It is narrated from Hazrat Saeed bin Jubair (may Allah have mercy on him) that if a person gets angry with his wife and does not go near her for four months, then ila does not take place, unless he swears an oath or clearly says that he will not go near her, and if the anger is from the woman's side, then ila does not take place.
Hadith Referenceسنن سعید بن منصور / كتاب الطلاق / 3098
Hadith Takhrij«أخرجه سعيد بن منصور فى «سننه» ترقيم الدرالسلفية برقم:، 1921، وعبد الرزاق فى «مصنفه» برقم: 11622، 11623»