صحیح ابن حبان
Ibn Hibban
كتاب النكاحBook of Marriage
- باب معاشرة الزوجين - ذكر استحباب الاجتهاد للمرأة في قضاء حقوق زوجها بترك الامتناع عليه فيما أحب
Chapter: Marital relations – Recommending that a woman strive to fulfill her husband’s rights by not refusing him
Hadith 4171
أَخْبَرَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ عَلِيِّ بْنِ الْمُثَنَّى ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ الْمُقَدَّمِيُّ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدَ ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ ، عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ الشَّيْبَانِيِّ ، عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي أَوْفَى ، قَالَ : لَمَّا قَدِمَ مُعَاذُ بْنُ جَبَلٍ مِنَ الشَّامِ سَجَدَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " مَا هَذَا ؟ " ، قَالَ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، قَدِمْتُ الشَّامَ فَرَأَيْتُهُمْ يَسْجُدُونَ لِبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ ، وَأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ ، فَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ بِكَ ، قَالَ : " فَلا تَفْعَلْ ، فَإِنِّي لَوْ أَمَرْتُ شَيْئًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِشَيْءٍ ، لأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا ، وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لا تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ رَبِّهَا حَتَّى تُؤَدِّيَ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا حَتَّى لَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعْهُ " .
Ibn Abu Awfa narrates: When Sayyiduna Mu'adh bin Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) returned from Syria, he prostrated before the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: What is this? He replied: O Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)! I went to Syria and saw that people there prostrate before their elders and religious leaders, so I intended to do the same with you. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Do not do this. If I were to command anyone to prostrate before another, I would have commanded a woman to prostrate before her husband. By Him in Whose hand is my soul, a woman cannot fully fulfill the right of her Lord until she fulfills the right of her husband, to the extent that if a man demands intimacy from his wife while she is on a saddle, she should not refuse him.
