صحیح ابن حبان
Ibn Hibban
كتاب الحظر والإباحةBook of Prohibitions and Permissions
باب اللعن - ذكر الزجر للنساء عن إكثار اللعن وإكفار العشير-
Chapter on Cursing – Warning women against excessive cursing and ingratitude to their husbands
Hadith 5744
أَخْبَرَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ سُفْيَانَ ، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى الذُّهْلِيُّ ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي مَرْيَمَ ، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرِ بْنِ أَبِي كَثِيرٍ ، أَخْبَرَنِي زَيْدُ بْنُ أَسْلَمَ ، عَنْ عِيَاضِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ، عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ ، قَالَ : خَرَجَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي أَضْحًى ، أَوْ فِطْرٍ إِلَى الْمُصَلَّى ، فَصَلَّى ثُمَّ انْصَرَفَ ، فَقَامَ ، فَوَعَظَ النَّاسَ وَأَمَرَهُمْ بِالصَّدَقَةِ ، قَالَ : " أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ ، تَصَدَّقُوا " ، ثُمَّ انْصَرَفَ ، فَمَرَّ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ فَقَالَ : " يَا مَعْشَرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ ، فَإِنِّي أَرَاكُنَّ أَكْثَرَ أَهْلِ النَّارِ " ، فَقُلْنَ : وَلِمَ ذَلِكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ؟ قَالَ : " تُكْثِرْنَ اللَّعْنَ ، وَتَكْفُرْنَ الْعَشِيرَ ، مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنَ نَاقِصَاتِ عَقْلٍ وَدِينٍ أَذْهَبَ لِلُبِّ الرَّجُلِ الْحَازِمِ مِنْ إِحْدَاكُنَّ ، يَا مَعْشَرَ النِّسَاءِ " ، فَقُلْنَ لَهُ : مَا نُقْصَانُ دِينِنَا وَعَقْلِنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ؟ قَالَ : " أَلَيْسَ شَهَادَةُ الْمَرْأَةِ مِثْلَ نِصْفِ شَهَادَةِ الرَّجُلِ ؟ " قُلْنَ : بَلَى ، قَالَ : " فَذَاكَ نُقْصَانُ عَقْلِهَا ، أَوَ لَيْسَتْ إِذَا حَاضَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ لَمْ تُصَلِّ وَلَمْ تَصُمْ ؟ " قُلْنَ : بَلَى ، قَالَ : " فَذَاكَ نُقْصَانُ دِينِهَا " . ثُمَّ انْصَرَفَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فَلَمَّا صَارَ إِلَى مَنْزِلِهِ ، جَاءَتْ زَيْنَبُ امْرَأَةُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ تَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَيْهِ ، فَقِيلَ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، هَذِهِ زَيْنَبُ تَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَيْكَ ، فَقَالَ : " أَيُّ الزَّيَانِبِ ؟ " قِيلَ : امْرَأَةُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ ، قَالَ : " نَعَمْ ، ائْذَنُوا لَهَا " ، فَأُذِنَ لَهَا ، فَقَالَتْ : يَا نَبِيَّ اللَّهِ ، إِنَّكَ أَمَرْتَنَا الْيَوْمَ بِالصَّدَقَةِ ، وَكَانَ عِنْدِي حُلِيٌّ ، فَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَتَصَدَّقَ ، فَزَعَمَ ابْنُ مَسْعُودٍ أَنَّهُ وَوَلَدَهُ أَحَقُّ مَنْ تَصَدَّقَتْ بِهِ عَلَيْهِمْ ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " صَدَقَ ، زَوْجُكِ ، وَوَلَدُكِ أَحَقُّ مَنْ تَصَدَّقْتِ بِهِ عَلَيْهِمْ " .
Sayyiduna Abu Sa'id Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) went towards the Eid ground on the occasion of Eid al-Adha or Eid al-Fitr. He (peace be upon him) performed the prayer, then after finishing the prayer, he (peace be upon him) stood up and, while advising and exhorting the people, instructed them to give charity. He (peace be upon him) said: O people, give charity. Then he (peace be upon him) turned from there and went towards the women. He (peace be upon him) said: O group of women, give charity, for I have seen that the majority of the inhabitants of Hell are you women. The women asked: O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)! What is the reason for this? The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. O group of women, I have not seen any creature more deficient in intelligence and religion who can take away the sense of a wise and experienced man than you. The women asked the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)! What is the deficiency in our intelligence and religion? The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) asked: Is not the testimony of a woman half that of a man? The women replied: Yes. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: This is due to the deficiency in her intelligence. When a woman menstruates, does she not leave off prayer and fasting? The women replied: Yes. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: This is the deficiency in her religion. Then the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) turned from there and proceeded towards his house. The wife of Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him), Sayyidah Zainab (may Allah be pleased with her), sought permission to enter upon the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). It was said in the service of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)! Sayyidah Zainab (may Allah be pleased with her) wishes to enter. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: Which Zainab? He (peace be upon him) was told: The wife of Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him). The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: Yes, let this woman enter. She was given permission to enter. She said: O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)! Today you have instructed us to give charity. I have some jewelry and I intended to give it in charity, but Abdullah bin Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) thinks that he and his children are more deserving of it. Should I give this jewelry to them in charity? The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: He has spoken the truth; your husband and your children are more deserving of it, so give it to them in charity.
