سنن ترمذي

Tirmidhi

 كتاب النكاح عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم

The Book on Marriage

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Chapter: What Has Been Related About Looking at The Proposed Woman

Hadith 1087

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حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنِيعٍ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَائِدَةَ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنِي عَاصِمُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ هُوَ : الْأَحْوَلُ، عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ، عَنْ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ، أَنَّهُ خَطَبَ امْرَأَةً ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " انْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا " . وَفِي الْبَاب : عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ مَسْلَمَةَ ، وَجَابِرٍ ، وَأَبِي حُمَيْدٍ ، وَأَنَسٍ ، وَأَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ، قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى : هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ ، وَقَدْ ذَهَبَ بَعْضُ أَهْلِ الْعِلْمِ إِلَى هَذَا الْحَدِيثِ ، وَقَالُوا : لَا بَأْسَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَيْهَا مَا لَمْ يَرَ مِنْهَا مُحَرَّمًا ، وَهُوَ قَوْلُ : أَحْمَدَ ، وَإِسْحَاق ، وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ أَحْرَى : أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا ، قَالَ : أَحْرَى أَنْ تَدُومَ الْمَوَدَّةُ بَيْنَكُمَا .
´Bakr bin Abdullah Al-Muzani narrated that :` Al-Mughirah bin Shu'bah proposed to a woman, so the Prophet said: "Look at her, for indeed that is more likely to make things better between the two of you."
Hadith Reference سنن ترمذي / كتاب النكاح عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم / 1087
Hadith Grading الألبانی: صحيح، ابن ماجة (1865)
Hadith Takhrij «سنن النسائی/النکاح 17 (2237) ، سنن ابن ماجہ/النکاح 9 (1866) ، (بزیادة في السیاق) ( تحفة الأشراف : 11489) ، مسند احمد (4/245، 246) ، سنن الدارمی/النکاح 5 (2218) (صحیح)»
Related hadith on this topic
Ibn Majah: 1866 Nasai: 3237
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Dr. Abdur Rahman Freywai
Explanation:
1:
According to the majority of scholars, this ruling is recommended (mustahabb) and not obligatory (wajib). If someone sends a trustworthy female relative to inquire about a woman's appearance, habits, and characteristics, this is also permissible, just as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) sent Umm Sulaym (radi Allahu anha) to gather information about a woman.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhi – Majlis ‘Ilmi Dar al-Da‘wah, New Delhi Edition, Page: 1087
Ibn Majah — Hadith 1866
´It was narrated that:` Mughirah bin Shubah said: “I came to the Prophet and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.' So I went to a woman among the Ansar and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allah has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allah (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her.” And he mentioned how well he got along with her.
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:

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The parents did not dislike the Prophetic hadith itself; rather, what they disliked was that a non-related man should look at their young daughter.

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A young unmarried girl should observe proper veiling (purdah).

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A boy should only look at the girl whom he truly intends to marry.
It is a very bad thing to go around looking at people’s daughters under this pretext.
Allah, the Exalted, is aware of the thoughts in hearts; no one’s betrayal is hidden from Him.

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The hearts of the male and female Companions (Sahabah and Sahabiyyat) held great respect for the Prophetic hadith. Thus, when the girl was informed of the instruction of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), she immediately agreed, even though, by her natural disposition, this matter was unpleasant for her.

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From this, it is also understood how much importance the Companions (radi Allahu anhum) placed on the command of the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 1866
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