سنن دارمي
Sunan ad-Darimi
من كتاب الطلاقFrom the Book of Divorce
باب في الظِّهَارِ:
Chapter: Zihar (Wife as Unlawful Like One’s Mother)
Hadith 2310
حَدَّثَنَا زَكَرِيَّا بْنُ عَدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ إِدْرِيسَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ إِسْحَاق، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، عَنْ سَلَمَةَ بْنِ صَخْرٍ الْبَيَاضِيِّ، قَالَ: كُنْتُ امْرَأً أُصِيبُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَا لَا يُصِيبُ غَيْرِي، فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ شَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ، خِفْتُ أَنْ أُصِيبَ فِي لَيْلِي شَيْئًا، فَيَتَتَابَعَ بِي ذَلِكَ إِلَى أَنْ أُصْبِحَ، قَالَ: فَتَظَاهَرْتُ إِلَى أَنْ يَنْسَلِخَ، فَبَيْنَا هِيَ لَيْلَةً تَخْدُمُنِي، إِذْ تَكَشَّفَ لِي مِنْهَا شَيْءٌ، فَمَا لَبِثْتُ أَنْ نَزَوْتُ عَلَيْهَا فَلَمَّا أَصْبَحْتُ، خَرَجْتُ إِلَى قَوْمِي فَأَخْبَرْتُهُمْ، وَقُلْتُ: امْشُوا مَعِي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَقَالُوا: لَا وَاللَّهِ، لَا نَمْشِي مَعَكَ، مَا نَأْمَنُ أَنْ يَنْزِلَ فِيكَ الْقُرْآنُ، أَوْ أَنْ يَكُونَ فِيكَ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَقَالَةٌ يَلْزَمُنَا عَارُهَا، وَلَنُسْلِمَنَّكَ بِجَرِيرَتِكَ . فَانْطَلَقْتُ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَصَصْتُ عَلَيْهِ خَبَرِي، فَقَالَ: "يَا سَلَمَةُ، أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ ؟"قُلْتُ: أَنَا بِذَاكَ، قَالَ: "يَا سَلَمَةُ، أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ ؟"قُلْتُ: أَنَا بِذَاكَ، قَالَ: "يَا سَلَمَةُ، أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ ؟"قُلْتُ: أَنَا بِذَاكَ، وَهَأَنَا صَابِرٌ نَفْسِي، فَاحْكُمْ فِيَّ مَا أَرَاكَ اللَّهُ، قَالَ: "فَأَعْتِقْ رَقَبَةً"، قَالَ: فَضَرَبْتُ صَفْحَةَ رَقَبَتِي، فَقُلْتُ: وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ مَا أَصْبَحْتُ أَمْلِكُ رَقَبَةً غَيْرَهَا، قَالَ: "فَصُمْ شَهْرَيْنِ مُتَتَابِعَيْنِ"، قُلْتُ: وَهَلْ أَصَابَنِي الَّذِي أَصَابَنِي إِلَّا فِي الصِّيَامِ ؟ قَالَ: "فَأَطْعِمْ وَسْقًا مِنْ تَمْرٍ سِتِّينَ مِسْكِينًا"، فَقُلْتُ: وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ، لَقَدْ بِتْنَا لَيْلَتَنَا وَحْشَى، مَالَنَا مِنَ الطَّعَام، قَالَ: "فَانْطَلِقْ إِلَى صَاحِبِ صَدَقَةِ بَنِي زُرَيْقٍ فَلْيَدْفَعْهَا إِلَيْكَ، وَأَطْعِمْ سِتِّينَ مِسْكِينًا وَسْقًا مِنْ تَمْرٍ، وَكُلْ بَقِيَّتَهُ أَنْتَ وَعِيَالُكَ"، قَالَ: فَأَتَيْتُ قَوْمِي، فَقُلْتُ: وَجَدْتُ عِنْدَكُمُ الضِّيقَ وَسُوءَ الرَّأْيِ، وَوَجَدْتُ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ السَّعَةَ وَحُسْنَ الرَّأْيِ، وَقَدْ أَمَرَ لِي بِصَدَقَتِكُمْ.
Sayyiduna Salamah bin Sakhr Bayazi (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I used to have intercourse with my wives so frequently that perhaps no one else did so as much. When the blessed month of Ramadan arrived, I feared that I might do something with my wife that would not leave its ill effect until morning. Therefore, I pronounced zihar (i.e., said to her, "You are like my mother to me") until the end of Ramadan, to keep away from her. During this period, one night she was serving me when her body became exposed, and I could not restrain myself and I had intercourse with her. When morning came, I went to my tribe and narrated this incident and said, "Come with me to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)." They said, "By Allah, we will not go with you. Who knows, something might be revealed in the Qur'an about you, or the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) might say something about you that would be a disgrace for us. Therefore, we hand you over for your own fault." So I went to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and told him my story. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Did you do that?" I replied, "Such an act has occurred from me." Then he (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Did you do that?" I replied, "Yes, I am guilty of it." Then he (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "O Salamah! Did this act occur from you?" I replied, "Yes, such an act has occurred from me, and O Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), I am present and patient upon Allah's command, so whatever Allah's command is, decide about me." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Then free a slave." Sayyiduna Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I struck my hand on my neck and said, "By Him Who sent you with the truth, I do not own any neck except this one." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Then feed sixty poor people with a wasq of dates." I said, "By Him Who sent you with the truth, we spent the last night without eating anything (i.e., we are so needy, so how can we feed the poor and needy)?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Go to the one who collects charity from Banu Zurayq, he will give you something. Feed sixty poor people from it, and whatever remains, eat it yourself and feed your family." Sayyiduna Salamah bin Sakhr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I went to my tribe and said to them, "I found constriction and bad opinion with you, whereas with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) I found ease and good opinion, and he (peace and blessings be upon him) has ordered me to give charity to you."
