سنن نسائي
Nasai
كتاب عشرة النساءThe Book of the Kind Treatment of Women
بَابُ : حُبِّ الرَّجُلِ بَعْضَ نِسَائِهِ أَكْثَرَ مِنْ بَعْضٍChapter: When A Man Loves One Of His Wives More Than Another
Hadith 3396
اُردوEn
أَخْبَرَنِي عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ سَعْدِ بْنِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ بْنِ سَعْدٍ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا عَمِّي ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي ، عَنْ صَالِحٍ ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ ، قَالَ : أَخْبَرَنِي مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ هِشَامٍ ، أَنَّ عَائِشَةَ ، قَالَتْ : أَرْسَلَ أَزْوَاجُ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , فَاسْتَأْذَنَتْ عَلَيْهِ وَهُوَ مُضْطَجِعٌ مَعِي فِي مِرْطِي ، فَأَذِنَ لَهَا ، فَقَالَتْ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ , إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَكَ أَرْسَلْنَنِي إِلَيْكَ يَسْأَلْنَكَ الْعَدْلَ فِي ابْنَةِ أَبِي قُحَافَةَ , وَأَنَا سَاكِتَةٌ ، فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " أَيْ بُنَيَّةُ , أَلَسْتِ تُحِبِّينَ مَنْ أُحِبُّ ؟ " . قَالَتْ : بَلَى . قَالَ : " فَأَحِبِّي هَذِهِ " . فَقَامَتْ فَاطِمَةُ حِينَ سَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , فَرَجَعَتْ إِلَى أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , فَأَخْبَرَتْهُنَّ بِالَّذِي قَالَتْ وَالَّذِي قَالَ لَهَا ، فَقُلْنَ لَهَا : مَا نَرَاكِ أَغْنَيْتِ عَنَّا مِنْ شَيْءٍ , فَارْجِعِي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقُولِي لَهُ : إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَكَ يَنْشُدْنَكَ الْعَدْلَ فِي ابْنَةِ أَبِي قُحَافَةَ . قَالَتْ فَاطِمَةُ : لَا وَاللَّهِ , لَا أُكَلِّمُهُ فِيهَا أَبَدًا . قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ : فَأَرْسَلَ أَزْوَاجُ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتَ جَحْشٍ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَهِيَ الَّتِي كَانَتْ تُسَامِينِي مِنْ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي الْمَنْزِلَةِ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , وَلَمْ أَرَ امْرَأَةً قَطُّ خَيْرًا فِي الدِّينِ مِنْ زَيْنَبَ , وَأَتْقَى لِلَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ , وَأَصْدَقَ حَدِيثًا , وَأَوْصَلَ لِلرَّحِمِ , وَأَعْظَمَ صَدَقَةً , وَأَشَدَّ ابْتِذَالًا لِنَفْسِهَا فِي الْعَمَلِ الَّذِي تَصَدَّقُ بِهِ , وَتَقَرَّبُ بِهِ مَا عَدَا سَوْرَةً مِنْ حِدَّةٍ كَانَتْ فِيهَا تُسْرِعُ مِنْهَا الْفَيْئَةَ , فَاسْتَأْذَنَتْ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , وَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَعَ عَائِشَةَ فِي مِرْطِهَا عَلَى الْحَالِ الَّتِي كَانَتْ دَخَلَتْ فَاطِمَةُ عَلَيْهَا , فَأَذِنَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , فَقَالَتْ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ , إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَكَ أَرْسَلْنَنِي يَسْأَلْنَكَ الْعَدْلَ فِي ابْنَةِ أَبِي قُحَافَةَ , وَوَقَعَتْ بِي فَاسْتَطَالَتْ , وَأَنَا أَرْقُبُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , وَأَرْقُبُ طَرْفَهُ هَلْ أَذِنَ لِي فِيهَا فَلَمْ تَبْرَحْ زَيْنَبُ حَتَّى عَرَفْتُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا يَكْرَهُ أَنْ أَنْتَصِرَ , فَلَمَّا وَقَعْتُ بِهَا لَمْ أَنْشَبْهَا بِشَيْءٍ حَتَّى أَنْحَيْتُ عَلَيْهَا ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " إِنَّهَا ابْنَةُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ " .
