سنن دارمي
Sunan ad-Darimi
من كتاب الطلاقFrom the Book of Divorce
باب في تَخْيِيرِ الصَّبِيِّ بَيْنَ أَبَوَيْهِ:
Chapter: Child’s Choice Between Parents
Hadith 2330
أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَاصِمٍ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ جُرَيْجٍ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنِي زِيَادُ بْنُ سَعْدٍ، عَنْ هِلَالِ بْنِ أُسَامَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي مَيْمُونَةَ سُلَيْمَانَ مَوْلًى لِأَهْلِ الْمَدِينَةِ، قَالَ: كُنْتُ عِنْدَ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ فَجَاءَتْهُ امْرَأَةٌ، فَقَالَتْ: إِنَّ زَوْجِي يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَذْهَبَ بِوَلَدِي، فَقَالَ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ: كُنْتُ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذْ جَاءَتْهُ امْرَأَةٌ، فَقَالَتْ: إِنَّ زَوْجِي يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَذْهَبَ بِوَلَدِي أَوْ بِابْنِي وَقَدْ نَفَعَنِي وَسَقَانِي مِنْ بِئْرِ أَبِي عِنَبَةَ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: اسْتَهِمَا أَوْ قَالَ: تَسَاهَمَا أَبُو عَاصِمٍ الشَّاكُّ، فَجَاءَ زَوْجُهَا، فَقَالَ: مَنْ يُخَاصِمُنِي فِي وَلَدِي أَوْ فِي ابْنِي ؟، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: "يَا غُلَامُ، هَذَا أَبُوكَ وَهَذِهِ أُمُّكَ، فَخُذْ بِيَدِ أَيِّهِمَا شِئْتَ" . وَقَدْ قَالَ أَبُو عَاصِمٍ: "فَاتْبَعْ أَيَّهُمَا شِئْتَ"، فَأَخَذَ بِيَدِ أُمِّهِ فَانْطَلَقَتْ بِهِ.
Abu Maimunah Sulaiman, the servant of the people of Madinah, narrates that I was sitting with Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) when a woman came to him and said, "My husband wants to take my child away." Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I was present with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) when a woman came to him and said, "My husband wants to take away my child or my son who serves me and brings me water from the well of Abu Anbah." The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "You both cast lots," «استهما» he said, or «تساهما» he said, Abu Asim was uncertain about this (the meaning of both words is the same). Then the woman's husband came and said, "Who will dispute with me regarding my child or my son?" The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said (to the child): "Son, this is your father and this is your mother, take the hand of whomever you wish to stay with."
And Asim said: Go with whichever of the two you wish, so the boy took his mother's hand and she took him away.
And Asim said: Go with whichever of the two you wish, so the boy took his mother's hand and she took him away.
