سنن نسائي
Sunan an-Nasa'i
كتاب النكاح
The Book of Marriage
بَابُ : خِطْبَةِ الرَّجُلِ إِذَا تَرَكَ الْخَاطِبُ أَوْ أَذِنَ لَهُ
Chapter: Proposing Marriage When The Other Suitor Gives Up The Idea Or Gives Permission
Hadith 3245
أَخْبَرَنِي إِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ الْحَسَنِ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا الْحَجَّاجُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ ، قَالَ : قَالَ : ابْنُ جُرَيْجٍ , سَمِعْتُ نَافِعًا يُحَدِّثُ , أَنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ بْنَ عُمَرَ ، كَانَ يَقُولُ : " نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنْ يَبِيعَ بَعْضُكُمْ عَلَى بَيْعِ بَعْضٍ ، وَلَا يَخْطُبُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ الرَّجُلِ ، حَتَّى يَتْرُكَ الْخَاطِبُ قَبْلَهُ ، أَوْ يَأْذَنَ لَهُ الْخَاطِبُ " .
´'Abdullah bin 'Amr used to say:` "The Messenger of Allah forbade offering more for something that has already been bought by his brother, or for a man to propose marriage to a woman when someone else has already proposed to her, unless the previous suitor gave up the idea or gave him permission."
Hadith 3246
أَخْبَرَنِي حَاجِبُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا حَجَّاجٌ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي ذِئْبٍ ، عَنْ الزُّهْرِيِّ ، وَيَزِيدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ قُسَيْطٍ , عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ ، وَعَنِ الْحَارِثِ بن عبد الرحمن , عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ ثَوْبَانَ ، أَنَّهُمَا سَأَلَا فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ قَيْسٍ ، عَنْ أَمْرِهَا ؟ فَقَالَتْ : طَلَّقَنِي زَوْجِي ثَلَاثًا ، فَكَانَ يَرْزُقُنِي طَعَامًا فِيهِ شَيْءٌ فَقُلْتُ : وَاللَّهِ لَئِنْ كَانَتْ لِي النَّفَقَةُ وَالسُّكْنَى لَأَطْلُبَنَّهَا وَلَا أَقْبَلُ هَذَا فَقَالَ الْوَكِيلُ : لَيْسَ لَكِ سُكْنَى وَلَا نَفَقَةٌ , قَالَتْ : فَأَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لَهُ ، فَقَالَ : " لَيْسَ لَكِ سُكْنَى وَلَا نَفَقَةٌ ، فَاعْتَدِّي عِنْدَ فُلَانَةَ ، قَالَتْ : وَكَانَ يَأْتِيهَا أَصْحَابُهُ ، ثُمَّ قَالَ : اعْتَدِّي عِنْدَ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ ، فَإِنَّهُ أَعْمَى ، فَإِذَا حَلَلْتِ فَآذِنِينِي ، قَالَتْ : فَلَمَّا حَلَلْتُ آذَنْتُهُ ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " وَمَنْ خَطَبَكِ ؟ " فَقُلْتُ : مُعَاوِيَةُ وَرَجُلٌ آخَرُ مِنْ قُرَيْشٍ ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " أَمَّا مُعَاوِيَةُ ، فَإِنَّهُ غُلَامٌ مِنْ غِلْمَانِ قُرَيْشٍ لَا شَيْءَ لَهُ وَأَمَّا الْآخَرُ ، فَإِنَّهُ صَاحِبُ شَرٍّ لَا خَيْرَ فِيهِ ، وَلَكِنْ انْكِحِي أُسَامَةَ بْنَ زَيْدٍ " ، قَالَتْ : فَكَرِهْتُهُ ، فَقَالَ لَهَا ذَلِكَ ثَلَاثَ مَرَّاتٍ ، فَنَكَحَتْهُ .
´It was narrated from Muhammad bin 'Abdur-Rahman bin Thawban that they asked Fatimah bint Qais about her story and she said:` "My husband divorced me three times, and he used to provide me with food that was not good." She said: "By Allah, if I were entitled to maintenance and accommodation I would demand them and I would not accept this." The deputy said: "You are not entitled to accommodation or maintenance." She said: "I came to the Prophet and told him about that, and he said: 'You are not entitled to accommodation nor maintenance; observe your 'Iddah in the house of so-and-so.' She said: 'His Companions used to go to her.' Then he said: 'Observe your 'Iddah in the house of Ibn Umm Maktum, who is blind, and when your 'Iddah is over, let me know.'" She said: "When my 'Iddah was over, I let him know. The Messenger of Allah said: 'Who has proposed marriage to you?' I said: 'Mu'awiyah and another man from the Quraish.' He said: 'As for Mu'awiyah, he is a boy among the Quraish and does not have anything, and as for the other he is a bad man with no goodness in him. Rather you should marry Usamah bin Zaid.'" She said: "I did not like the idea." But he said that to her three times so she married him.