‘Umm al-Mu’minin Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) says that the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sent Fatimah, the daughter of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). She sought permission from him while you were lying with me under a sheet. You gave her permission. She said: O Messenger of Allah! Your wives have sent me to you; they are demanding justice from you regarding the daughter of Abu Quhafah (Aisha), and I am silent. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her): O my daughter! Do you not love whom I love? She said: Why not! He said: Then love her too. When Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) heard this from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), she got up and returned to the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and told them everything that she had said to him and what he had said to her. They all said: We do not think you have accomplished our task; go again to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and say: Your wives appeal to you for justice regarding the daughter of Abu Quhafah. Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: No, by Allah! I will never speak to you about them again. Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) says: Now the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sent Zaynab bint Jahsh to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and Zaynab was the only one among the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who had a status equal to mine in the sight of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). I have never seen a woman better in matters of religion, more God-fearing, more truthful in speech, more upholding of kinship, more generous in giving charity, more self-effacing in acts of charity and seeking nearness to Allah than Zaynab, except that she was quick-tempered, but her anger would quickly subside. So she sought permission from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was with Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) under the sheet just as he was when Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) had come to him. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) gave her permission. She said: O Messenger of Allah! Your wives have sent me to you because they are all demanding justice from you regarding the daughter of Abu Quhafah, and she began to speak ill of me and used harsh words. I was watching the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and his gaze was upon me, as if to see whether you would permit me to respond to her. Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her) was still there, and I realized that if I responded to her, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) would not mind. So when I spoke ill of her, I did not let her get the better of me until I surpassed her. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “She is the daughter of Abu Bakr.”
Explanation & Benefits
Hafiz Muhammad Ameen
(1) The noble wives of the Prophet had this objection against him that he loved Aisha (radi Allahu anha) more; otherwise, he would exercise complete justice in matters of turn-taking, maintenance, etc. As for heartfelt love, that is something beyond one’s control. Regarding this, there is neither any reproach from Allah nor from the general public. The noble wives, being co-wives, felt this more acutely; otherwise, there was nothing objectionable in it. (For further details, see the previous hadith: 3395.)
(2) “The daughter of Abu Quhafah”—this was said as a form of disparagement, because when the Arabs wished to express contempt for someone, they would attribute them to an obscure father. Abu Quhafah was actually the name of Abu Bakr’s (radi Allahu anhu) father, who had not yet embraced Islam at that time. Instead of attributing her to her father, she was attributed to her grandfather.
(3) “She had a rank equal to mine,” because she was from the family of the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). She was his paternal aunt’s daughter, and her marriage to him was by the command of Allah, the Exalted.
(4) “To retaliate” does not mean to use abusive language, but rather to make accusations and criticisms. Despite so much being said against her, the praise that Aisha (radi Allahu anha) gave to Zaynab (radi Allahu anha) could not have been greater, and when she mentioned her sharpness (quick temper), she immediately added that this sharpness would quickly subside. May we be sacrificed for the lofty and virtuous character of the Mother of the Believers! It was due to these qualities that the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) loved her so much. Radi Allahu anhunna wa ardahunna.
(5) “She is the daughter of Abu Bakr.” This was praise for her good character, patience, measured speech, and eloquence, which compelled Zaynab (radi Allahu anha) to fall silent. These qualities were also found in Abu Bakr (radi Allahu anhu) to the highest degree, which is why she was attributed to him; otherwise, he could have simply said, “This is Aisha.”
(6) These objections and mutual conflicts among the noble wives occurred in the early period. As they continued to benefit from the company of Prophethood, their hearts were purified and adorned; thus, thereafter, they never objected to him, nor made any demands, nor did any mutual conflict remain. Radi Allahu anhunna wa ardahunna.
(2) “The daughter of Abu Quhafah”—this was said as a form of disparagement, because when the Arabs wished to express contempt for someone, they would attribute them to an obscure father. Abu Quhafah was actually the name of Abu Bakr’s (radi Allahu anhu) father, who had not yet embraced Islam at that time. Instead of attributing her to her father, she was attributed to her grandfather.
(3) “She had a rank equal to mine,” because she was from the family of the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). She was his paternal aunt’s daughter, and her marriage to him was by the command of Allah, the Exalted.
(4) “To retaliate” does not mean to use abusive language, but rather to make accusations and criticisms. Despite so much being said against her, the praise that Aisha (radi Allahu anha) gave to Zaynab (radi Allahu anha) could not have been greater, and when she mentioned her sharpness (quick temper), she immediately added that this sharpness would quickly subside. May we be sacrificed for the lofty and virtuous character of the Mother of the Believers! It was due to these qualities that the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) loved her so much. Radi Allahu anhunna wa ardahunna.
(5) “She is the daughter of Abu Bakr.” This was praise for her good character, patience, measured speech, and eloquence, which compelled Zaynab (radi Allahu anha) to fall silent. These qualities were also found in Abu Bakr (radi Allahu anhu) to the highest degree, which is why she was attributed to him; otherwise, he could have simply said, “This is Aisha.”
(6) These objections and mutual conflicts among the noble wives occurred in the early period. As they continued to benefit from the company of Prophethood, their hearts were purified and adorned; thus, thereafter, they never objected to him, nor made any demands, nor did any mutual conflict remain. Radi Allahu anhunna wa ardahunna.
Source: Sunan Nasa'i: Translation and Benefits by Shaykh Hafiz Muhammad Amin Hafizullah, Page: 3396
