك» is hasan.
Taraaju‘ al-Albani 346)
Note:
(Hammad ibn Zayd and other more reliable narrators have narrated this from Ayyub «عن أبي قلابة عن النبي ﷺ» as mursal, but the first part of the hadith «اللهم هذا قسمي فيما أملك» is hasan.
Taraaju‘ al-Albani 346)
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhi – Majlis ‘Ilmi Dar al-Da‘wah, New Delhi Edition, Page: 1140
Hafiz Muhammad Ameen
“I am powerless.” That is, [this refers to] heartfelt love, because it is connected to the personality, qualities, and conduct of the person concerned. In these matters, individuals are not equal; therefore, love also cannot be the same for everyone. However, outward conduct with wives must be the same, because in being wives, all are equal and their rights are also equal. Even though equality in these outward matters was not obligatory upon the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), yet he himself maintained equality and acted justly… (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam)…
Source: Sunan Nasa'i: Translation and Benefits by Shaykh Hafiz Muhammad Amin Hafizullah, Page: 3395
Shaykh Umar Farooq Saeedi
Benefits and Issues:
The meaning is that I do not fall short in social conduct, but the matter of the heart is not within my control.
Therefore, do not reproach me for any increase or decrease in heartfelt love.
From this, it is understood that one who has more than one wife—if he maintains justice and fairness in outward conduct—will not be held accountable for any deficiency or excess in the inclination of the heart.
And Allah knows best.
The meaning is that I do not fall short in social conduct, but the matter of the heart is not within my control.
Therefore, do not reproach me for any increase or decrease in heartfelt love.
From this, it is understood that one who has more than one wife—if he maintains justice and fairness in outward conduct—will not be held accountable for any deficiency or excess in the inclination of the heart.
And Allah knows best.
Source: Sunan Abu Dawood – Commentary by Shaykh Umar Farooq Saeedi, Page: 2134
Shaykh Safi ur-Rahman Mubarakpuri
Takhrij:
«أخرجه أبوداود، النكاح، باب في القسم بين النساء، حديث:2134، والترمذي، النكاح، حديث:1140، والنسائي، عشرة النساء، حديث:3395، وابن ماجه، النكاح، حديث:1971، وابن حبان(الموارد)، حديث:1305، والحاكم:2 /187 وصححه علي شرط مسلم، ووافقه الذهبي.»©
Explanation:
From this hadith, it is understood that one must establish justice and fairness among one’s wives. However, if there is a greater inclination of the heart towards one of them, there will be no reproach for that, because women differ in terms of character and conduct, morals, beauty and appearance, and habits and traits.
The woman who possesses more beauty and appearance, good morals and qualities, and the characteristic of obedience to her husband, the husband’s inclination will naturally be greater towards her.
«أخرجه أبوداود، النكاح، باب في القسم بين النساء، حديث:2134، والترمذي، النكاح، حديث:1140، والنسائي، عشرة النساء، حديث:3395، وابن ماجه، النكاح، حديث:1971، وابن حبان(الموارد)، حديث:1305، والحاكم:2 /187 وصححه علي شرط مسلم، ووافقه الذهبي.»©
Explanation:
From this hadith, it is understood that one must establish justice and fairness among one’s wives. However, if there is a greater inclination of the heart towards one of them, there will be no reproach for that, because women differ in terms of character and conduct, morals, beauty and appearance, and habits and traits.
The woman who possesses more beauty and appearance, good morals and qualities, and the characteristic of obedience to her husband, the husband’s inclination will naturally be greater towards her.
Source: Bulugh al-Maram: Commentary by Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri, Page: 905
