It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, that he said: A man came to the service of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and said: O Messenger of Allah! I have some relatives. I maintain ties with them, but they sever relations with me. I treat them well, but they treat me badly. They behave ignorantly (quarrel) with me, and I deal with them with patience and forbearance. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "If it is as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot ashes into their mouths. And as long as you remain in this state, a helper from Allah against them will always be with you."